Post # 1
Hi, I need some advice. I HATE my job, its so high stress and exhausting and I can’t get anything done in my life because I am either at work, working from home or stressed about work. The good thing ab my job is that it pays well. My Fiance makes double what I make so I am by no means the bread winner in our situation. He suggested that I quit and do something part time. The part time job I will have (its already been offered, it is at a place where I once interned) will pay a little over half of what I currently make (so still a decent salary) and I would work work M-Th 8-2:30. I would be home by 3 everyday and have off all day Friday plus my weekends. I will stay at my current job until the end of June and then quit that job and enjoy my summer/wedding/honeymoon and start the part time job in September. My Fiance pays all the bills currently. The only thing I pay is our groceries, anything dog related (bc the dog was mine before I met FI) and I have a small student loan payment. I could still pay all of these expenses, have money for things like shopping and dinners out w friends and probably still save a little. Fiance will pay all bills and still have money leftover to save. We already have a house and newish cars that are paid off so it isn’t like we are saving up for a house or anything. We are saving just to save (which I know is important). What would you do in my situation? Would you quit? (I HATE IT!!) on the one hand I know my sanity is worth the pay cut but I don’t want to feel “lazy” or like I’m “living off of a man”. Also, when we do have kids (sometime within the next 2-3 years we hope) I will quit and be a Stay-At-Home Mom anyway so I am sort of delaying the inevitable if I don’t quit now because I will later. Of course I feel like quitting bc I have a child is different than quitting bc I am unhappy. Any advice is appreciated!!
Post # 3
@Ballet513: Knowing all the details of your situation, it sounds like you are thinking it through and not being irresponsible by quitting your current job. If it is something you and your fiance are both comfortable with (and it sounds like you are), I say go for it. Being at a job you hate is really emotionally stressful (I’ve been there), so if you can afford to make less and start something new, I think you should. Leaving a job that sucks the life out of you for something you actually enjoy is SO rejuvenating and will do wonders for your mental health.
Don’t worry about “living off your man”; that is your business and no one else’s. I’d love to work part time if we could afford it!
Post # 4
It sounds like you’ve worked out the finances and talked to your fiance about it and he is on board. An awful job will suck the life out of you. Been there, done that, and I should have quit at least a year before I did.
Post # 5
IMO its much better to be happy with less money than be in a job you hate.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
As long as the part-time job was related to my field and could be put on my resume when looking for full-time work again down the road, I’d do it in a heartbeat
Post # 7
3 weeks ago, I went on stress leave at my job. One week ago I quit. I hated my job so bad. My boss was horrible and abusive. I became depressed and it started to affect my relationship with my fiancÃ©. I had no other job to go to, but everyone was telling me to quit; even my doctor. Now I am so much happier. My relationships with my fiancÃ© and friends are so much better. Now I have a full-time job of looking for a new, less-stress job. Even if I don’t find something soon, we’ll be fine financially. I hater the idea of quitting without something else to go to and living off of my fiancÃ©, but it was SO worth it. We are so much happier. It sounds like you’ve worked everything out, and I would definitely quit if I were you. Good luck! You will feel so much better!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
If I were in your shoes I would definitely quit and take the part time job after enjoying your wedding and honeymoon. However, if you have a problem with “feeling lazy” as you put it, you can also continue searching for a new full time. After you have quit this job that you hate 😉
Post # 9
I would quit. And while you are working your part time job, you would have the freedom to search for a new, better, full-time job that would make you happy! It would allow you to take a breather and give yourself some time before jumping into the full-time workplace again!
Post # 10
Do it. Honestly it sounds like a no brainer. Like PPs said, if you’re not feeling like you’re doing enough you can keep looking for another full time position but you have a perfect opportunity to keep your sanity and still pay the bills.
Post # 11
@Ballet513: Also, when we do have kids (sometime within the next 2-3 years we hope) I will quit and be a Stay-At-Home Mom anyway so I am sort of delaying the inevitable if I don’t quit now because I will later
Sounds like you’re just trying to convince yourself of what you’ve already decided. Personally, I would really really really have to hate it that much to quit.. cause I would hate to ever feel tight on money more than any job I think I could have. For me, it’d depend on how much you two are savings on his salary + your new job. If it was still a very comfortable amount, then maybe. If I felt like it wouldnt be enough, I’d suck it up to keep double my salary and sock away some more since its only 2-3 years anyways until getting to quit and be a sahm.
Post # 12
It sounds like you’re in a situation where if you do quit you won’t be struggling with money issues, which is a great thing! There are many people who wouldn’t be able to quit their jobs even if they didn’t like it. You seem to have everything sorted out with finances so I would say quit if you hate the job! I would do the same thing haha
Post # 13
Since you’ve already gotten an offer to go elsewhere I would do it! Being stressed out and unhappy is really going to take it’s toll on you emotionally, physically and mentally. You aren’t being lazy in my opinion. Even if you aren’t making as much money as the job you have now I’m sure you’ll get a raise. You’ve obviously discussed everything and agree that it would be best so you should totally go for it! You deserve the extra time to do something other than work and to actually be able to breathe. Not only that but your fiance deserves to spend time with you and deserves to see you happy. I used to work 9 hour shifts and had an hour commute each way. Sometimes I wouldn’t get home until 11:00 or 11:30 and I’d have to be up at 3:30 the next morning. I got so sick of it I walked out.
Do whatever is best for the two of you and what will make both of you happy. That’s all that matters. Good luck to you!
Post # 14
I’d go for the new job and get your life back. You only get one life, stressing over a job that doesn’t fulfill you or let you enjoy yourself and your relationships is just not worth it to me. Looks like things are lined up and you and Fiance are in agreement, so I’d leave the stressful job in June. I’d start living on the expected new salary, though, to get used to the change and to make sure it’s manageble. Best of luck in your choice!
Post # 15
Life’s too short to be so unhappy! It sounds like you two have the means for you to find something part time that you actually enjoy. 🙂
Post # 16
Thanks everybody for your feed back! i am feeling so much better about this. This job really is sucking the life out of me. Here it is Sunday night and I am DREADING tomorrow like a little kid who doesn’t want to go to school Monday morning. The part time job is a job within my field just a different aspect of it. We will still be living comfortably on FI’s salary and my part time salary. We won’t really have to cut back at all. I will have more time to shop around for deals, coupon etc though if I’m not working like a crazy person so that could help us out as well.