Post # 1
I don’t want to jump to conclusions here, nor do I want to get my hopes up. I just want another persons point of view.
So, as most of you may or may not know, J and I are going to England in early September for his sisters wedding (very low key, court house ceremony, followed by lunch at a pub). Anyway, J now wants to stay in England a few days longer than what we originally planned. Which is fine with me, if we are able to do it. Also, J told his mom that we were coming, but he went into the other room (twice) to talk to her. Usually he talks very loudly on the phone, lol, but he was very quiet this time. Not only that, but we were supposed to go out for dinner for our 4 year anniversary tonight, but now he wants to just stay in and cook dinner (which is fine). But we NEVER stay in for dinner on special occasions. EVER. Suddenly he’s very cheap, lol. And lastly, he doesn’t want to ‘check’ our luggage at the airport. He wants it with us as carry-on luggage only. Is that weird? It is for him, that’s for sure. Makes me wonder if he wants to keep something safe in his luggage…
He said that a wedding (for us) was ‘do-able’ for next year. We both want to get married in the month of September. Now I’m starting to wonder if he has something planned for England? On one hand, it’s a possibility. But on the other hand… Wouldn’t it be a little silly to do it the same week his sister gets married (stealing her thunder).
I dunno. I’m just venting. Not sure what I’m looking for. I’m not getting my hopes up at all. England is the top place on my list of places to visit before I die, lol. So I’m so excited to go!
Post # 3
I think you need to stop trying to figure it out. You are driving yourself crazy. It sounds like he wants to save money and stay in for dinner if he is planning on staying in England longer and spending money there.
Post # 4
You may be right, and it certainly does sound like he’s planning something there.. however if it turns out that he’s not proposing in England, I don’t want you to be crushed. Is there any way you can distract yourself and focus more on the trip?
Post # 5
I have been rooting for you and J since I joined the Bee. If this is really what it sounds like, then I will be jumping up and down doing a happy dance for you two. If not, then heck, you’re going on a vacation to England for crying out loud! That in itself deserves a little happy dance haha
Post # 6
Sounds like there might be something going on but enjoy your trip anyways. Good luck!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
All I have to say is MMMM vacation 🙂
Post # 8
I think you may be on to something but I think you need to stop thinking about it.
Let it happen when it happens. I snooped and almost ruined my proposal. Luckily he still surprised me but don’t chance it.
Post # 9
I’m super excited to go. If something happens, great. If not, whatever. I’ve always wanted to go to England and right now I’m preoccupied with that thought, as well as what I’m going to be packing, finding someone to take care of my cats while we’re away, booking the trip, and sorting out my vacation time at work. J’s recent behaviour is just small random thoughts floating through my head and I’m not overly concerened about them right now. But I thought I’d mention them to you bee’s for your input anyway 🙂
Post # 10
I agree with Crisark. Something may be in the works, but you don’t want to ruin it for yourself. Also, you don’t want to set yourself up for disappointment if he doesn’t propose. Focus on visiting England with him and how you’ve waited so long to go there!
Just playing devil’s advocate here, but could he want to eat in because he’s saving money for the trip?
Post # 11
@GwenvonD: One thing I wish I had known earlier, with BluesGuy, is that men can be trusted more on their actions and not their words. They’ll say anything to keep you strung along and thinking that you’re getting close to a proposal. They like status quo. It’s what they *do* that matters.
Frankly, I wouldn’t think that you’re getting engaged until you see him pull out a ring box and ask you.
Post # 12
Even though none of those things seem that odd to me, it does seem weird that this far in advance he is talking about not checking his luggage…. Good luck!!
Also, the talking quietly does seem sneaky… 🙂
Post # 13
Sadly I have to agree with bluesgirl – all these signs can’t be taken as anything until you see results.
Just go with the flow and enjoy the “will he/wont he” vibes.
But I have to say if I proposed to my SO during his siblings celebrations – it wouldn’t be fair on anyone as it would steal their thunder..
Post # 14
Oh I drove myself CRAZY with “will he/won’t he” everytime we did anything out of the “norm” constantly disappointing myself. I would say, enjoy everything you do with him and whether it comes or not, you will still enjoy life!
Post # 15
I think there’s possibility he is definitely planning on something…but who knows?
I find myself creating possible scenarios to fit every occasion/situation that is quite believable but I’m trying to stop myself from doing that. I only have about a month to wait but this month is going to be the longest month of my entire life. I’m normally very impatient so this will also be a good lesson for me too.
I hope it happens in England!!!! fingers crossed xo
Post # 16
I hope it happens in England. If it doesn’t I still hope you can enjoy your time with your SO. Let us know how the trip goes.