Post # 1
DH and I have roughly agreed to a season and year to stop BC! Yayayayayyy! I just wanna tell everyone I know, but I’m not going to tell anyone. I could possibly see telling a really close friend or family member since there are no expectations right now, whereas there would be constant questions once TTC actually starts. Who will you tell your timeline to, if anyone? Or will you wait until you’re actually TTC or pregnant?
ETA – this is a few years away.
Post # 3
I dont plan on telling anyone anything until I’m pregnant.
Post # 4
Mr Rugbee hasn’t told anyone but I told my mom, sister (who lives with me), my best friend & my rugby coach. The only reason I’ve told my BFF & coach is so nobody gives me trouble about registering at the beginning of the season when we’re in the middle of the TTC.
Post # 5
Hahhahahaha! I thought I wouldn’t tell anyone, and then I told everyone. Like everyone. Even like, the maintenance guy that works in my building. I am a big blabbermouth though.
Post # 6
@pinkshoes: Yeah I think I’ll do that too, but I can’t imagine not telling my mom at least a rough estimate once we get closer. I wouldn’t want to blindside her – not like it’s particularly her business, just that I tell her everything.
Post # 7
@MsKeee: I’m having a lot of trouble stopping myself from screaming from the rooftops too! Always have to remind myself that it might not happen right away and I don’t want to be asked… it’s a hard balance!
Post # 8
@MrsRugbee: Mine didn’t happen right away and everyone asked me, but because I am a blabbermouth, I didn’t mind blabbing about that either! And then when it did happen I told pretty much everyone right away (including the maintenance guy in my building). I figured that if something happened to the pregnancy I would probably blab about that too! I think it just depends on your personality completely – I don’t think that you have to keep it to yourself by any means. Also I didn’t like, put it on Facebook, I just talked about it with people in my daily life!
Post # 9
People asked, and I answered honestly, but I would offer up this kind of information to anyone other than my best friend =) So, lots of people know/knew, but I didn’t go to them and tell it.
Post # 10
@redheadem: How exciting!! DH and I agreed to only tell one person until we actually get pregnant. It’s one of my best friends, but I felt like she was the best person to talk to about it. (She’s more like a sister to me and already has an 18 month old.) We felt if people knew, it would put extra pressure on us during the process.
Be prepared to field a lot of questions about when you’ll start TTC, especially since you are still newlyweds 🙂
Post # 11
I’ve very vague and say oh, 2 years, 3 years, something like that. But in my mind I have an exact month and year I’d like to start. 🙂 It is exciting but I’m going to be practicing a lot of patience until we get there and just enjoy DH and me time while I can and it’s just the 2 of us.
Post # 12
I slipped to my mom a bit. Oops. What infuriated me was that she then decided to publicly address this on Facebook when one of her friends asked when we were planning to have kids. Thankfully, it was just, “Oh maybe in (x) year,” rather than, “She told me…” I quickly replied to it and indicated that I don’t want kids.
I don’t feel guilty about lying to people at all. I don’t want kids, etc. It’s even crossed my mind to burst into tears if someone asks when we’re having kids. Let them sit in their own awkwardness, I say, when they realize they’ve crossed a line and asked a personal question. It would be one thing if each person would ask once – but in my experience people ask a million times over. I think it just takes one humiliating, jarring response to get them to stop cold.
What if a woman really were infertile and someone asked her that? How painful. It’s something that I think other people need to learn and realize. You will not always get, “oh, we don’t know…” in response to that question. Sometimes you will get anger. Sometimes you will get tears. And sometimes you will get, “I don’t know if we can.”
Or maybe I should just get graphically detailed. “Well, we did try (x) position and it felt like a very breedworthy position to be in…” Would stop the prying, I guess.
In short, after amusing myself with this post – I ain’t tellin’ no one nothin’.
Post # 13
I’ve had conversations with friends and some family (my mom and my sil) about potential timelines and I’ll probably still tell them when the time comes–I’m not a blabbermouth, by any means, but I like having a few people I’m close to that I confide in, especially bc dh doesn’t like to talk about it as much as me, especially since the plans are on hold for now. The people I’ve told are super not pushy–they only talk about it when I bring it up. Like, we thought we were going to start ttc last may but decided to wait bc of where I am with my career, and none of them have been pestering me about it since, lol, even the ones that I don’t think I’ve talked to about it since before then! so maybe it depends on your confidantes. mine aren’t pushy and it’s helpful for me to have people to discuss it with.
Post # 14
@redheadem: Oh no, I wouldn’t mention it at all! Not until I was a few months pregnant anyway,
Post # 15
I have! Just told people our rough timeline, which will be April. I didn’t tell everyone, just my mom, sister and a couple close friends. I’m not very good at keeping my own secrets! Although I will make myself be better about it when I actually get PG.
Post # 16
I just say we aren’t sure. Which is sort of true since who knows when it will happen.