Post # 1
I’m just curious. Would you be insulted or upset if s/he asked you to sign a prenup? Does it make it seem as though they don’t trust you? Based upon my understanding, a prenup only “speaks” at the end of a marriage, just like a will only “speaks” after a death. Perhaps legal bees have insights, though.
Post # 3
Me and Fi both are broke and dont have assets
Post # 4
I would not sign one and not because I would think it would be like planning for a divorce ( really if you think about it it kind of is) the reason I wouldnt do it is because I would feel like he thinks so little of me that if something were to happen he would think I would be the kind of woman to go after everything he has and thats just not me and I wouldnt want to be with someone who thought that way. SO and I have talked about it seriously and joking (I said I want a prenup saying I get the kitties lol) we will not be having one because neither one of us sees it being important not to mention there is nothing for us to fight over anyway
Post # 5
I don’t plan to sign one. FH and I will both be entering this marriage with only his salary and as college students. There would be nothing for us to fight over should we ever get divorced.
He knows I’m keeping the dog 🙂
Post # 6
I have little assets, he has a lot. I wouldn’t object in the least. Shit happens. I asked if he wanted one, and said I wouldn’t have an issue nor make a fuss about it but he said nah.
Post # 7
I would be insulted. Especially as we are both newly entering the world of working professionals. If I had millions or he had millions, that might be a different story.
Post # 8
If we were really affluent, or one of us was, then yeah it makes sense. Honestly it would be a waste of money to even go through the process for us right now. Haha. How sad. :p
Post # 9
I think if one party has assets, they should be able to protect them in the event of a divorce. What if your parents worked REALLY hard to give you something (money, house, whatever) and then you would be forced to split it in the event you ever got a divorce? You spouse had no part in working for it, yet they would reap the benefit. I don’t think a pre-nup is always planning for divorce, things change, people change and sometimes sh*t happens.
Post # 10
Neither of us wanted a prenup. If he did, first of all I’d be very surprised b/c I don’t have anything, and second of all I’d be pissed.
Post # 11
No I wouldn’t sign one. I chose “other” on the poll though because I wouldn’t necessarily break it off if he asked, but we would have a lengthy discussion as to why I wouldn’t, and he could make the call after that.
Post # 12
If their are children or others with a need to be legally protected, a fair prenup is a mature thing to do all the way around. Part of the reason why I wanted to get legally married was to have the legal protections afforded to spouses in the event that something happens to one of us. Prenups can be an extension of this and protect more than just the spouses when these others in need of protection exist.
If the point of the prenup was just to ensure that I didn’t get half if we divorced, I guess it would depend on whether or not I had been supporting him while the money in question was being earned. I’m OK with saying that while we intend to be together forever, we do in fact, need to keep recommitting to each other daily in order for that to happen.
Post # 13
@MrsCoachBtoBee: In most states, spouses are only entitled to half of what you earned while you were together. Inheritances can’t be touched.
Post # 14
If we both had separate assets before marriage, then I would think about it. But we were both broke, and I started my business after marriage
Post # 15
Like other bees, we didn’t have enough wealth on either side to require a prenup. I do have a 401k & he doesn’t, but at the time we were married, it didn’t have enough in there for me to totally stress about it.
If I had totally hit it big in the lottery or something before I met him or vice versa? Yes, definitely I think a prenup is smart. People are already afraid to get divorced of money anyways–I would hate to think that he was married to me just because he couldn’t make it on his own or something like that.
Post # 16
If either of us had susbstantial assets, yes, I’d want to sign one. Everyone thinks they won’t get divorced. If you listen to encore brides, the majority of them say that the man they married was not the man they divorced, and that they didn’t go into the marriage thinking they’d get divorced one day. I think it is crazy for people to think that divorce is impossible. I think a prenup would make things a lot easier. As a lawyer, I’ve seen a lot of many nasty divorces.