(Closed) Would you rather

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you rather just know what he plans to propose
    Yes tell me now the suspense is killing me : (35 votes)
    28 %
    I love surprises don't ruin it by telling me first : (62 votes)
    49 %
    It doesn't matter if he tells me or not If he doesn't hurry i'm gone on my walk out date : (16 votes)
    13 %
    I will wait for him forever it doesn't matter... who needs a ring : (14 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo

    I thought it was a total relief finding out what day my fiance was going to propose, personally. I found out accidentally (based on when we were scheduling a trip to visit friends; I wanted to do it after we were engaged), and though I only found out a few days before I feel like it really took away a lot of my anxiety. It was still an amazing proposal: even though I knew when it was coming, I had no idea HOW he was going to propose, and it was perfectly “us”. 

    Good luck: I know how anxious you can get when you know it’s coming but you have no idea WHEN!

    Post # 4
    309 posts
    Helper bee

    I know it’s coming and might I say, I’ve been a VERY good waiting bee, very chill and nonchalant about the whole thing since he first told me it was being made…


    but on the inside I’m like “just tell meeeeeeee!!!”” “Is it done yet?!”  “Are you going to do it immediately or wait?! Please don’t wait!!”

    Post # 5
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have a general idea of when it’ll happen and that is all he’s willing to tell me and all I’m willing to push for. It’s easy for me to forget about it if I don’t know when it’s happening. I go crazy counting down to my birthday every year; there’s no way I’d remain normal counting down to the proposal!

    Post # 6
    482 posts
    Helper bee

    even though its been 5yrs, i still want the suprise factor. i dont even know if he has a ring (hes talked about rings this yr, but thats all i know) no idea when or where. i can only gather that its a good chance it will happen over the holidays. i think knowing every detail just takes away from the proposal. 

    Post # 8
    214 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m satisfied knowing it’s gonna be fairly soon after he graduates (which is Fall 2013) so I’m hoping for my 22nd birthday (January 2014) but he said like January or February and I already have my ring (it was anniversary/ Christmas/ birthday gift and is currently a promise ring)

    Post # 9
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I picked out the ring so I want the surprise factor of the proposal!

    Post # 10
    1407 posts
    Bumble bee

    Don’t you think it will take the wind out of his sails if you know?  The proposal is about the man as much as it is the woman.  Let him have his moment.

    Post # 11
    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Ugh! I hate ruining surprises or other people who ruin the surprise for me. BUT I do catch myself trying to ask him about it. So yeah I’m a bit of a hypocrite. I’m glad though he hadn’t ruined it for me.

    Post # 12
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My SO has never surprised me with anything in our whole relationship…SO I AM REALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS!!! 

    I get so excited for everything. It is actually really exciting. I go out and we have a good time no matter what. I let him have his secrets now. Please! Please, do not tell me who you were on the phone with! (I know it was a dude)  I will not ask you about that erand you are planning to run. Yes we can go do something completely random I know you wouldn’t have wanted to do 3 months ago. 

    This is so much fun! It can happen at any time!!!

    Post # 13
    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    A timeline was important for me. I wanted to make sure we were on the same page as far as when we wanted to get married, and then when we’d want to be engaged and begin planning. I also picked out my ring. But that is all the part I want. I don’t want to know what exact day it will happen, nor how. I can wait! I want some surprise factor, especially since I’ve been so involved with everything else.

    Post # 14
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I don’t need to know when, but I just want to know if he’s picked out and bought the ring. I would feel so much less anxious if I knew he had gone that far into the process and was just waiting for the right time to pop the question. Personally I think that after 7 years he has lost his chance for a surprise, but SO loves surprises so I’m trying to be patient. I want the proposal to be exciting for him too.   

    Post # 15
    3825 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The suspense is literally killing me… I’m sure of it. He knows that I LOVE to know the details about EVERYTHING happening around me. I have no control over this and I feel like I’m just whithering away. 

    Okay, I’m being dramatic.

    The only saving grace I have is the fact that we have a wedding date and a contract on the venue. It makes it feel a little more real and less like a “thought”.

    Post # 16
    1069 posts
    Bumble bee

    I definitely want to be surprised with both the proposal and the ring, but I would like to know when it will be… doesn’t have to be the exact day or week, but knowing the month would be good. And probably cause me way less stress!

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