Would you tell her?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I say anything
    Yes : (3 votes)
    5 %
    No : (56 votes)
    95 %
    I have another opinion (explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    The relationship is over.  No use pouring salt in the wound.

    Post # 4
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    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Why do you think this?

    Has she been checked for STIs since they broke up?

    Post # 5
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    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  I would let it go. At the end of the day it’s not your business, and especially without any proof, I would not open a new can of worms for her to obsess or wonder over. 

    Post # 6
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    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I would leave it alone and just support and encourage her in her new relationship.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What would be the point? Let the poor girl move on

    Post # 8
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    1373 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @mrs_pudding_pop:  Exactly this. Its over, just let her get over it. No sense giving her new information about an old sour relationship!

    Post # 9
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    10992 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @MsGinkgo:  I’m not sure I really understand your question or what you are hoping to accomplish by confonting your friend. 

    If she actually was in the situation that you’ve described, she obviously already knows that.  If she was not (and, even if she was), she may be very confused and hurt by your choosing to raise this issue. 

    Post # 10
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    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I would not saying anything since the relationship is long over. Further, you aren’t sure, you just have suspiscions.

    Post # 12
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    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MsGinkgo:  No don’t say anything. First, you don’t actually havey any confirmation that is true.  Second, it won’t help her move on to rehash an old breakup.  She’s with someone else, let her move forward.

    Post # 14
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    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    @MsGinkgo:  I still don’t think telling her would 100% change her thought process. It could make her feel even worse. Things have a way of spiraling. She might still think she did something wrong or wasn’t good enough, maybe even more so to “drive him to another woman”. It doesn’t always matter if even if there is solid proof that the guy is a total slime ball! Our emotions are not always rational.

    I think her feelings are somewhat normal. A lot of us feel like that after a long term relationship ends. Encouragement and getting her to let go of that negativity and focus on the positive will go a lot further. I hope her new relationship is a good one. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I probably wouldn’t say anything–even if you are right, she’ll just want to call him and demand answers–and no one wants that!

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