Post # 1
I am hoping you can help me make a decision and I have included a poll. Would you splurge on your wedding shoes?
I consider myself a “thriftonista”. I am very sensible and responsible with my money and finances in general. I do like nice, quality things but I rarely ever pay full price. Between coupons, sales, promo codes, vintage and estate sales I am able to save and I like it that way. FI and I have been prudent with most aspects of our wedding planning, with the exception of our photographer because we want amazing pics and the photog we love is worth every penny she charges. But now I’m looking for shoes and I’m having a horrible go of it.
My “dream shoe” is the Manolo Blahnik ‘Hangisi” also known as the Carrie Bradshaw wedding shoe. It retails $965 and NEVER goes on sale. It is my love for these shoes that make every other shoe pale in comparison. I’ve tried on tons of shoes, perfectly lovely shoes, and all I think about is how much I love the Hangisi. FI has given me the go ahead to buy them. We can responsibly afford to pay for them and stay on budget. I got a great deal on my dress and it came to about $500. I just keep thinking that if I buy them the shoes will cost more than my dress. Is that a silly thing to think about? Would you splurge on wedding shoes?
(By the way I know that there are replicas that are similar and MUCH less expensive. No judgment at all against anyone who does but as a personal preference I choose not to purchase replicas.)
Post # 3
@dulcevida: Go for it! You can always rewear shoes more so than you can do a dress.
If you can do it responsibly and don’t, you’ll always be wondering about those manolos!
For context, I got my dress 75% off and it was under budget to start. I rolled that $$ over to my shoe budget so it was $1k budgeted for shoes!
Post # 4
Do it!!!! You got your dress for a great price!
Post # 5
If you can responsibly afford to purchase them AND your FI has given you the OK, I don’t see why you shouldn’t.. especially if they are a pair that you can rewear again.
Post # 6
I voted I’d be uncomfortable splurging on the shoes, but that’s not to say YOU shouldn’t. If you can reasonably afford them, and they’re what you want, and youv’e discussed it with your fiance and he supports the decision, I don’t see why you shouldn’t.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@dulcevida: My splurge shoes were $150, so $965 seems steep (despite my love for those shoes!) Have you considered looking for a slightly used pair on Ebay?
Post # 8
I feel it’s a waste. They are most likely going to be hiding under your dress for most of the night. I have never noticed a bride’s shoes at the wedding.
Post # 9
I would absolutely get them! For me, there are things I was dead set on doing/getting, and I know I would miss them on our wedding day if I didn’t-this sounds like it might be the case for you with these shoes! It’s not like they shrivel up and disappear after the wedding, you can always wear them to events and smile because they were your wedding day shoes 🙂 I am personally swooning over a pair of gold Jimmy Choo Mary-Jane heels and I know if I were to get any other shoe, I’d be disappointed. You can afford it, it’s what your heart is set on-grant yourself the indulgence!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
Personal opinion, I couldn’t justify spending $1000 on a pair of shoes. Whether I could afford it or not doesn’t matter. It’s a pair of shoes…
If you couldn’t justify them for a regular occassion what makes it justifiable now that it’s your wedding? Strip down all the ‘entitlement’ about it being your wedding and it’s still $1000 on a pair of shoes.
To each their own though!
Post # 11
Are you going to ever wear them again? When I splurge on high end items, I try to think about the opportunites I will have to “get my money worth.” For example, I splurged on a purse 6 years ago that I have used for work ever since — I am SO glad I did it. But I have also learned that I should not splurge on fancy shoes, because I always default to the boring, comfortable ones for work… and we don’t go out enought to make it worth it.
In a year do you think will you be happy that you spent 1k on this pair of shoes or do you think you would rather have used that money for something different (honeymoon excursion, hair and makeup for the girls, a new washing machine…)?
Post # 12
Nope nope nope nope. I’ve a saver too and could easily afford that shoe, but I’d never spend that much on shoes. But handbags on the other hand….. I have several in the 4 digits and some may think that’s crazy too. So I guess its up to what’s REALLY worth it to you. If you MUST have it, and it’s affordable, then go for it.
Post # 13
I set myself a budget of $1000 for shoes, so I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. I may spend about half that on a pair in regular non-wedding life, so its not too far of a stretch.
If you need to cut corners elsewhere to afford them, don’t do it. If you can comfortably afford them go for it. Not just because its your wedding, but because they’re great quality, you’ll wear them again, and you want them.
Post # 14
I voted no because I’m really not into shoes, so for me, it’s not worth it. But if you love them (and can afford them), go for it!
Post # 15
I was planning to splurge on some Manolos or Laboutins but then bought a different pair for my rehearsal dinner and love them so much that I’m going to wear them for the wedding too. They were around $40.
Post # 16
@dulcevida: Here is my take…….
Consider the venue, photography locations, and possibly weather when deciding on this shoe….
During the photography portion of the wedding day, my heels got destroyed. We took a bunch of photos in a wooded area and my heels sunk into the ground. When I pulled the heels out of the ground they were covered in mud. I did my best to clean them up but they were ruined. I changed into a back up pair but then changed back because the original pair was more comfortable. Since I wore a long gown no one could really see my shoes anyway…….
If it rains the day of your wedding will your shoes get ruined?
Will you be able to comfortably wear them throughout the day?
Will you be able to wear them again?????