Would you prepare a heirloom for your child?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@gpiglet:  Maybe I’m wrong on this one, but the whole point of an heirloom is the carrying on of a person before you…not just getting a diamond that was stuck in a drawer over the years.  The charm of an heirloom ring is that someone you loved and cared about wore it, there are memories of it and in an essence, the very ring is imbued with their presence, their spirit…and now its yours and they’re always with you….

I have the ering Mr. 99 proposed with stowed away someplace safe for the man that wants to marry his daughter, but what’s special about it is that it was mine first, I married her Dad wearing it, she always loved it and someday, it will be hers, so she’ll carry that love and us with her along with the love of her husband, all on her finger.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with Nona…generally an heirloom is something a loved one wore and passed down (often after death).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

+1 to what Nona99 said. I mean, I guess at heirlooms have to start somewhere (I feel a chicken and egg argument coming on…) but really, it’s about the history of the item. I have heirloom rings from my deceased mother, but I don’t think I would have received them if she hadn’t died, so. I think a lot of heirlooms just “happen” and are not necessarily planned. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes I would, I have several pieces of jewelry that were my grandmothers.  That mean the world to me. 

I agree with the PP heirloom is something worn from a previous relative

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gpiglet:  you could buy them each a ring as a gift, but the whole purpose of an heirloom item is that it’s passed down – for example, my great-grandmother’s diamond ring which my mom currently has and my sister will eventually inherit is a family heirloom.  The birthstone ring my parents gave me for my 18th birthday isn’t (yet) but if I gave it to my grandaughter (or daughter) it could become one

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I will disagree with PP and say I think it’s really lovely that you want to buy stones for your nieces 🙂 How sweet of you. I am sure they will treasure the stones, even if they were not “worn” by you!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Nona99:  +1, My center diamond is an heirloom and is has been worn in three different generations e-rings.  I think the idea of buying your neices diamonds is lovely but you could even buy a pair of earrings or some sort of jewelry fo yourself and wear it and then pass it down.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My family doesn’t have any heirlooms, really- neither my mom nor my grandma has much in the way of jewelry, and certainly nothing valuable. So I’m planning to give my two sisters a nice piece of jewelry when they turn 18. As a PP said, heirlooms have to start somewhere. I love the idea of them passing down the jewelry to their children and grandchildren and somewhere along the line someone being able to say “My grandma’s sister gave this to her on her 18th birthday and it’s been in our family ever since!”

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

The tradition has to begin somewhere … what your inherited from your grandma, maybe she didn’t think would become a heirloom one day.

I’d like to leave something to my future nephews and nieces as well, given that I won’t have children myself. Not something I’ll buy for them, but rather something I owned (I don’t have anything right now but one day I will), hoping they will keep up with the tradition. 🙂 Unfortunately, we live in a world of extreme and quick consuming … I really hope they’ll value what they are given. 

There’s not really any heirloom anything in my family. I am really sad about that. I wished I had something from my grandmothers.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I plan to have plenty of hierlooms for any sons or daughters I have. I have no engagement quality pieces at the moment, but I have a few colored stones the will be set this coming year. However I work and am a student at the moment so I don’t have as much play money. 

But I’m still very young. By the time I reach the age where I want to have kids, and those kids become adults of a marrying age, that’s roughly 25-30 years that I have to grow a collection :P. If I’m blessed enough to have diamonds or precious stones that I no longer use as much than I’d be happy to give them to my family should they want them. They could keep the setting if its a ring or just use the stone if they don’t like the setting or its a pendant. Its not up to me to dictate how a gift is used. 

SO also has many hierlooms from his grandmother, which is what I will be getting for a ring. Unless an hierloom was completely and utterly the opposite of my tastes to the point I didn’t even want to wear it, personally I’d keep it in its original setting. That’s my favorite part about heirlooms, the rich history behind them. Looking inside the band to see an inscription or hallmark makes me feel like I’m truly a part of the family, to be allowed to own something so personal and sentimental. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

I agree with the PPs about the definition of heirloom.

However, it’s a very kind thought that you’re thinking of getting special jewelry for your nieces. That may not be “heirloom,” but it would be very special to them as well, I’m sure. I would just suggest that it NOT be for their engagement ring or a diamond for it… you don’t know what their marriage situation will be and it’s really between them and their future husband, a bit strange for auntie to buy this specific diamond for her niece. BUT! Any other jewelry would be so special I’m sure. Another ring (not for that finger)? Necklace? Bracelet? Earrings? You can’t go wrong, and whatever you give them it will be that very special gift from auntie thar that they will always cherish. It’s really a lovely idea!

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