- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
So my bees, I wrote a post a few week back about one of my bridesmaids (postedbelow)
Hello my bees. So I am in a really awkward situation for myself.
Pre-Warning, may be a tad long.
So my whole bridal party is made up of family except for one person! I have had no problems with any of them and I really hope not too! Seeing as i don’t see the point in getting into with any of them. The one person that is not family and is a friend will call her C. We have only known eachother since May 2012.
Yes it is a very recent friendship and we have been planning since Feb. I wasn’t going to add her at all but my fi being his nice self lol added C bf to his side which made C by defult add to my side. I didn’t have a problem with it because we were growing close. The 4 of us hung out a lot almost every weekend.
Fast Forward to August:
All of that changed come August. They just dropped of the radar completely! Fi and I wondered if we did something you know? The last we saw them was for my birthday in July and C bf birthday. (Which didn’t go well on Fi and C bf side, another long story). We thought that was what distanced them from us because they blame themselves for what happened which is true but we looked past it so we weren’t sure why we were being ignored.
Then finally we started to hear from them here and there.
Fast Forward to last month September:
We thought everything was going fine and that they were just really busy that why we all stopped hanging out a lot. Which was fine we all have lives. We saw them once last month to hang out on the strip. But they ditched us after an hour. Which was wierd. Again Fi thought we did something.
I sent out the timelines for Dec 6 and Dec 7th to everyone so they know what was going on. Thats when we heard from them again but all they said was “We got your mail, fyi” and I was glad to hear from them but when I tried to text back nothing. (they are not phone call people, trust me! lol which sucks cause I am. lol)
My whole family especailly my aunty (Matron of Honor) does not like her C at all. Everytime we do something that brings up the bridal party my aunty asks why she is still apart of it because she is pretty much MIA. They have all made their opinions for the last 4 months. They even told me to find out if they really want to be a part of this wedding. I didn’t really ask that until today. Becasue I had no other choice.
My father called to ask if they really wanted to be a part of it becasue they never sent in a RSVP. It never bothered me they didn’t because they were a part of the bridal party. But, my parents are paying for the full thing and my father is the one making the seating chart to take that stress off of me which was greatful of him! 😀 So i text C.
I told her “My parents want to know if you two are really coming to the wedding cause they never received your RSVP.”
((As a person i just cut to the chase and say how it is.))
She then responded with ” Well I”M SORRY i figured because we were in the wedding party.. We didn’t have to send the RSVP BACK TO YOU.. but if necessary then I’ll send it tomorrow.”
I told her that would be great and stated it was for my father and i didn’t really care.
She again responds, “SORRY, ILL SEND IT TOMORROW.”
That was the end of the conversation. At this point I am not sure what is going on :(. I can’t tell by her texts if they are just showing up to show up because they already commited. I know I am going to hear it again from the family lol this week when i see them and not really sure what to tell them this time. That yea she said she will send it in and they go yeah right. Whatever. lol
Bees… I am not sure if i want advice, your opinions on C. I have already posted in previous post a while back that a few of my girls made me feel like a horrible bride and you all made me feel happy again. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hi-my-bees.
So i don’t know if its me, If its the whole ordeal that happened with FI and C bf. I just don’t know but I have a gut feeling they just hate us. lol
Sorry for making it a novel. Thank you for reading this far if you did! 😀
Since that post I have NOT heard from her & my Fi has not heard from his dude either (they are a couple). Not to mention they never sent the rsvp back! lol I am not sure what to do at this point. While i was speaking with my mom && aunty (matron) they both really are fed-up with her. Pretty much saying that she better not show up at the events && be miss attitude. Not to mention they don’t see the point in somone standing next to me that hasn’t really been a part of shit.
I don’t blame them becuase she has really not set a great impression but as for me, i am kind of over it already! I am sick of trying to reach out to her && i am to the point where i am asking myself, “Can you just tell her it be best not to be a part of the wedding party??” ughhh!!!!
Would you tell this person to step-off of the wedding party?? If so how would you do it?? or would you just let it be??