Would you say something? (a dilemma)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@theone99:  Just curious how you know the invite didn’t get lost in mail? Has the RSVP date passed and she didn’t say anything to you? Maybe she assumes you’re coming and doesn’t need an actual RSVP from you? Did she give you all the details to the wedding? Did you get a STD and just not an invite? Depending on the answers to those Qs, I may say something tomorrow where you see her or after the wedding – but I need to know those answers first before I would say what I’d do.

Post # 4
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@theone99:  I’m so sorry :(. It sounds like you’ve done a lot for Jane over the years and it must really hurt not to be invited. How big is Jane’s wedding going to be? Maybe she only invited her closest friends and family? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

@theone99:  You definitely deserve to be invited. I’m hoping this is a mistake or your invitation got lost in the mail. I’d definitely mention something tomorrow and say that you really want to be there for her (not just on principle).

Post # 6
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

maybe she wants to give you the invitation in person when you see her tommorrow?

If she doesnt then i think i would i would bring it up in a casual manner and see what she says from there

(hugs)

Post # 7
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3341 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This sounds like it has to be a mistake….I would bring it up with her!

Post # 9
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@futuremrsk18:  This. Invitations get lost in the mail, and neither party knows. We sent invites all over the world, and the only one that got lost was my cousin’s, and she lives in town! I didn’t know until the week before the RSVP deadline when my grandma mentioned that she’d asked cousin if she’d sent in her RSVP and cousin mentioned that she never got an invitation.

Post # 12
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A similar thing happened to me – it wasn’t a mistake. I didn’t say anything. It’s very rude to tell someone they’re invited then not invite them though. I’m no longer friends with this person, not because she didn’t invite me but because she didn’t have enough respect to apologize and explain the situation to me, even when it was awkwardly brought up by a 3rd party who was invited.

Post # 13
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you’re that close with each other, I would say something!

Post # 15
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

ahhhh. as you initiated the catch up it doesnt sound like that was her plan then.if you dont get one i think i would be hurt enough to ask why 

hope this turns around for you but if not,remember you have been a very good friend for a very long time. if she doesnt value that then she’s crazy!

 

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think you’re assuming that you weren’t invited, when it very well may be that your invite got lost. I wouldn’t assume if someone asked me if I’m still having an early morning wedding that they didn’t get the invite – I’d assume that they’re asking if anything has changed since receiving the invite. Has the RSVP date passed?

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