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FI and myself do not drink. Not that we mind others drinking (We are by no means prudes, we are fairly laid back.).
We don't like the taste, FI is mildly allergic, we grew up with alcoholics in our immediate families, we think it's a waste of money and there are still alcoholics in both of our families that would be present at the wedding.
Would it really bother you not to have alcohol if you came to our wedding, knowing what you've read above?
(There would be tons of drink and food options. As well as a taco bar, nacho bar, tons of sweets/treats, munchies, etc.)
If there are alcoholics in your family, then you definitely made the right choice. You do not want anyone to ruin your day... not worth the risk. Who cares what other people think?
I personally would rather have alcohol at a wedding that I attended, but if I loved the two people getting married then I would be happy just to be there celebrating with them!
It wouldn't bother me at all, especially if I knew about your families. I think not having alcohol is probably for the best in your situation.
I just have to say, with or without alcohol, your wedding sounds like it will be a blast with the taco and nacho bars!
I would definitely go! I don't believe that you need alcohol to have a great time at a wedding, and I am sure that your guests will feel the same way.
we dont drink alcohol either so i vote i wouldnt mind and your food stations sound super yummy btw
Not drinking is a personal and healthy choice I respect very much. ! DH does not drink and it is a wonderful thing. I can have fun without any drug or alcohol. Just be aware some people might still "sneak" some in- depending on your crowd.
@cbee:That is my only concern. We are hoping to buy a house before the wedding and have it there. So I'm not TOO worried about the possiblity of a few flasks around.
I would never not attend someone's wedding (or any other function for that matter) if they werent serving alcohol. Would I be a little bummed? Yes. But I would get over it in about .02 seconds and proceed to have a great time! If someone is only coming to your wedding based on whether or not you have alcohol then it doesnt matter if they show up at all...
It wouldn't bother me at all! I tend to think that someone who stays away from a wedding just because it's dry probably has a bit of a drinking problem. Your wedding will be tons of fun and you won't have to deal with any booze-related drama, which is a plus! I'm already worrying about my alcholic BFF going on a rampage at mine (I fully intend to call the cops in him if he gets out of control, haha)
people forget that while yes, you should be attentive of hospitality, this is your shindig. have a vegan buffet, play polka music, wear clown shoes--it's a day to celebrate YOU and if you're not drinkers, so be it. if you don't want alcohol, then people can either show up and shut up or stay home.
(and really, if you can't have a good time without a drink, you have problems).
I personally much prefer to have alcohol at weddings but if the couple chooses to not offer it then that's their decision. It won't stop me from attending but I probably wouldn't have as good of a time than if I had a few cocktails in me.
@jo.lee:Ha, thanks! FI really wants to somehow create a nacho cheese fountain (ya know, instead of a chocolate fountain). I know it's terribly tacky; but if that's what he wants I don't mind it. And I can blame it all on him if everyone hates it, HA!
I'm a pastry chef/baker/cake decorator/what-have-you so I'll be making the wedding cake and all the desserts. If we end up having the wedding at our house; I'm going to ask my Aunts, sisters, FMIL and Mom to help me cook everything and just have a big taco/nacho bar with potluck option for anyone that wishes to bring something along.
We are going to be getting a keg of good rootbeer; instead of regular beer. A bit of a twist; but kind of fun.
Have you been peeking at my wedding planning?? I'm having a vegan buffet and playing polka music in my clown shoes! Stop stealing my ideas!!
jk
OP - As you posed the question, knowing all of those things I wouldn't be upset at all. If I didn't know any of those things I might be a little bummed as I love wine with dinner but so what? I'm there for your wedding and I'd get over the alcohol situtation!
I would definitely attend a wedding without alcohol, and I am a drinker. I think you just need to be prepared for less dancing than a lot of other weddings, as I know many of my friends will not dance without some drinks. Though, those are my friends and not yours, so you never know!
agree w/ many posters above.
i would prefer it but its not necessary. plus, it costs so much money!!! i wish we could skip it. haha.
I would definitely attend - all three of the weddings I've been in were "dry". I will say though that the couples understood that most people would probably not stick around for dancing, but your food choices (awesome!) sound fun enough to get people moving around.
@ktk: The cheese fountain sounds epic. You should totally do it!
invitation's in the mail. I also put registry cards in it, since I know everyone loves that :)
I wouldn't have a problem attending a wedding with no alcohol. You can have a fabulous time without alcohol and its all about celebrating the couple. At least they don't have to worry about a guest getting too carried away and ruining their evening. I've been to a wedding where guests were so intoxicated, they got sick right on the dance floor. Plus I think thats an admirable decision, knowing that you have alcoholics in the family. Your keg of rootbeer sounds fabulous, as well as your food ideas!
@luckyprincess:Don't forget the one-liner at the end of the invitation, "No Kids ALLOWED!"
Being pregnant 4 times between ages 19 and 28, I've been to many weddings where I couldn't imbibe. Didn't bother me one bit to have punch, lemonade, or water.
I'm doing the same thing for the same reasons. FH doesn't have alcoholics in his family but I do so we will be alcohol free at the wedding.
@BanditGirl:We are planning to do it on or around Halloween. So we'll have green slime lemonade with floating eyeballs in it, blood red shirley temple's, blue mystery punch with fake flies in the ice cubes, water, iced tea, soda, etc. (With hot tea, coffee, hot chocolate for during/after trick or treat-ing.) (And sparkling cider for the toast.)
I've never been to a wedding without alcohol, but it wouldn't bother me. I don't go to weddings to drink alcohol. And usually I only drink one or two alcoholic beverages anyway.
Honestly, I'd be more than a little bummed. But, I'd still have fun and after all, I'd be there to celebrate your marriage, not to drink.
I enjoy an adult beverage or two (or more) at weddings but it's not a deal breaker if I care about the couple. FI's cousin's wedding was a dessert reception with no alcohol. We didn't have a lot of fun but it was more the fact that were was no music/dancing than the lack of alcohol.
My wedding has no alcohol. I dont drink alcohol at all. I never even notice if there is alcohol or not, except if people are louder than usual because they are drunk
My husband and I don't drink, so obviously it would be no big deal. But I do know my friends would be a little pissed about it. Personally, I don't think you should go to a wedding for a free drink, you should go to celebrate the couple getting married.... but my friends have flat out said they go for an open bar. So I think it depends on your crowd.
It seems like you made the best choice for you. A wedding is a celebration of two people pledging their love for each other, it has nothing to do with alcohol. so of course, i would attend a wedding, sans alcohol, afterall, the whole point is to be there for the couple, not for a drink
I think if it helps cut down on the drama, it might cut down on your guest list. Speaking as one who dreads the open bar because of all the recovering alcoholics in my family ... this may the way to cut down on the guest list anyway!
It would NOT bother us at all.
And if someone actually had to think about whether they would go to your wedding or not due to no alochol being provided maybe they should not come at all!
As many many others said, you don't need it! If you were my friend/family member, I'd go. I don't go to a wedding to have a drink, I go to support the couple! My best friend and her hubby didn't have it at their reception (for the same reasons as you), and I don't think anyone didn't go because of it. I don't see a reason to go through the trouble to have something you don't even like at your wedding, ya know? It's about you and I'm sure your loved ones will still want to party with you!
@ktk: Your wedding sounds so yummy. I bet people wont' even notice the lack of alcohol!
We didn't have a completely dry wedding, but we only had a champagne toast. We chose not to serve alcohol for a number of reasons:
1) We rarely drink.
2) My FIL and one of the groomsmen are recovering alcoholics. Although I have no doubt they would be able to abstain, as it's been several years since either of them have had a drink...
3)...but the Best Man is just starting down the recovery road. As recently as my husband's bachelor party (2 weekends before the wedding), he was getting obnoxiously trashed. He ruined the night for my husband by starring in what I call the "Drunken Ian Show". Frankly, my husband thought long and hard about having his brother be Best Man instead. He quit drinking after that night, and a long, pissed off phone call from me, but we didn't want to tempt him.
We did let our friends (those most likely to want to drink) know beforehand, and I know several of them brought flasks, or had some drinks before they came, and that was fine with us. I actually took a swig or two from one of the flasks. Most of them knew why we weren't having alcohol, and no one minded.
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