Post # 1
I’ve seen it said on the boards a lot and heard it often in real life where someone will say ‘I’d take a twist tie/ring pop/key ring I just love him and want to be engaged/married!’
I’m sure some people are very genuine when they say this. I do notice that quite often when this is said that its a preface to someone talking about the type of ring that she wants from her intended. So sometimes it seems that someone will say it because they want a ring but don’t want to be judged as shallow. To that I say,
Do whatcha want girl and be proud!!!
If you want a ring, be it modest or glamorous than that’s okay. If you want no ring or think a ring pop is the cutest thing in the world too, than go for it.
So I’m wondering, what have you said/meant?
Post # 3
Sure, I’d say yes to marrying him, then we’d go to the jewlery store. I’m not gonna bs, I wanted a nice e-ring.
Post # 4
Absolutely! But, I have only come to that conclusion after hating wedding planning and buying a house and furnishing a house. I think about what we could have spent my e-ring on.
My husband popped the question without a ring on NYE, but we had already done some ring shopping. Although I said yes during that ringless proposal the ring was coming. Hindsight is 20/20.
Post # 5
@southsun: My guy proposed with a loose stone and let me pick my setting. I feel like I got the best of both worlds, still a surprise, but still picking the ring I will wear.
Post # 6
@franklyn: Love this idea!
Post # 7
Not engaged yet over here- still waiting.
I’d absolutely say yes to a ring-less proposal. But I still want a ring, so we’d be going shopping.
I’ve been informed by my SO that this may be how it all goes down, so it’s a good thing I’m okay with it. Would I prefer that he propose with a ring? Yes. Is it a deal-breaker? No.
Post # 8
I’d be over the friggin moon about any kind of proposal! But I’m with PP, we would be going ring shopping after.
Post # 9
@franklyn: I knew I’d forget an option hahaha. >.<
Post # 10
I would not have been OK with a ring-less proposal. Call me materialistic if you want, but he knew it meant a lot to me and if he showed up empty-handed I honestly don’t know what I would have done.
Post # 11
I just think that a proposal with a ring means that you are actually serious. Of course FH and I have discussed marriage before but I never took him seriously. To me, a ring shows commitment, that he actually took the time to go out and pick out the perfect ring that he loved and also knew I would love. Honestly, if I knew he couldn’t afford it, I don’t care if he DID propose with a ring pop. At least then it would be a symbol of our commitment to each other and darn it, I’d rock that ring pop proudly!
Post # 12
No. I definitely wanted a ring, a nice one.
My fiance decided he was going to ask and told my parents about it, he can’t keep a secret so he told me when he got home from telling them. Right away we started telling friends and family that we were getting married.. So I guess it was sort of a ringless proposal, although he didn’t actually ask until we picked up the ring.
Post # 13
I would be okay with ringless proposal as long as the ring was on my finger within the next few days.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
@girlynerdy: +1. I would want a ring for the proposal because I think it shows a level of committment from him (had to go and pick it out, spend the money on it, etc). I wouldn’t want a ringless proposal because I don’t think either of us would take it as seriously.
With that being said, my FI and I are both in a place where we could comfortably afford a ring. I’m one of those that didn’t want to get married until I was in such a position so had we not been able to comfortably afford a ring I wouldn’t have wanted a proposal yet.
Post # 15
@smg5281: I feel the exact same way and so does FH
Post # 16
I wouldn’t have said NO but I wanted a ring and I’d still want to get one