Post # 1
My best friends were asking if I wanted a wedding planner as an engagement gift! To be honest I’ve never gone to a wedding in which they had a wedding planner so I as wondering if any of you ladies had a wedding planner? Any good or bad experiences?would you recommend brides to hire a wedding planner?what are your toughts about wedding planners? …..any feedback would be awesome
Post # 3
I am a planner in real life, so technically I could have done everything myself, but I hired one anyway. It was the best wedding decision that I made throughout the entire process. I was able to relax and enjoy my our day without the worries of whether or not everything was getting set up properly, if the vendors were getting to the venue on time, if anything else went wrong. It was amazing to just have everything taken care of. It allowed me to relax and enjoy more time with my new hubby and our guests. I highly recommend hiring at the very least a day of coordinator. I promise you won’t be sorry you did. I know I wasn’t. Just make sure you and/or your friends do your research and meet with the planner before signing on the dotted line. Also, make sure to reveiw the contract to make sure that everything you want her/him to do is outlined in the contract. Don’t just rely on verbal agreements. Get everything in writing.
Post # 4
I’m a super duper anal retentive OCD everything has to be perfect kind of girl. So I know if I do not hire at least a DOC, then I’ll be running around on our wedding day like a chicken with it’s head cut off.
PS – I just noticed that OCD and DOC have the same initials …. coincidence? hehe 🙂
Post # 5
I think a DOC would be of more use for me. I’d rather be tracking down what I like/don’t like and all of that while in the planning stages, but on the big day I want someone chasing down ding-dongs and paying out the bills and answering questions, etc.
I don’t know that either is necessary though, and I’d only hire one if you know you’ll use them. For me, it’d probably be just one more person to check on ’cause I like to be in charge 🙂
Post # 6
I went with a partial planner. She’ll be DOC (and even has assistants), but also helps throughout the rest of the process. I highly recommend this approach. She’s there for us when we need her, and has great ideas and is very useful for finding vendors in our price range that are excellent. She also keep surprising me with the things she can do. For example, I just found out she can make our bouquets etc., so I don’t need to hire a florist! She’s also an excellent sounding board and can look at contracts and such to make sure everything is in order.
Post # 7
Get a wedding planner if
1. You are able to “let go” and trust someone else to take care of things. If you need to be on top of every detail yourself, the wedding planner could end up being just one more vendor that you need to oversee.
2. You would be willing and not prevented by contract to cut that person loose if it wasn’t working out for you.
Our venue required us to have a planner for the ceremony, but that was the only thing she “took care of”. She was much more of an obstacle than a help, and I ended up paying an extra fee to do certain things myself b/c she was too incompetent. (For example, after not returning any of my calls for two weeks, she let me know one week before the wedding that my flowers weren’t available, so I took on flower arranging by myself and paid $200 extra for the privilege b/c I wasn’t using their vendor.)
There were times when it would have been great to have someone else make all those phone calls. It would have also rocked to have someone around on the day of who was in charge of answering all the little questions and making sure everything was set up correctly. In the end, I’d rather have more burden on myself though than have it get done incorrectly/poorly.
Post # 8
Absolutely!! I agree with @noritake22! I’m a wedding planner in real life too but I’m definitely having a planner myself. You can find people to plan the whole event, week of or day of some even do a la carte services. I honestly think a wedding planner is one of the best investments you could make for your wedding. Our entire role is just to make sure things go smoothly. I think you should definitely at least have someone for the day of because you’re going to be way too busy with other stuff to ensure the vendors are setting up properly and everything is running on time. Good luck!
Post # 9
I THINK A PLANNER WOULD BE GREAT TO HELP YOU ON THE DAY OF, SO YOU WOULD NOT HAVE TO RUN AROUND. I AM A VERY DETAILED PERSON, AND I LOVE TO PLAN. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE RENWEING OUR WEDDING VOWS IN OCTOBER. I LITERALLY HAVE A PLAN OF THE DAY TYPED, VERY DETAILED AND I MEAN VERY DETAILED. TIMES SLOTS AND EVERYTHING. I HAVE A COPY FOR THE MUSICIANS, HOSTS, MINISTER, D.J. AND MY SISTER WHO IS GOING TO BE THE MISTRESS OF CEREMONY. ALL SHE HAS TO DO IS FOLLOW MY PROGRAM. I AM GOING TO GIVE IT TO HER 2 MONTHS BEFORE HAND AND ALSO HAVE EXTRA COPIES THE DAY OF.
I’VE HEARD OF THINGS NOT GOING THE WA THE BRIDE WANTS IT, AND I BELIEVE THAT IS DUE TO ALL THE LITTLE DETAILS NOT BEING ON PAPER.
SORRY EVERYTHING IS IN CAPS. I JUST REALIZED THAT…
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your advice……lots to think about
Post # 11
I would 100% have a planner if I could have afforded it!!
Post # 12
Great investment! I am so happy I hired a planner, I have hired her for the whole deal as I’m planning it 9 hours away from where I live.
But either way, I’d totally do it again even if it was in my own town. Can’t wait to have a worry free day!
Post # 13
@yo1989: YES YES YES a million times yes, especially if someone else is paying for it!
I am such a detail oriented (almost OCD) person and I knew that without the help I would be worrying about every detail and wouldn’t be able to enjoy the process that is getting married. My Fiance agreed and we set about finding one right away.
Not only does a planner take over and handle all the big and little details but they get you great discounts and have relationships with vendors meaning more bang and quality for your buck. My wedding planner has saved us thousands so far which basically pays us in the end for her fee.
Also, nothing is more chaotic on the day of a wedding then not having one person in charge. As the bride is is really difficult for you to handle any issues that may come up especially when you are trying to get ready. The wedding planner is like a duck desperately paddling under water and making sure everything goes as smoothly as she appears above the water. 🙂