Post # 1
My fiance and I always thought we would upgrade my e-ring later on in life when we had more disposable income, but now I’m sure I won’t. I love my ring and it’s plenty big, but he still wants to upgrade. This is what changed my mind:
Either the first or second Christmas with my fiance (then boyfriend), he got me a beautiful pair of diamond stud earrings. They were pretty small (.25 ctw), but really sparkly. I wore them all the time. I’d had them for about a year or so and one day as we were walking through the mall, we decided to trade them in at Kay Jewelers for a bigger pair. Naturally, I was excited at the idea of a bigger pair, but when it came time to hand them over, I almost wanted to cry. A sudden surge of sentimentality came over me, I didn’t want to give them up because they had more meaning than I realized–it was the first diamond jewelry my fiance had given me. Ultimately, I gave them up and now I wear the new pair almost everyday. I like my new earrings becaue they’re pretty, but they don’t have the same sentimental value as the first, smaller pair. I miss those earrings and looking back, I wish my fiance had just gotten a whole new pair of earrings instead of trading them in.
I also think the way we went about it was less special also. Maybe if he had traded them in and presented me with the new earrings in some special way, I wouldn’t feel this way. But whatever the case, I urge anyone considering an upgrade to really think about it.
So in conclusion, I know now that I could never part with my e-ring. If he wants to upgrade, he’s just going to have to get a whole new ring and not trade my e-ring. I just wanted to put that out there for any brides who are considering upgrading. Anyone have a similar situation or unsure if they would upgrade their rings?
Post # 3
Let him buy you a great past, present, future or right hand ring but keep your baby! That ring will remind you of who you were and the feelings you felt the first time he slipped it on your finger… plus your right hand is probably feeling lonely!
Post # 4
I thought I might do this before we got engaged – I wasn’t expecting a huge diamond since we’re really young. But FI got me a 1-carat ring, which I love. Also, he recently told me that he felt that he picked my specific diamond out specially and would probably be hurt if I traded it. So I don’t think we’re doing it anymore.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I would absolutely upgrade if I decided that’s what I wanted to do. I don’t get that attached to things, usually; maybe I’m just not a sentimental person. A diamond is just a diamond, not the relationship it stands for. I wouldn’t trade in my relationship. 🙂 I don’t care that much about the ring.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
My FI wanted to upgrade my ring at first, since the one he proposed with was supposed to be just a trade in. But I grew attached to it, and refused to trade it in when we went to the jeweler. The other rings just didn’t look special to me. I’m glad I kept it, even though it’s cheaper than what he expected to pay. I like the fact that he picked it out himself. 🙂
Sorry to hear about your earrings, though 🙁 Do you have a picture of you wearing them at least? At least you have the memories, that’s the important part!
Post # 7
I don’t think I could trade my e-ring either. I would feel better about it if I kept the same band and just traded the center stone, but in all honesty, I love my ring the way it is and what it means to me!
Post # 8
Maybe instead of trading in the ring, you can just upgrade the solitaire in it and keep the original setting? That’s what we’ll probably end up doing, although probably not for a very long time.
I know for my wedding band, which came with my e-ring, neither of us are in love with it. We got quotes done to get two new ones made, one for either side. Since my e-ring has a type of split band, a straight wedding ring won’t sit flush against it. They’ll have to be custom made.
Post # 9
I totally would, but I would also downgrade my setting if that makes sense. I’d drop one or both of my 3/4 carat bands off in favor of a larger center stone (which i think would look better with my very wide band in all honesty–right now it’s the same thickness and doesn’t stand out much). Well, I think I would. Who knows, it might just look awesome if i keep the bands. But i’m not overly attached to the stone he necessarily proposed with…I’m just not really a sentimental person who gets attached to things. If presented with the opportunity (say a 10 year anniversary) to trade in my stone or get something new, I could see myself trading it in! I’ve even mentioned it to him before–and he’s cool with it as long as he asks me first, not me asking him for an upgrade..otherwise he said i seem greedy. He wants it to be an original idea from himself I guess…if that makes sense.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t trade my e-ring in. Actually, I made it a point to let my FI know that whatever I started out with, I would keep. Neither of us believe in upgrading rings. So he designed my ring for me with that in mind. I don’t wear other rings at all…I never intend to…my e-ring and wedding band will be it so he made sure they were both fabulous.
Post # 11
nah… i’d keep the one he got for me, especially because he has put such an emphasis on picking it out and surprising me.. that baby will be glued to my left finger fuh-eva!! or at least until it’s time for one of our grands to get married, then i’ll let it go to them… sigh…
Post # 13
I never thought of myself as the sentimental type which is why I always thought we’d upgrade and also why I was so surprised how I felt when it was time to trade the earrings.
Thanks for all the feedback! I’m pretty new here and this place rocks!
Post # 14
My husband didn’t have a ton of money when he bought my ring, and while he never suggested upgrading, if he offered, I would do it.
My ring is a halo setting with diamonds all around the band and center stone. But the center stone is about .32 carats. It’s perfect cut, clarity and color, but yeah, it’s small. I have large fingers, so sometimes, it makes me fingers look bigger than they are. I love it. I really do. But yeah, I’d be happy with an ungrade 🙂
Post # 15
My engagement ring was my grandmother’s…so definitely not!
Post # 16
My original band broke, so we took the main stone out and had it reset into a new setting and band that I totally consider an upgrade. I loved my ring before, but I absolutely adore it now.