Would you still start TTC if….

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

But, like I said, its all vague and not a certainty, we could decide to put it off and 3 years from now still be here & still waiting.<br /><br />

I say go for it then. I don’t think there’s ever really a “right” time, and if you guys feel ready to welcome a baby emotionally and financially then why not.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I vote yes, we’re dealing with this right now – DH and I want to move early next year and he will be looking for a new job. We’re going to start TTC in Feb regardless of what is going on because we don’t want to wait anymore. It makes me nervous but there’s no perfect time.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I agree that there is no perfect time and it seems like your situation is filled with uncertainties that may or may not happen. But for me I think maybe I would try and wait until the situation is stable. If your husband was to be away for 5 months, it may be hard I guess. I think in terms of fertility, under 35 is still a fertile time according to experts so the clock isn’t ticking in your case per se. I would personally wait a bit to see what the situation is like after then because by then when you do have a baby, it’ll be more stable. But do what feels right to you 🙂 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I agree that you shouldn’t put TTC on hold because of possible changes in your future. For what it’s worth, my mom was pregnant while moving 3 times without my dad around to help much (military spouse). I’m not saying that your concerns aren’t valid, just that they’re not impossible.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

UsagiTsukino:  It sounds like you have quite a few good reasons to wait a bit until things are more stable. Being all stressed out during pregnancy would suck, especially at the end when you just want to relax and nest. Waiting a year (or two or even three) does not mean you’ll wait forever and miss the boat! If things are still unstable in a year (or two or three) but you feel ready to TTC you can always go for it.  I had my little son when I was 32 and it was the perfect age for me. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

UsagiTsukino:  Since it’s more of an idea and not an actuality I say go for it now. If you knew these things were going to be happening (moving, new job) within the next year I would say wait until you are more stable.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’d also add that a lot of employers are willing to be flexible about start dates 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

UsagiTsukino:  Yes, absolutely.  You and your DH aren’t actively job or house hunting, so your “what ifs” sound like the kind of options that are always present.  If you’re ready now, I wouldn’t wait.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

TTC, yes.  Once you’re actually pregnant though, no.  Once you’re pregnant, you need stability and shouldn’t have to deal with the stress of finding a new job or moving.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

UsagiTsukino:  If nothing is set in stone, then I’d just go for it if you two are ready to be parents. If you put it off and put it off until everything is in place, you’ll never get to it! Moving while pregnant isn’t ideal, but plenty of people have done it before.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If there is something I have learnt from all these TTC boards, it is that TTC doesn’t actually mean you will concieve your first month. Sometimes, the best thing is to get started and when it happens, it happens. 

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