- Mrs. Mary Jane
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Maybe this is a question for pros, and those who enjoy photography as a hobby. It’s kind of a rant too.
Here’s my situation.
First part: (This is hard to write, it sounds like I’m bragging, and I hate that!) I am a pretty good photographer/photoshopper, I guess. I take decent photos of things and people. (I added some examples below just for fun). I have a decent digital SLR camera with a couple of lenses. (Bf has one too – it’s a hobby we share.) I’ve been told by various people that I have an eye for composition. A friend of mine has a wedding photo of their cake cutting that I took from the audience with a point and shoot on her mantle, not one of the thousands her photog provided them with.
Second part: I believe that photography is the most important part of a wedding aside from the marriage and the celebration with friends/family. After the wedding, all you have left are the marriage, friends and family, and the pictures to serve as memories of a beautiful day. When I was married before, my photographer ‘friendor’, though he was a pro, didn’t do that good of a job (IMO). I was disappointed in the photos. I had trouble even finding one to make a good framable print from. And though I never said anything to the photog about my disappointment, I felt bad about it; I kind of resented the photographer. (Especially since so many other weddings shot by this photog have had beautiful photos.) Partially it’s my fault though. At the time, I didn’t even know what a "must have shots" list was. So he didn’t know what I wanted, and I just expected him to take awesomely perfect shots. AAAANYWAY, this is a big reason that every time a "how important is photography" type of post comes up in the boards, I’m all about OMG IT IS SO IMPORTANT to have a GOOD PHOTOGRAPHER!
About 2 months ago, the man’s female relative asked if I’d take photos at her wedding in August. Like, to be the wedding photographer. On one hand, I LOVE weddings. I was thrilled to get to do this, because generally I just shoot from off to the side, over people’s heads, etc. But I didn’t want to disappoint her. I went on my "OMG PHOTOGRAPHY IS SO IMPORTANT" rant (that you just got a taste of above) and told her I’d hate to eff up her wedding photos and have her resenting me forever. So basically I said I’d take photos, but I still thought she ought to look in to a pro. I didn’t even consider that maybe a pro isn’t in the budget for them, or (even more crazy), that I might actually do a good job.
Then last night a life-long friend emailed me and wanted to know if I’d shoot her brother’s wedding coming up in May. Basically I think they want just family formals and such, but still. I have shot photos for this friend’s business too. I’m sure that the brother and his fiance have a limited budget too (they’re a young couple, younger than the man and I, and *I* certainly have a limited budget!)… so they probably don’t want to pay $2000-$5000 for a pro photographer. Since this family has been like a second family to me, I accepted. Family formals… I can handle that. Extra artsy shots I take on the side? Those will be bonuses for this couple. I’m actually kind of excited about it, but also nervous.
Of course, then I had to email my man’s relative again about her august wedding…
All of this is so new to me. I never considered being a pro photographer, or being paid for my work (even though I like money as much as anyone else). And I’m so afraid to disappoint people – especially those close to me. Like what if the man’s relative hates her photos like I hated mine. I guess I could offer a new shoot, but imagine ruining someone’s WEDDING PHOTOS. It’s a horrible fear of mine.
Am I being silly? What would you do? How would you handle of the responsibility of capturing someone’s extremely important, one-time life event? How can you gaurantee that someone’s wedding photos will be what they want? Some days are just bad photo-days too. Some days I come back from taking photos, and they all just suck. The lighting, the weather, my attitude, whatever it is just causes them to suck. What if the wedding is one of THOSE days? Aaaaagggck!
Here’s a few of my photos, but might I remind you that still objects stay there. If you get a bad shot, you can take 20 more. You get a bad shot of a couple’s first married kiss, and that’s it. No do-over.
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