(Closed) Would you send a gift if…

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t. Even if you like them, you don’t really see them, right? If you’ve lost touch, I don’t think sending a gift is really a necessary thing,. Especially $100. I think a card is still a really nice gesture. You could send a $25 off their registry and still be showing your supprot without spending THAT kind of moeny,. I only spend $100/wedding on realy rally good friends of mine though. And i find that the other people are just as grateful to get their coasters and vegetable peelers and a couple of smaller items that theyd’ just have to go out and buy themselves!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would send a card that is like congratulating them … but no money or present.

P.S. are you sure the invite didn’t get lost in the mail? 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

That’s a hard one.  You say you really like him and his fiance, and no hard feelings.  But then you weren’t that eager to invite them to your wedding.  Could you compromise and give them a smaller gift amount?  If they changed their minds about inviting you, that’s a pretty big faux pas, especially after a STD.  So I think a card with a BB&B gift card would be more than generous. 

I guess if it was me, I might not send a gift.  But I can’t relate too much to the situation.  It would just depend.  However, if I wasn’t close to them and didn’t care, I probably wouldn’t be bothered with sending a gift.  If I was clsoe to them, and they reneged on the invitation, I would probably be hurt, and convey this by not sending a gift.  Just me.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I wouldn’t bother, either. Sending a card is a great way to congratulate them and let them know there aren’t any hard feelings, you only wish them the best, etc. A gift is unnecessary, but if you really wanted to send them one I’d just pick an inexpensive item off of their registry.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Ohhh….yup…first thing I thought before I even finished reading was well um…$50 ish range….I would still send a gift if it’s a friend you really like and care about.
I have friends that I haven’t talked to in over a year but I understand how we all get caught up in life, work, etc, but if one of them was getting married I’d still send a thoughtful gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive, like ej said, I usually do the $100 or more amount for super close friends or family.
I have to go back to the old but true saying on this one, it’s the thought, not the gift that counts.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If anything, I would send a card.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would let it go….

Just b/c one person reciprocates doesn’t mean the other will. Just go buy a really cute card (maybe a nicer one, not the 99 cent ones) with a really sweet note. I really do think that is sufficient.  

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