Would you tell work you are TTC in this situation?

posted 2 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you tell work that you are TTC if your pregnancy may impact a big work project?
    Yes. I would tell my boss and let her make the judgement call. : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Yes. I would tell my team so that they know what they are signing up for. : (0 votes)
    No. I would try to hand project leadership to someone else without saying why. : (0 votes)
    No. I may not even get pregnant, so there's no reason to say a thing. : (37 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    13005 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I voted no, you may not even get pregnant right away.  Work has no place in knowing my family and TTC plan in my opinion.  I will work as normal until I am actually about to give birth.  And if you did get pregnant and have to leave at the end, there was 9 whole months (or 3-6 depending on when you announce) to get someone else up to speed. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Personally, I think that I would hold off on telling my boss, seeing as how I don’t think it would be very helpful, and just cause him or her to worry unnecessarily.  I come from the school of thought that you come to your boss with solutions, not problems, you know?  I think you should cross that bridge when you come to it.  Pregnancies within the workplace happen all the time, and everyone learns to deal with it.  I don’t think anyone will be mad if you end up pregnant!

    Maybe as a part of assembling a great team, you pick someone who you could trust to take over, and who you could start transitioning into your role should you get a BFP!

    Good luck with your TTC journey! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    6502 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

    lovekiss:  I would not tell my boss about my TTC plans, like other said, it might not happen immediately. I would wait at least until the first trimester is over to tell my boss only if I was very close to him/her and would be helpful to my pregnancy (maybe getting time off, work from home, avoid hazardous work enevironments, etc.). 

    I am not in the exact same situation as you, but I am finishing my PhD, and in a way I have certain deadlines I need to meet. In case we get lucky this coming December or beginning or next year, the goal is to give birth after my graduation. Now, being pregnant while in the program might affect me performance, but at least I would be working on my dissertation at that point and running a few experiments. My main concern is securing a job, but as I said, I might not get pregnant until we go through medically-assisted conception, and we get to decide when we’ll do that.

    I think you will be fine. 😉

    Post # 5
    Member
    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t tell my work until I was out of the first trimester. None of their business IMO, and they’re still going to have many months to find a replacement or work something else out.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4410 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Absolutely not. I would keep working hard at leading the project, and then whenever you do get pregnant, let them know early on so that a solid handover plan can be made for your maternity leave. Don’t put them on the alert for what it only a hypothetical at this point–what are they supposed to say? Do you not want to lead the project anymore? If that’s the case, then you should discuss that with your boss. But either way, I’d leave potential pregnancy out of it. 

    Fwiw, I am leading a complex project at work. We are finishing a 10-year study early next year and will need to start publishing our results at the end of next year….and I am pregnant and due in April. It’s going to be fine–I am training someone now who will fill in for me while I’m gone. This is life…people have to leave work for a multitude of reasons all the time. It will be just fine with your job, too. Don’t say anything until you have actual news for them, you know?

     

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