Would you quit?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When should I quit?
    Now! Your husband told you too and it's important for your health : (21 votes)
    22 %
    Work as long as the doctor lets you or as long as you can : (69 votes)
    73 %
    Quit in sometime in the second trimester. : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
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    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    When in doubt, I take my husbands words at face value. 🙂

    I hope you feel better soon and have an uneventful and healthy pregnancy. Congratulations!

    Post # 3
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    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Normally I would say quit immediately, but in this particular case it could really mean burning bridges since you’ve only been back for 2 months basically. If you do not intend to go back to work after baby #2 then go ahead and quit, but if you are going to need those contacts from this job, I would stick it out until the doctor says you shouldn’t work. 

    I hope your husband keeps his word and helps you this time. 

    Post # 4
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Work until the doctor says you absolutely can no longer go in, that way your husband and your job can’t say you flaked out since you’re following orders to protect yourself and your child.

    Post # 5
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d work as long as you can, given your situation and the details you posted.

    Post # 6
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you need to have an in depth conversation with your hisband about both of your expectations of you being at home. Do things like ask him which jobs bother him most about not being done so if you’re having a bad day you can make sure his dinner is ready but leave the washing or whatever he values most/least likes having to do. Make sure he understands the realities of the difficulties of being a stay at home mum with a potentially problem pregnancy and how he can support you but also discuss with him tge realities of him being the sole income etc and what ge will need from you to feel supported.  Also ensure that he understands that if you do quit that he cannot change his mind. It is until at least the new baby is here safely

    Post # 7
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    4030 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    LadySmurph:  I agree with Schatzie821:. If you’re hoping to return to work after this baby arrives, I wouldn’t quit now. I would wait until the doctor tells you you should not be working so you don’t hurt future opportunities with this employer. If you’re planning to be a SAHM, then I say go ahead. 

    I would also speak with your husband about what your role would be like if you were to quit and be home. I would be worried that his behavior may return, regardless of him feeling remorseful. As this pregnancy is high risk, you may be doing less at home even with more time. I would just want him to fully understand everything before going through what I”m sure was horrible last time. 

    Post # 9
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    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You have already quit and gotten rehired at this same job within the past few months? If I were in your shoes I would suck it up and stick it out as long as possible. This employer graciously took you back, and now you are going to walk out on them again? If you walk out again do not expect to be able to use this job as a reference for future employment. 

    Post # 10
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    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    OtterHalf:  I completely agree.  My FI had an employee that did something similar and a year later when her new propsective employer called for a reference, FI was honest and told them what happened.  I’m not sure if she got the job but bad references have a way of lingering for a long time.

    I would work as long as you’re physically able to and it looks much more legitimate having a note from your doctor instead of just saying you’re quiting again.

    Post # 11
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    1634 posts
    Bumble bee

    I personally would stick it out until the doctor said I had to quit. If you believe your husband when he says he wont revert to past behavior and you dont need the income, quit. I would have trouble believing him though, and would wait it out as long as possible.

     

    Post # 13
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    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    LadySmurph:  Personally, I would wait until your dr says you should not work as it would leave a much better reference there than just up and quitting. However, only you know how difficult it will be to tough it out for however long that may be so take everyones advice with a grain of salt. I would also have a very serious conversation with your hubby (before leaving work) about what happened last time and why and what exactly each of your responsibilities/expectations will be this time around since it will be twice as crazy with two kids instead of one =) 

    Post # 15
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    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Get what your husband said in writing and make him sign it like it’s a contract.

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