(Closed) would you tell your sister in law she wears too much make up?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think if I was in your situation I wouldn’t talk to her directly since you are not really close, because she may think you’re being rude instead of helpful. Maybe I would say something if the subject ever come up, like a conversation about girly stuff I would say something like: “Do you ever tried a light foundation, it would be gourgeus on your eyes… etc”, or something like “This look would be so good on you” using some example.

But frankly I think you mostly have to stay out of it, and let her mother talk to her about it, after all she’s already and adult, and she can do as she wants.

Post # 4
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sasi:  I feel like it would just hurt her feelings. I’m sure she was offended when others in her family told her she wore to much makeup, and I’m sure she considered it. But ultimately, it’s up to her to dictate her appearance and I think if she wants to wear a lot of makeup, it’s her choice. Maybe just explain to your husband that you don’t feel comfortable talking to her about it, and want don’t want to hurt her feelings. 

Post # 5
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think id keep my mouth shut. That’s like saying ‘should I tell my SIL she’s overweight?’. Um, no. That’s none of your business and would hurt her feelings

Post # 6
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Catholic church followed by a botanical conservatory

If your husband thinks his sister wears too much makeup, he should tell her because they are related. I am positive that she would not appreciate hearing this from you.

And if the rest of the family has already told her, she probably doesn’t care. Hearing it from you will probably just make her upset. Good luck dear!

Post # 8
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sasi:  Absolutely not! If she won’t listen to the people in the family, who she’s known all her life, why would she listen to you? And, worst case, what if her reply is, “Did my family tell you to say something?”

Stay out of it. I *might* if it was something cancer threatening, but this is something far, far less serious.

Post # 9
1227 posts
Bumble bee

She’s a 40 year old woman, not a child. If she wants to cake on her makeup that’s her prerogative. She’s not hurting anyone. No, you shouldn’t say anything and frankly, neither should your husband. 

Post # 10
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If your close then maybe you could go shopping one day and get your makeup done, although as you said she’s redone it after a mua has done it before.

Otherwise then I wouldnt say anything, for all anyone knows she might have BDD or feel insecure without it on. +loads of women wear tonnes of makeup so it’s not so stand outish anyway.

Post # 11
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t get involved.  It’s none of your business.  It’s also none of your husband’s business, but if he really has something to say he should tell her directly instead of getting you caught in the middle.

Post # 12
12885 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I personally would not unless you have a really, really good and open relationship with her. 

Post # 14
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t say anything.  She’s had her makeup done by a professional and she’s clearly insecure in changing the way it’s done.  She’s 40 and a grown woman and has eyes for herself and has been told before.  I don’t think telling her will help.  It will probably crush her self esteem and make her resent you.  Don’t do it!

Post # 16
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sasi:  Stay out of it. No good will come of you saying anything to her.

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