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I don't think I would think anything of it.  Maybe there is another title you can give her in the program tho??  Just a thought on my part, but I say Go With It!!!

I think it's awesome that you'd have her as your flowergirl.  I doubt anyone would think less of her/you, but rather would think it's a clever way of having her in your wedding.  After all, the point is that you want her up there with you, right? 

I would feel kind of weird if a friend asked me to be a flowergirl.  I do however like the idea of all of the bridesmaids carrying baskets and dropping petals.  Could you include her as a bridesmaid (even if it means uneven numbers) and have all your girls drop flowers?   I think that would be neat, and then no one would have the title of flower-girl, which seems a little demeaning.  Plus, you would have tons of beautiful petals on the aisle!

A few months ago a friend of mine got married, she had originally planned on not having a flower-girl, but at the [very] last minute (about an hour prior to the ceremony) decided she HAD to have FLOWER petals sprinkled down the aisle. Her personal atttendant rand out and bought some roses and stood in as a flower girl. She had so much fun doing it, the petals were laid out fairly evenly...the only thing I would have changed would have been to have 2 people do it...just for the look of a pair walking down. It was a big hit with everyone...and I have to give a little credit to bridezilla for deciding to do it, it turned out well.

Personally, i would just add her as a BM. It does seem a little demeaning that your 3 other friends, that are probably just as old, are BM's but your other friend that is next on the list has to be the flowergirl. I would think that it would cost you (in money spent on a bouquet or on a basket and flower petals) almost just as much to have her as a BM than it would to have her be the FG. Do the other 3 BM's know your other friend well? Maybe they would have insight as to whether or not she would be offended or not. In the end, its your day and you get to do what you want!!  =)

I think she should just be a bridesmaid.  So your numbers are uneven?  So what!  There are creative ways to make your pictures look balanced.  And remember, guys have two arms - one of your groomsmen can just walk down the aisle with two ladies on his arms instead of one.  What guy wouldn't want a hot lady on each arm?

On a side note, my fiance played trombone in a wedding last summer where the bride had a groomsmaid.  He wore a tux like everyone else on the guys side, but he stood on the bride's side.  The funny part was that the bride had him hold a bouquet too.   He didn't look thrilled to be holding a bouquet, but I suppose it made him fit in with the other bridesmaids. ;)

This kind of reminds me of my cousin's wedding a few years ago... A (somewhat older, I guess), friend of hers was actually the one who set her up with her husband on a first date.  After they were dating a while, they joked that she would be thier flower girl if they got married... and she was!  I forget the term they used as her title- it wasn't "flower girl," unless it was in another language... it was very cute though, and everybody thought it was sweet, I think.

In the end, it is your wedding, and you can choose to do whatever you would like.  My only advice would be to make sure that your friend is ok with being a flower girl and not a bridesmaid... if she's ok with it, and you are too, then go for it!   Good luck with whatever you decide!  

im in agreement with most posts that u should just make her a BM if u want her to actually walk in the wedding. if not, then have her do some other tasks, i.e. guestbook, hand out programs, etc. but making her a flower girl is kind of demeaning.