Post # 1
My FI bought my engagement ring about 2.5 years ago when we had just moved and were really pretty poor. Now that we are much better off, he’s embarassed by how small it is and has talked about getting me at least a nice band, if not a bigger diamond. If you got a small ring would you upgrade? Or do you have sentimental value to the diamond itself? Just curious what others would do. 🙂
Post # 3
But we specifically chose a large diamond because I can’t stand the idea of “upgrading.”
Post # 4
I don’t like the though either, but FI is so embarassed and sad he didn’t pay more that he didn’t even want to have it photographed in our engagement pictures and squirms a little when I show it off!
Post # 5
I really don’t get why upgrading is such a big deal. When I bought my set I knew I would upgrade in like 10 years when we’re financially stable to do so. We’re still students and not everyone can get their dream ring right from the start!
Post # 6
My FI is so proud of this ring that even if I wanted to change it I wouldnt have the heart to do it. Luckily, I love everything about it and don’t want to ever change it :). Besides, the diamond is what I consider sentimental.
Post # 7
I’m not sure what I consider sentimental!! Ugh this stresses me out. I think about this from time to time, then remember why I stopped lol – I am so conflicted that it makes me nervous for NO reason. I’d like a bigger/different one someday, but I don’t know if I would regret it or what I should choose to change (diamond or setting or both)
Post # 8
Yep. Same here, it stresses me out! I do not like the thought of upgrading at all. Because what he got for me is so special (and really I do think it’s beautiful). However if he offered to get me a bigger diamond now that he can afford it, would I turn it down? Idk!
Post # 9
I’m not opposed to upgrading. He wants to be proud of the ring he got you, so let him do it! Not everyone can afford the ring of their dreams from the beginning.
Personally, I love my ring and have no plans to upgrade, but if my future hubby wanted to get me something twice the size or something, there would be no opposition from me ^_^
Post # 10
I can see both sides of this, and think you should do whatever is best for you, since this decision only effects you guys! I like the symbolism that the smaller ring gives of starting out “living on love” so to speak. I think it speaks more to how far you have come together and the life you’ve built!
Post # 11
My ring has the flexibility of upgrading to a bigger stone.
When my FI and I were looking at rings I fell in love with the halo style, but had fears of losing the center stone like what happen to his mom several years ago. When I had expressed this to the jeweler, he took a cluster of diamonds that was meant for a stud earring and placed it in the middle of my ring to create my “training diamonds” (my FI calls them that) until I’m ready for a bigger diamond.
Post # 12
We bought my engagement ring with the understanding that we would upgrade my stone. I wanted my setting to be my forever setting but honestly DH could not care less. If I decided I wanted to upgrade the setting, he’d go along with that.
Post # 13
My husband would die if I asked to upgrade. I have a 1.18 center stone and wouldn’t mind upgrading only to about 1.50.
(I was perfectly fine with my stone till I saw some beauties on this site!)
Post # 14
I originally thought I’d be open to getting a larger stone down the line but the more I think about it, I’d rather spend the money on a fabulous vacation or upgrades on a house. My center stone came from a family heirloom so I’d put it back into the original setting rather than trade it in. When push comes to shove, I’d rather spend the $10-$15,000 on something other than a new diamond.
Post # 15
I am not opposed to upgrading, but my husband wouldn’t hear of it. He doesnt mind buying me a new ring, as long as I kept the original as well. Says that it was the ring that appeared in all our wedding photos… Lol… Normally he is rational as hell (an engineer), but for this he operates very emotionally me thinks….
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
this is something i had never heard of until i joined the Bee… i dont think upgrading is common at all in the UK!
personally – i dont like the idea of upgrading – FI picked out my ring without any imput from me and i think he did an amazing job.
for me its not about improving on size or cost – its the sentimental value of the ring as a whole; stone and band. i would never want to replace it because i wanted something bigger/shinier/different. if FI wanted to spend more on me then i personally would go for stacking rings or a stunning eternity ring to add to my set rather than rework what i had.