Would you rather see your SO more or have more income?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

SO has brought up getting a second job for himself a number of times, and I’m always against it. I don’t want him doing that to himself.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@greenidlady:  I would rather him be home…SO is in the military so if he took another job that kept him from being home even more than he is…I would loose my mind! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@greenidlady:  Nah, I wouldn’t take a part time weekend job. I would rather spend time with my SO. However, if I get a new job with future advancement that pays a lot more, and requires me to work sometimes on Saturday, I wouldn’t mind.

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I see him just enough as is. So I’d rather he make more.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would rather see him more

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d rather see him more than make more money if it wasn’t that necessary anyway.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

My FI has had 2 jobs in the past and I hated it. He talks about getting a second one again from time to time, but I always beg him not to. I didnt like what it did to him. He was always gone, and then when he was home he was either really snappy, or sleeping.

So if we absolutely didnt need more money, no way, Jose.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

He would take the money, I’d take the time.  We compromise – he works what he gets paid for (no free OT – he can work weekends/late when they’re willing to pay him for it, which is only occasionally – not all the time just hoping to get a raise).  He can work 24 hours when he’s on a trip for all I care – bring me home a fat check.  🙂

Post # 11
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442 posts
Helper bee

If we didn’t need it, I would absolutely not take a second job. Time with him is vastly more important than money, especially since I’m pretty good at being frugal.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I work 4 days a week as an emergency vet, and three of them are swing shift so I don’t see FI very much.  However this job was easiest for me to get as a new grad and I will make more than if I had gone straight into day practice.  We might be apart next year if he gets a residency elsewhere, but I will stay with this job to build experience.  I will probably pick up another day to make more money if I am living alone, but while FI is here will stick to my current schedule.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We were a little more willing to strech ourselves before having our son, but now the time SO has with him is so precious we do our best to protect it. On a good night, he gets about an hour with him, and we’re not going to lose that time. If we NEEDED it, we’d do it, but if it’s just “nice to have,” then no way. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Time 100%. We have talked about this. My husband actually turned down a job that would have been more stress and worse hours, even thought the pay was better. So long as we make enough to get by comfortably (I grew up without a lot so I don’t need much to be comfortable) then I always choose time. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

My husband usually works 12 hours a day and this week he’s been working 8-10 and were both soo happy lol. I love seeing him more often!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Love dnd quality time doesn’t quite pay the bills…

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