Post # 1
When we got engaged, my husband was at a much different place financially than he is now. I suggested we use my grandmother’s engagement ring so that we could have a ring but not add any financial burden. We agreed that he would get me the ring I really wanted later when we could afford it.
I love that my grandmother’s ring is sentimental. But, it’s not what I would have picked and looks a bit odd as it is a tiny diamond and I have very long fingers. It looks disproportionate.
We’ve been married just over a year now and we’re at the point now where we can afford the engagement ring I want and my husband wants to buy it for me for Christmas. We’re both very excited about it. My natural instinct is to not say anything to my friends. We’re both private people and don’t like to make a big deal out of things like this.
But, I’m wondering if friends will suddenly notice a new ring and think it’s odd if there’s not explanation. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say anything – there’s no need to.
If anyone mentions it, just say DH bought you a new ring and talk about how much you love it. No need to explain that the old one was your gma’s, etc…
EDIT: I tried to answer your poll, but realized that none of the answers fit. For my close friends, I’d definitely notice a new ring…. and I’d imagine the conversation would go something like this:
“What happened to your ring?”
“DH got me this new one, isn’t it pretty”
“YES! I love it!!! That’s wonderful! He’s so thoughtful”
Post # 4
I said yes, but I wouldn’t think anything of it with the caveat that I would only notice if it was a really good friend. Otherwise, I don’t really pay attention to what peoples engagement rings look like 🙂
Post # 5
I would notice but I’d only say something if it was one of my best friends. I don’t think upgrading later is all that uncommon at all, I can’t imagine most people would say anything.
Post # 6
@oracle:Thanks! I edited the poll.
Post # 7
I think I would notice with my closest friend – we’ve discussed rings a great deal and hers is pretty unique. I would also notice with the friends of mine who have non-diamond rings – I’m more observant with those because it’s what I have, plus different colors are more memorable.
But I am a total airhead when it comes to jewelry. If someone went from one diamond ring to another, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t notice at all.
Post # 8
I would notice and it would make me curious, but not bad curious. More of an excited curious.
Post # 9
I’m sure I would notice and might comment on how lovely the ring is.
Post # 10
I probably would not notice unless the old ring was very distinctive and eye-catching. And if someone does, so what?
Post # 11
I would notice and give a compliment.
Post # 12
Thanks ladies for reassuring me! I guess I’m self-consciuos because I don’t want people to think that I’m not grateful for the original ring.
Post # 13
I would notice but be excited for them & the new bling!
Post # 14
I wouldn’t say anything and I don’t really know if people will notice unless your going from like a .5 ct ring to a 4 ct stone (I know someone who did this. You can’t not notice a ring like that).
Your friends don’t need explaining to and I agree it’s personal. If they ask then I would say the truth, but otherwise leave it as is. DH and I are private people as well and feel people don’t need to know our personal information unless it is something that will influence them directly.