Would you return your new pet to a rescue if your other pets weren't happy?

posted 3 years ago in Pets
  • poll: Would you return the dog to the (no-kill) rescue if your other pets weren't happy?
    Yes : (44 votes)
    56 %
    No : (24 votes)
    30 %
    Other, please leave a note with any helpful ideas!! : (11 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    we had 2 cats then got another kitten, and said if he doesnt fit in then he will have to go to another home 🙁 it did take a week or 2, and id say that one of our cats still isnt 100% happy with the new addition but generally he is fine. it just takes time adjusting. but u gotta do what u feel is right!

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would, but not in your case. Not yet anyways.

    It can be worked on, your cat can become acustomed to the dog and vice versa. So can the snipping at you. 

    The LAST thing I’d be worried about was the “return policy/ money”. I wouldn’t care at all if I could not use the the credit to adopt another dog. I would certainly give it at least 1 month maybe 2 before making any decision about returning him to the shelter.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Amayansong:  How long have you had Bo? Honestly, cats are more fickle when it comes to new things. When I got my second dog, my older dog took about 2 days to warm up to him but it took our two cats almost 2 months. Even now they aren’t his biggest fan. My only suggestion is to be around the cat when you smell like the dog and work on having them around each other. As for not being picked up, some dogs are just like that, or ar particular about how they are picked up. My mom’s rat terrier would snap at you if you picked her up near her underarms, but was fine if you picked her up closer to her stomach. She also liked to have a hand under her butt. 

    It takes time for animals to adjust, but it should work itself out as Bo gets more comfortable in your house and with your other pets and vice versa. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Part of me thinks your other animals will adapt, but who knows.

    My family adopted a second cat, and the first cat NEVER accepted him. It wasn’t a huge deal, since one cat was indoor and the other was outdoor, but your situation is very different!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Amayansong:  did you follow their advice about introductions?  they should be very slow and kept separate.  my cat hates our dog and constantly hisses.  but the dog is learnig to keep her distant so its fine.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We just adopted 2 cats into a house that already had 4 cats and a dog (2 seperate families, but no physical seperation in the house) It took a few weeks for them all t get used to each other, but now they all love each other. One of the cats hated the dog when we first got him, but now they’re best friends and play together. I absolutely think it just takes time for animals to get used to each other.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Id just give him more time.

    When I saved my Pomeranian it took a good 6 months to get her to the point that she would let us pick her up at any time and to be comfortable where she lived. Its even taken 6 years and a few operations for her to allow us to touch her snout (to check teeth and what not) given all the problems she had with her teeth and the way the old owners treated her (they kept her in a cage and she would munch on the cage bars and that has destroyed all but 4 of her teeth 🙁 )

    So what Im basically trying to say is that the pup may have not been treated the best of ways or even has a medical problem that needs seeing to. But with time (and maybe a vet visit) I bet he will be perfectly fine and cuddly 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Have you discussed the issues with the rescue and asked for more time? Usually the people running these things are pretty understanding…

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would say it took a full year for our dog and our new puppy to bond. They never had any scary incidents, but they just didn’t seem to enjoy each other’s company. They slowly warmed over the course of the last year and now they are definitely buds, cuddling and everything, whereas before our older dog wouldn’t go near the pup. 

    I wouldn’t hesitate to return a dog when a behaviorist suggests the the new dog’s safety, the safety of the other animals or us is at risk, after a period of focused training.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Amayansong:  OK I’m not cat expert, but it seems to me that the cat will need to feel safe, and a cat doesn’t feel safe if it doesn’t have a place to see/ observe the dog from afar. Can you try to have at least 1 or 2 tall structures and put cat bed/ toys/ and treats up there to lure the cat to this place. In this place, the cat might go to and start to observe the dog and start to feel less theatened. 

    Also you must disciple/ “redirect” the dog when the dog reacts to the cat by barking. Lead the dog away and coax the cat indoors to its safe place and try to keep the dog at a distance until both the dog and cat stop reacting so strongly to eachother. introduce the dog to the cat by having smelly cat things with the dog often so the scent is familar.

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