Post # 1
Hi Bees! I found out early on with my SO that if we got engaged I’d be getting an heirloom ring that belonged to his grandmother and was passed down. So now that I’m ready to be engaged I’m talking about weddings more with my friends and I was a bit surprised what my one friend had to say so I just wanted to see what other peoples thoughts were.
Lets call my friend ‘Sandy’. I told her about how I’ll be getting an heirloom ring and she went “Oh… Wouldn’t you rather have your very own?” and “Well maybe he can propose to you with that one and you two can go out and buy your very own ring together”.
Haha I always loved the idea of an heirloom ring… It feels to me like I’d be more special and more a part of his family. It’d be easier to give away a new ring rather than something passed down a couple of generations.
Although Sandy is the type of girl I see being very particular about the ring she has on her finger. I think I just need reassurance from other people that it’s still as special as I thought it was?
Post # 3
I love the idea of an heirloom ring! That fits my style. I have an antique ring from the early 1900s. Since my FI bought it from a jeweler, I like to believe that whoever had my ring before me had a long happy marriage! But it would be even cooler to know the real history and stories behind the ring and pass them down. Very special. Plus you can always have a wedding ring that is new and only yours.
Post # 4
Well I’m like Sandy in that I’m particular about what I like, but if you like the heirloom ring don’t second guess yourself at all! If FH had an heirloom that was my style I would be more than happy to wear it, but since I’m so picky I would probably hate it haha. He doesn’t have one in his family so no choice for us. Don’t let her ruin it for you!
Post # 5
I LOVE heirloom rings! Mine is half an heirloom ring if that makes sense? My mother had my name and birthday engraved on the inside of her wedding band and left me her ring because she no longer wears it. My mother and now DH collaborated together and had her diamond reset into my dream setting. I was stunned when I received the ring and even more thrilled when I found out that it was her diamond!I still have her wedding band and I plan on placing an amethyst or a blue sapphire in it.
Like PP have said, you can always get a new wedding band to make the ring new to you!
Post # 6
I love the idea of an heirloom ring, but I’m also super picky, so I guess it just depends on what the ring looked like.
Post # 7
Mine is new and i absolutely love that it suits my personality and tells the story of “us”. However, I am a super sentimental person – so the idea of an heirloom anything i think is soooo beautiful. We just didn’t have any such things in our families.
Instead for my sentimental things I designed my own veil and sewed on my grandmothers lace flowers and my mothers beads from their wedding gowns.
Post # 8
@Cummins59: That’s what I’m doing. FI gave me his mother’s ring with the band soldered on. I’ll be adding to it myself with a new band. I didn’t get to see the ring before he gave it to me, but he knows me very well and knows that I place a lot of sentimental value in things and would love to wear that ring. However, if you’re concerned about liking the style, ask if you can see it beforehand. If you find out it’s the most horrifying ring you’ve ever seen, discuss getting a new one or resetting the stone?
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I have an heirloom ring and I love it! There’s so much sentimentality involved, and you don’t contribute to the evil diamond industry, and it doesn’t require spending the money that could otherwise be saved for a downpayment, etc (unless you’re rich, which we aren’t!).
I’m a big fan, and anyone who would judge me on my heirloom can go suck a dick.
(Oh, and it doesn’t hurt that I really love the style of the ring.)
Post # 10
@ChelsBea: I’d much rather have an heirloom. I love vintage, I love things with history. Unfortunately, my grandmother’s ring is going to my sister and my SO’s mother was buried with hers… so I will probably have to have new.
Post # 11
I’m very picky, so I picked new and only mine, but I love the idea of heirloom rings, and I would be over the moon if my SO had an heirloom ring I could learn the history of, that I loved the setting of or was able to put in a different one. I like the sentimentality of it. My SO got a great deal from a jeweler because of a family friend, and the jeweler showed me a vintage ring, but I happened to have already fallen in love with a setting I saw online, and I had to see it in person before committing to it, but it was perfect! Technically my diamond is used, someone had traded it in for a bigger rock most likely, and I like to think that their marriage was wonderful and mine will be too. 🙂
Post # 12
@lolot: I’m not rich either, and I would rather be proposed to with something that also meant a lot to my boyfriend. Awesome you love the style!
@HonoraryNerd: That’s a good idea, asking to see the ring beforehand. I can’t say there are many styles I hate though so I think I’ll probably try to let it stay a surprise.
I think most of what caught me off-guard was someone would come off as surprised that I myself would love and be completely satisfied with an heirloom ring and would question me on it haha. Sandy’s adorable and I love her but I was like ‘Ok I guess it’s not for everyone?’.
Post # 13
@ChelsBea: I think it totally depends on the heirloom. Love it? Go for it! Don’t love it? Pick your own!
Post # 14
I think an heirloom ring is far more precious than a new ring. A new ring can be purchased. A family heirloom cannot.
Post # 15
I pretty sentimental so I would have love an heirloom ring! I think it’s really special and great to have a ring that’s been passed down through the family.
Post # 16
I feel like as long as you and FI are both happy, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks! There is nothing wrong with wanting an heirloom, and there is nothing wrong with wanting something new. Nobody should shame anyone else’s choice!