(Closed) Would you move away from home for your SO?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you move away from your home/family/job to be with your SO without a formal commitment?
    Yes : (10 votes)
    42 %
    No : (14 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I moved to be with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years, but I only moved 4 hrs from my home state. Personally, i wouldn’t feel comfortable moving across an ocean without a ring on my finger, and especially not if I would be leaving job security behind. I think you are asking different questions. Yes, I would absolutely move to be with my boyfriend without a commitment, but No, I would not move to a different country to be with him without a commitment. I think those are totally different ballgames.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1280 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I see you just posted this and I am speaking from my own experience, you will ultimately make your own decision, but I am in agreement with your mother and your friends.  I would not leave everything I had here to travel half way across the world without some sort of commitment, especially since you have so much to lose.  Yes love is a great and beautiful thing, but it’s not a guarantee of happiness and stability.  Again this is my own personal opinion, I wish you good luck in whatever decision you make.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6249 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Sounds exciting but personally I couldn’t do it.  I’d need him to show me that he is serious about committing to me for the rest of his life before I could drop everything and follow him across the world.  That would be too unstable of a situation for me.

    Post # 6
    Member
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    While 25 seems almost like the perfect age to travel and do something adventurous like this, the idea of having to work out visas and having to go back and forth seems rather daunting and giving up a job that you love in the hopes that maybe you’ll be able to find something there seems scary. If if was only one of those two things, like you had a secure job in Paris, but the visa problem was an issue, or you weren’t sure about a job, but it would be in like Chicago or LA or something, I’d probably say it’s worth it.

    A friend of mine wanted her to move with him when he got a teaching position in a small town in Vermont. She would have not only left all of her family, friends, and job, but moved to the middle of smalltown nowhere where he was her only support system. Things didn’t work out with him, but I can’t imagine what would have happened if she had moved. At least if she was moving to a larger city, she could have made the best of it and had more opportunities.

    And Paris is a huge city and I’m not saying that anything will happen between you two, but it is in another country and you’re not a citizen and that makes for too many complications for my liking.

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