Post # 1
I think this a battle of a lot of couples face. Say one of you have the opportunity to make more money by working more hours or taking a second job, but you don’t “need” to, it’s optional. Do you or your partner take the opportunity to work extra hours despite the fact you rarely see each other as it is, or do you pass the opportunity up and spend more time at home? I’d rather see my partner on the weekends and some during the week and pass up the extra money if I didn’t “need” it. The extra time together is more valuable to me than the extra income.
Post # 3
SO has brought up getting a second job for himself a number of times, and I’m always against it. I don’t want him doing that to himself.
Post # 4
@greenidlady: I would rather him be home…SO is in the military so if he took another job that kept him from being home even more than he is…I would loose my mind!
Post # 5
@greenidlady: Nah, I wouldn’t take a part time weekend job. I would rather spend time with my SO. However, if I get a new job with future advancement that pays a lot more, and requires me to work sometimes on Saturday, I wouldn’t mind.
Post # 6
I see him just enough as is. So I’d rather he make more.
Post # 7
I would rather see him more
Post # 8
I’d rather see him more than make more money if it wasn’t that necessary anyway.
Post # 9
My FI has had 2 jobs in the past and I hated it. He talks about getting a second one again from time to time, but I always beg him not to. I didnt like what it did to him. He was always gone, and then when he was home he was either really snappy, or sleeping.
So if we absolutely didnt need more money, no way, Jose.
Post # 10
He would take the money, I’d take the time. We compromise – he works what he gets paid for (no free OT – he can work weekends/late when they’re willing to pay him for it, which is only occasionally – not all the time just hoping to get a raise). He can work 24 hours when he’s on a trip for all I care – bring me home a fat check. 🙂
Post # 11
If we didn’t need it, I would absolutely not take a second job. Time with him is vastly more important than money, especially since I’m pretty good at being frugal.
Post # 12
I work 4 days a week as an emergency vet, and three of them are swing shift so I don’t see FI very much. However this job was easiest for me to get as a new grad and I will make more than if I had gone straight into day practice. We might be apart next year if he gets a residency elsewhere, but I will stay with this job to build experience. I will probably pick up another day to make more money if I am living alone, but while FI is here will stick to my current schedule.
Post # 13
We were a little more willing to strech ourselves before having our son, but now the time SO has with him is so precious we do our best to protect it. On a good night, he gets about an hour with him, and we’re not going to lose that time. If we NEEDED it, we’d do it, but if it’s just “nice to have,” then no way.
Post # 14
Time 100%. We have talked about this. My husband actually turned down a job that would have been more stress and worse hours, even thought the pay was better. So long as we make enough to get by comfortably (I grew up without a lot so I don’t need much to be comfortable) then I always choose time.
Post # 15
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My husband usually works 12 hours a day and this week he’s been working 8-10 and were both soo happy lol. I love seeing him more often!
Post # 16
Love dnd quality time doesn’t quite pay the bills…