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For me, personally I would not replace them. I would probably get something else together with my FI if that was the case. Most likely I would not get the same feeling about the jewelry since I replaced the them even though they look the same. Maybe I am just very odd about this! :)
I'm sorry you home was robbed! That's awful.
As far as the question, I probably wouldn't. I'm not much of the sentimental type in general. If it would mean a lot to you to have those things, maybe consider it. But as you mentioned, the day has passed. Were you planning on wearing the pieces again?
@thursdayschild: I'm very much a sentimental type. I wore the pieces quite frequently since we got married (16 months ago). Mostly when I wanted to feel extra sparkly or special. :(
@Elolith: I agree. I would opt for getting something else, something new to represent the fresh start.
@Elolith: The thought of replacing them with something else did cross my mind as well - mostly for DH's cuff links/tuxedo buttons because I'm not sure how he feels about replacing them with the exact same thing. He loved that set so much and I'm cringing because he only used them once! Gah!
If it was stuff that I totally loved and would wear again, I'd replace it. Otherwise I wouldn't bother and would just buy something new.
I'm so sorry that your things were taken. I'd hold off on replacing them with similar things. Instead, set aside that $$, and then use it for getting you and the Mr. new jewelry for other milestone events (like first house, baby, promotions, things like that). In the end, you get jewelry in place of the lost items, but with a new, only-positive tie :-)
I probably wouldn't. You're not going to be able to buy the stuff you WORE - just replicas, so I don't think it would be entirely the same. Maybe spend that money on enlarging one of your wedding pics and putting it onto canvas, or on a new piece of jewelry you could pick together.
I wouldnt. I have no emotional attachment to my wedding day jewelery. And even iif they look the same, it just wouldnt be the same.
Thanks, guys. I'm LOVING the ideas you are giving me. You have no idea how helpful it is to my spirit overall. I HATE that I don't have those special items anymore (and the other stuff too). The wedding ones were the newest pieces I had and the only ones I have the option of replacing, which is why I've been mulling it over.
i wouldn't replace the items but how about you save it and do or get something special for your anniversary...So the memory would not be the robery but the anniversary.
:( i read your burglary post the other day! some people are so ridiculous! (my FI bike was stolen from outside a few months after moving here) uggg i fear having our house broken into all the time (not that there is a high crime rate in our city) - we are planning to get an alarm system installed once we talk to our landlord
i think shopping for some new/different jewelry is a good idea :)
@thanlon_88: thanks for your thoughts. Honestly, I WISH I had been more scared people would break into our home because then I think I would have taken stronger measures (like a security system or securing the entry points more!). I really feel like an idiot for not doing so... I really hope that people learn from my mistake and I can prevent this from happening to other people by encouraging them to take steps to protect and insure their valuables!!! It really SUCKS!
Honestly, I'd replace it if I could. But that's just my personality.
Being robbed is traumatic, I'm not trying to belittle it at all. For me, I think it's kind of giving the robbers more power if my reason for not replacing them is the trauma of being robbed. If they broke irreparably, or were lost in a fire, I would probably be more inclined to replace them. I know you don't want to associate them with the memory of being robbed, but the robbery still happened and you'll always remember it, and your wedding jewelry will always have been robbed. Your new jewelry could be a, "See, you can't keep me down," instead of a, "I had to replace the originals because of this event." If I were in your position, not replacing them would leave me in the same place only without the stuff that made me feel so pretty before.
If you think you're never going to be able to get past the "I had to replace these" feelings, then please don't do anything that will make you upset, but if they make you feel pretty and they would hold special meaning because they represent the jewelry that you wore the day of your wedding, they can easily be a life-affirming part of your journey past the robbery, if that makes sense.
I don't hold particular sentimental value to the wedding day jewelery besides my rings. I might replace the necklace because I like wearing it for other things because it is simple and classic but otherwise it wouldn't be particularly important to me.
@HappierKate: Thanks for your thoughts on the matter. We think the same in the 'I'm not going to let these robbers get the best of me!'. I've audibly said that several times in the last week!
My MIL surprised us yesterday with a watch for me and a pearl pendant necklace/earring set for me and a watch for DH. It was seriously the sweetest thing. The jewelry/watch wasn't my style, but I'm so touched that she would do something like that for us. It's even crazier because she was recently laid off and I know doesn't have money to be throwing around. Amazing!
Sorry you are going through this :( I wouldn't replace them though
What a bummer! :( Maybe I would go shopping and get some new items to wear on a "replacement date" :)
ETA: I meant "new" as in entirely different new ones, not replacement ones, to make a new memory.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! I agree with PP, I'd just pick out a new piece of jewelry with your DH and make a fresh start... a charm bracelet you can add to each year with a ring charm would be a cute idea. Or an anniversary ring? tehe.
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Our home was robbed this week and all the jewelry we had at home was taken. This included the bracelet and earrings I wore on our wedding day and the cuff links/tuxedo button set DH purchased for his tuxedo (he still has that).
I'm playing around with the thought of buying those items again.
On one hand, I want to do it because they are still available for purchase.
On the other hand, it feels sad to me because the whole joy of wearing those items over the past year has been that they bring back warm fuzzy feelings of the wedding day... and wearing them will now be a reminder of the robbery and not the wedding (or so I think). Thankfully, I still have my sparkly wedding shoes! :)
...just curious what you would be prone to do... replacement cost for all 3 items would be around $550