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Sorry, I'm kinda with Mrs. Bee on this one. I would rather be deaf. Sure, you might not be able to hear music, but if you ask a deaf person, you can feel it. If I were blind, I think I would just be so bored...TV, internet, it all just wouldn't be the same. Plus, I would want to see my loved ones and if I have kids it would make me crazy not being able to see their little faces. On top of it all, I'm such a visual person, so I don't know what I would do without my sight.
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I've asked myself this question before. That if I had to choose, what would it be? I'd rather be deaf than blind. Deaf...you can learn to read lips and sign language. There are just so many beautiful things in the world. I want to be able to see what I'm wearing. The blue sky, the white clouds...everything. A lot of the things I enjoy doing involve being able to see, not so much for hearing especially since I don't even listen to music. As for meaningful conversations, I can always type. I type just as fast as I talk anyway.
My SO is the same way.
As sad as it is to think about, I would rather be deaf than blind. You can still communicate by learning to talk, using sign language, reading lips, etc. so you could still have deep meaningful conversations. Plus, a lot of communication is non-verbal. Sometimes I just like to watch my hubby while he's doing his thing and he's completely oblivious to it! But just looking at him makes me want to giggle like a giddy little girl with a crush.
On a related note, my eyesight is horrible. Thank goodness for contacts and eyeglasses. Too bad I'm too chicken to go for Lasik.
Good lord! What a tough choice to think about...
I love, love, love music, so it's nearly impossible to imagine going deaf, but that being said, it is a lot safer for long term survival to be deaf rather than blind. So I would go with survival and go without music :(
Guava said the same thing I was thinking, There are so many beautiful things in the world. I would definitely rather be deaf than blind. I'm a totally visual person and get more out of seeing than I do hearing something. I just couldn't imagine not being able to see my husband's or my kids faces. I would rather be able to watch them grow up then to miss out on seeing first steps or my daughter's wedding day.
I would most defnitely want to go blind over going deaf because I could not live in a silent world! Not being able to communicate with family and friends would kill me, at least if I lost my sight I would still be able to talk and communicate with everyone around me, if you lose hearing you have a language that very few people know!
And I think living in darkness over silence would be easier to cope with because I find I often close my eyes to experience things anyways and create pictures in my mind of what I am sensing.
I certainly hope that neither ever happens to me... but I would rather be deaf than blind. I, too, am very visual and work in a visual field. I can't imagine life without that visual inspiration. And while I love music and would be really sad without it, I think it would be a lot easier to adapt to any new environment as a deaf person than a blind one. You blend into society a lot more when you're deaf. If you were blind and walking with a cane, it would be a lot more difficult to blend in.
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I would rather be deaf! I can't imagin' not seeing the world and life! I would rather see the colors, people's facial expressions, or my FI. If I was deaf I wouldn't have to listen to my boss or my mother, a perfect world :0)
I would definitely go with the majority on this one and say deaf!
So much of my life, my work, my research, depends on me being able to read. Plus, it's like my favorite thing in the world, I could live without music but not without books! If I have kids one day I can't imagine not being able to see what they look like, yikes. But I would miss the voices of my family, the sound of laughter, etc. Tough choice but interesting questions!
It's funny you bring this up, since myself & my fiance have talked about this before.
He's a musician (studying music education) and I'm an artist (studying graphic design) so I've always said I'd rather be deaf and he's always said he'd rather be blind.
The thought of me loosing my sight is the eqivilant to him loosing his hearing.
It's funny how things work out.
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This has always been an easy question for me to answer. I would rather be blind. Music is my heart and soul, and there are several things I really can't do unless I have music to do them by. If I were blind, I could learn braille so I would still be able to read, but there is no replacement for music for the deaf. I just could not live without music.
I would rather be deaf! At least I could read lips and learn sign language, being blind would be awful, I'm afraid of the dark!
Like most people on here, I'd rather be deaf. You can still see the people you love, see the places you go and experience life much easier I think rather than if you were blind. If you are blind you can't move a thing or you risk running into something and hurting yourself. You can't tell what your mother, sibling, husband/wife or even child look like without feeling their face--and even then it's hard. Since I already know sign language I would be fine with it. Of course no one ever wants to loose their hearing, but at least I would have one up. Does that sound bad? So, yes, would go with deaf if I was given a choice and had to choose.
Have you ever seen the movie Babel?
After watching the scenes of the deaf japanese girl - everything's COMPLETELY silent - I don't think I could bare the being deaf. It seems like a very isolating world.
I'd much rather be blind than deaf!
I think I would say deaf.. although I hate to think about having to choose! I am always in awe by people who are blind walking down the street or someone carrying on a conversation in sign language... they are much stronger persons than I.
Another sense that I think I would hate to lose is smell. I know it sounds weird but once your sense of smell goes, your sense of taste follows shortly after. You may be able to taste FLAVORS (sour, spice, bitter) but the yumminess we all take for granted would be no longer there. Scary.
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LOL My FI & I just had this conversation the other night, we were watching "See No Evil Hear No Evil" its a comedy with Richard Pryor and it is HILARIOUS, seriously one of the funniest movies I've ever seen!
In the movie Richard Rryor is blind & Gene Wilder is deaf, SO FUNNY! Anyways we obviously started talking about what we would rather be, and we both would rather be deaf. I took 2 years of sign language in college and interacted with deaf people often, and IMO being deaf isn't as a drastic change as being blind.
BTW I highly recommend this movie to everyone!
I would hate to lose either (ugh, though my eyesight is already freaking terrible), but I would rather be deaf. I love to draw and I can't imagine not being able to do that anymore. I would be so incredibly depressed, I think. Plus, cheesy as it sounds, the things that always stir my heart the most are beautiful views, architecture, museums...beautiful visual things. It would be awful not to have that anymore.
I've often asked myself this question...and I always come up with a different answer! I adore music, it is part of my life (a BIG part...) so losing my ability to learn new music would crush my soul.
On the other, and more practical, hand I know that it's easier to "blend" when you're deaf and certainly you have MUCH more mobility. A lot of our world truly is visual, and most of our communication is visual cues. So it would be easier to be deaf.
But I still think, that aside, that I'd prefer to always hear my life.
I'd much rather be deaf than blind. If I were deaf I could still get on WeddingBee! 
Deaf. I wouldn't even have to think about it. You could still read and write and see people faces. The thought of being blind though, terrifies me.
Oh man this is EASY for me. I would much rather be deaf. You would have to learn to read lips and do sign language... but other than that you can live a very normal life. movies and tv have subtitles. The internet is the exact same. You can email, message, chat.
If you're blind-- forgetting for a moment how much it would suck to not be able to see the beauty of the world-- it is dangerous! I can't imagine not being able to see if someone is standing in front of me. Not knowing if there is a car coming down the street. You can't drive. You can't really watch tv or movies that well, you can't play sports. The world is SO much more limited.
I'd rather be blind. No question. Even though I'm a writer, I would rather have music and hear people's voices than the ease of seeing stuff. After 21 years of feeding an overactive imagination, I'm sure I could "see" plenty in my mind. :)
Deaf!
I couldn't imagine not being able to see the worlds beauty!
I would have rather been born blind, but if I had to pick now, I would rather be deaf (because I can talk clearly, won't have that difficult learning curve.)
I'd rather be deaf. I'm a very visual person, and I love reading and colors/textures and art, especially painting and photography.
Plus, my family is full of yellers, and they give me headaches. I'd much rather communicate via written word. ;)
Deaf, I think. Even though I love music, and everything related to it, it would be much easier to see.
this is so hard im considered legally blind already and cant imagine lossing my sight but at the same time I cant imagine not hearing ugg this is so hard. I think since i have adapted to my vision problems I would rather be blind that way i can still hear my FI and music.
I would definitely rather be deaf - I read too much, use the computer too much and watch TV too much (among other things) to be blind. I think about all the things I use my eyes for and it makes me so sad to even consider ever not being able to use them again. I have learned sign language in the past and while it would stink not to be able to hear, I would certainly rather learn sign language to communicate
Don't know how I missed this post months ago?
I have always feared blindness... as I've watched my parents/grandparents age it's been terrible to see their bodies deteriorate... regardless, I'd rather see it than not. To miss the precious sight of so many of life's moments...hard to imagine for me. I'd rather be deaf than blind.
Deaf. I love music, and that would be hard to give up, but I could not get by without my sight. And I'm already really close to being legally blind! Thank God for contacts.
Definitely deaf. I can barely hear as it is. No real problems, just bad hearing. And I can never tell if music is good or not. Shows like American Idol have me stumped since I can't tell when someone is bad. My eyesight on the other hand is beyond perfect and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
FH and I talk about this kind of a lot since both of FH parents are completely blind, and we would both rather be deaf. FH is terrified of becoming blind (not that either of his parents are blind for genetic reasons), but it's still something he is always a little bit worried about. He kind of has an eye phobia in general and can't watch anything being done to eyes in movies, real life, etc. etc.
I think I have to go with Mrs. Bee here... I use my eyes way more than I use my ears... I love to read way more than I love to listen to music. ^_^
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Ok this is not wedding related in the slightest... but it would settle an argument between Mrs. Bee and myself.
I contend that most people would rather be blind than deaf. You don't have to learn Braille, and you could still go out to coffee with your friends and have deep meaningful conversations. Plus you could still listen to music!
Mrs. Bee says she'd rather be deaf than blind. Her reasons are:
- She is already partially deaf, since she has bad hearing (I can vouch for this - when we go to a cocktail party, she can't really hear anything).
- She's very visual and can't imagine not being able to see.
- Ok she didn't say this reason, but when I talk to Bee... she always likes to sit a few feet away from me and watch my face carefully. I think she really watches faces for visual cues around sincerity and honesty. So if she were blind, I could lie to her all day long and she would have no idea.
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here - everyone is different. But if you had to choose, would you rather be blind or deaf? What about your SO?