Post # 1
I just found out that 2 of my co-workers are having an affair with each other. They have been dating for several months according to the “girlfriend”, but I saw the husband with his wife at the grocery store last month which leads me to believe that she has no idea he is dating this other woman on the side. Both the husband and the girlfriend have a young child each which makes it even worse!
I normally don’t get involved in people’s business like this… I am just so disappointed in the husband because we used to work directly with one another and I thought he had more integrity than this. The girlfriend has been directly approached by another co-worker and she said they are trying to keep the relationship quiet. The girlfriend also said that the husband is going to leave his wife and family for her…?
I am not close with the husband’s wife and have only seen her at a few work events. I’m just wondering, if you were the wife and your husband was cheating would you want to know? Should I somehow anonymously tell her or just keep all this to myself?
Post # 3
This is a tough call. Honeslty, stuff like this pisses me off…mostly the girl. I would send an anonymous letter, and I would hope someone would do the same to me !
Post # 4
i would want to know. i get that it’s none of your business and all but from me if i was her, i would want someone-anyone to tell me.
if you do, you need to make sure you arent putting your job on the line at all.
It’s hard and most people will probably tell you to stay out of it. But i would want to know if it was me is all i’m saying.
Post # 5
Honestly, I would stay out of it. I’m usually pro-tell but these are coworkers more than friends. Professional relationships don’t really operate on the same level as solid friedships.
Post # 6
I would tell her too because I would want to know.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t tell. My point of view is that it’s not my business and I wouldn’t want to get involved in such a messy personal situation. Also, people have a tendancy to “shoot the messenger” in these kinds of situations
Post # 8
If you aren’t personally friends with the wife, I feel like it isn’t your place. How would you even contact her?
Post # 9
I would probably try to tell her in an anonymous way. I would just feel way too guilty not telling, but I also wouldn’t want it to be a shoot the messenger situation, nor would I want there to be drama at work. I would hope someone would do the same for me.
Post # 10
I would tell her only if I had absolute solid proof. Emails, pics, etc… If she was someone I knew closely I would do it in person. If not; Id probably do it anonymously but say its someone from work.
what a horrible situation to be in 🙁
Post # 11
I would want to know. And seriously, “he’s going to leave his wife for me” is very naive when he’s still doing things like grocery shopping together with his wife. Does the “girlfriend” understand that?
I’m sorry you’re in such a rough spot. But to answer your question, yes, I would absolutely want to know…especially since I’d probably be having unprotected sex with him. I would want to get tested ASAP.
Post # 12
This is a tough situation. Yes, I would want to know. BUT here’s the problem with your situation: You don’t know the wife that well, so if you were to tell her, it’s hard to know whether she’d believe you. She could very well accuse you of making things up (and she could possibly assume that you’re trying to break them up) – crazy, I know, but some women are like that. Secondly, this would put a lot of strain within your work environment if the cheaters discover that you spilled their “secret”. I absolutely agree that what they are doing is completely wrong – especially when there are children involved. But more often than not, you have to look out for yourself, so I might wait a bit. Things often come out anyway.
Post # 13
You don’t know anything about this guy’s personal life or his relationship with his wife, beyond seeing them at a grocery store. I really urge you to stay out of it.
Post # 14
This really threw me for a loop. I would want to know 100%. But I don’t know if I would tell someone, I know that is so hypocritcal even typing it makes me cringe. If it was someone I knew really well I would tell them (ex: my sister or super close friend) but just an acquaintance most likely not. It’s just too messy to get involved and a lot of women won’t believe you and might go crazy on you.
Post # 15
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I agree with sending something anonymously if you can.. because they are coworkers rather than close friends, it’s kind of a “mind your own business” situation.. but if I were the wife (or the girl’s husband/boyfriend) I would rather know than not know.
Post # 16
It’s none of your business so no, you don’t do anything.