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even if your first name and his last name sound ridiculous together?
It was always important for me to take my husband's name, until I started thinking about marrying my FI and heard what it would sound like! I gave it a lot of thought, and I will probably take it anyway, but also keep mine; so mine is between the two others and it doesn't sound as bad, lol.
What will you be doing?
I know of a woman who didn't take her husbands last name because her first and his last name together sounds a lot like "dildo" when spoken aloud!
That's a funny consideration! I did have a very serious ex once who we both agreed I wouldn't take his name, if for no other reason than my first and his last together sounded completely like a porn star. ;)
I wish I had that excuse now! Actually his last name and mine are extremely similar (same starting letter, same number of syllables, and emphasis in the same places), so I need a better excuse. :)
unless his last name was Weiner i've always planned on taking his name.
If you are comfortable with your name between the two I think that sounds like a good compromise! I didn't take my husband's last name, so I would just say don't change... but if you have always wanted to change your name, then I think its not that simple.
I have a friend in your situation, too. Her name and his name sound so stupid together, but when you say her name, her lsat then his last it sounds way better. Her three names are all short enough that this isn't much of a mouthful, so I guess that is something to consider, too!
I think that I would...
I had a friend once who married someone whose last name was the same as her first name - and she took it! It was pretty entertaining.
hahahah @snake.
I am planning on taking my FI last name, never not considered it.
I had an ex whose last name was Hyman and that certainly wasn't happening. Luckily for me, that relationship wasn't really ever happening either...
I am actually named after a lady whose first name rhymed with her husbands last - Think Paris Ferris!
And I always said that I would take his name as long as it doesn't rhyme!
Thank goodness my name isn't Tarten!
Snake you crack me up.. I just laughed out loud and FI's wondering what I'm up to..!
lol@kittyachi that is funny! I plan on taking my FI's last name it's pretty hot, my friends are always like you're going to have such a cool last name! lol But if it were something that would make me look like a total idiot.. IDK.. I'd probably still do it! haha
haha no but seriously guys i was always scared i'd fall in love with a Mr. Weiner.. i actually a know a Mr. & Mrs. Hooker couple and i always thought how ufortunate that name was, too.
Yeah ours are both 2 syllables names that rime. Before we were engaged, my mom once asked if I would take his name. We were in the car. I told her: mom, have you thought about this, then I said the names. She had to stop the car bc she was laughing too much! She still mentions this..
I've never thought I WOULDN'T take his name because, well, it's perfect!
Maybe if his last name was Crapper...I knew a "Crapper" in school...and um, no thanks.
I hated my ex's last name, I found it ridiculous and kind of embarassing to say [as awful as that is to admit]. It was eastern European but quite uncommon. Looking back, it really isn't that bad at all lol, but I still wouldn't want it.
My bf now [and one I will marry someday] has the most common surname in the English speaking world, but I will happily take it.
I have a friend whose middle name is the same as her husband's last name and she took it. Not as bad as having the same first and last name though since people usually don't use their complete full names but it's still pretty funny.
If it's a ridiculous combo I would hyphenate it, but I'm glad my So has a gareat last name and sounds great with my first..I hate my last name anyhow so anything is better than mine ha
They do. I didn't. Then again, I never planned on changing my name even if it would have sounded awesome, so it didn't make a difference to me.
I really don't like my FH's last name... I mean, really. In fact, before I met him and my girlfriend who was trying to set him up told me his last name, I said, "I can't date him! What if we get serious, then get married?! I can't take that name!"
And here we are, getting married... and I'm taking his last name. It's just always been an important part of marriage to me.
Yeah for me too. I lived in the province of Québec for a long time and women there are not allowed to change their names to take their husbands. I always found that sad because for me, it's all about becoming one family. Now I moved to Ontario and I can take his name, and so I will add it to mine.
I'll admit it - I hadn't planned on taking FI last name because I wanted to keep my own for a whole host of reasons, but at the bottom of the list wwas how silly my name sounded with his last name.
I get really annoyed when people try to give me unsolicited advice about it though! For pete's sake, I was renewing my passport last week and I asked the passport kiosk lady if I would have to get a new passport if I changed my name, and she went on a huge tangent about how I should't take his last name, it was degrading to women, he should take mine, etc. Thanks missy, but I will make my own choices - can I have my passport please? ;)
I know someone who married a guy whose last name was Glasscock. She took the name...
@egb - I really didn't know that about Quebec! Odd!
Never planned to change it, so never thought about it. I had a serious (ex)boyfriend with a hardcore Vietnamese last name, I loved it! I always cracked up at the thought of being married to him and having his last name, and having people expect me to be Asian (I am white). That thought was fun but I always knew I'd keep my name no matter what
Yeah the law states that you can only change you last name for "serious motives" to be examined by the authorities, and marriage is not one of these motives. Each partner married after 1981 is to keep their own names. The ones married before that can keep their husband's names if it was changed before and they wish to, or they can go back to their maiden name without making an official request.
Someone ruled that taking the man's last name was contrary to the principle that both partners were equal in the relationship... They have made exceptions for religious motives for some people who went to court to defend their opinion, but they had to prove it..
A lot of informations, but interesting facts anyway... I understand the idea of being equal, but I strongly believe that to truly be equal, we should be able to choose. :)
I'm very happy that I'm here now and that I can choose.
I took my husband's last name even though my initials now spell a dirty word. Does that count?
I knew a girl whose last name was Dooki. No kidding, prounounced just like you think.
She hyphenated her last name when she married. His name was Brown.
Her last name was Dooki-Brown.You can't make this stuff up.
(she was foreign, and didn't get that it meant something in the US.... it really tore her up when she found out.)
My name sounds good with his last, but only my full first name. It sounds very grown up. But my nickname, which most people call me by now (except family really since I only started using the nickname when I was in high school), sounds a bit silly. Not *really* terrible, but if you put the wrong emphasis somewhere it sounds like some kind of computer company (not an actual one, just what you might name a company). I think I'll be able to live with it!
I used to work with a woman named Carol Carroll. I was never game to ask her why on earth she did that to herself (assuming she did, of course - perhaps her parents were cruel?) My dad used to work with a woman whose surname was Longbottom, one day someone rang her at work and just said "is that your MARRIED name?" and she laughed & laughed, bc people had been dying to ask her for years and this random guy she'd never met just came out & said it.
If it was really bad, I'd really think twice! LOL
I knew a guy whose last name was Condom...yes, like the trojan.
My other friend's last name is Viegas and she's a white girl, blonde hair, blue eyed, everything! Her husband's half portugese, haha. We always joke about our "exotic" friend =]
If my heritage was switched, my last name would be Jung. I always thought it'd be cool to have a Korean last name even though i'm obviously quite white and only 1/4 korean.
I went to high school with a family of boys with the last name "Butt".. how unfortunate, at least they were really good looking :p
@amandalynn haha so funny!! I dated a guy when I was 16 whose last name was Lee so I would have been Leah Lee ;)
@missasb: how funny!! what dirty name is it?!
I have always planned to take my husband's last name, i'm sure you all remember back when i was the sophisticated and mature age of SEVEN i decided that my husband's last name must begin before mine so that i could stand closer to the front of the line!! LMAO!!
Mine's last name has more letters in it than all my legal names combined! :-0 But, even though my hand doesn't understand how to write that long, I'm doing it! I love my maiden name and may keep it professionally as it's my business identity and namesake of my business, but I'll take the new polish last name for sure!
If his last name was "crap bag" and he wanted me to take his last name- I would! It's very important to my FI that I take his name... :) I'm not crazy about his last name, but he really is looking forward to us being "The [insert new last name here]"
@egb: I lived in Quebec too! I know a lot of the younger women are starting to take their husbands last names socially & even at work-- however all their gov't documents, etc are all still *obviously* their given birth name!
Okay a lot of these responses were funny, but laylabelle, yours took the cake for me. OMG I was laughing so hard! Okay but I have another great one: I know of a woman whose name is Jenna. She married a man whose last name (that she took) is "Talea" (pronounced "TAIL-ee-ah")
Jenna Talea. Sound it out...
@littelmissmango: AHAHAHAHAA! You win... hands down! That's hilarious & a little awkward :)
My current last name is a mouthful, and so is my FIs last name. We joke that it will be a lateral move. I hadn't considered not taking his name, but now that I'm thinking about it, it's going to be sad not to have my family surname anymore.
@ RecessionistaBride: Aww, crap bag! haha, I love friends.
My FI's last name is pretty common, very well known in pop culture, but also a respectable name. I'm mourning the fact that my common first name and his last name will make me one of many (the spelling of my current last name is pretty uncommon), but otherwise, I fully plan on taking his name. Like Crebre80, I have planned on doing so since elementary school when your last name listed alphabetically seems super important - too bad I'm going to end up keeping the same initial and he's just a bit further down the alphabet from me.
I think if his name was something awful, I would really have to reconsider. Honestly, I think with some of these, I would expect the guy to recognize how unfortunate his name was and be willing to come up with some sort of compromise (or even be willing to change his name too!) I really don't know how people get away with taking on (or naming kids) such awful things - do they really not think it through first?
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