Would you use a ” Nanny Cam”?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I probably wouldn’t use one. As someone who has baby sat and nannied since I was 12, I think their use would imply that you don’t trust your caregiver, which begs the question, what on earth are you doing leaving your child with someone you don’t trust 100%? I think it would also make your caregiver less likely to authentically play with your child and let their guard down.

Plus there’s awkward stuff, like would you want to be filmed while having an epic burping contest with a 7 year old boy? Blowing raspberries and making silly faces at an infant? Dancing around the living room with the kids, rocking out to Hannah Montata? I think not. Part of being a good caregiver is making a genuine connection with the child, and I think that would be hindered by a nanny cam. I’d put the time and effort into finding a caregiver I really trusted, most likely with solid references from people I personally know.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If I didn’t know the person, I would seriously consider it. My daughter is nearly 4 and because of her autism, her verbal/conversation skills are very limited. If (God forbid) something ever happened to her while I wasn’t around, I don’t have the luxury of being able to talk to her about it, or have her tell me about it. So… hopefully that would be understandable, just for the first few weeks while her new sitter settles in. I would probably tell them we had it set up without going into detail of location, and they can opt out of working with us if it makes them uncomfortable.

Someone I knew, absolutely not.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

In today’s world? I’d absolutely use one.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I would definitely call references and research them on care.com (or similar) but I don’t forsee myself going as far as using a nanny cam, assuming everything is normal.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No I wouldn’t, I wouldn’t want someone watching me when I’m not aware that is such an invasion of privacy.  That being said I could see using one if you told them it was there.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I had any concerns at all about the quality of care, I wouldn’t hesitate for a hot minute. My ultimate responsibility is to keep my child safe. A caregiver’s privacy would be the least of my concerns.

If all I saw was a burping contest, I would hit the delete button.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Yeah, I probably would. Hear too many stories these days :/

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Here’s the thing. Unless your child is an early talker (mine chattered by 14 months), they would be unable to tell you anything about what goes on in their day with a person who is supposed to be caring for them. All kids fall down and get some bruises, but if you aren’t with them to explain how they got there and suddenly you start noticing ‘little things’ that are unsettling,what do you do? You can ask politely, but you should always allow your radar to pick up on non-verbal cues, and when something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.

I had my sister watch my daughter from 6 weeks until a year, at which point I put her in daycare. Everything seemed great at first, but over time, little things started to make me wonder what was going on? Her diapers never seemed to be getting used and she started getting rashes, she would go crazy when she saw the golden arches and start yelling Eat! Eat!, 2 minutes after I picked her up, and at least once a week she had a small injury … a gash on her forehead or a bruise on her cheek or a cut on her knee. I was a young Mom and thought it was all normal. 🙁

I WISH they had cameras they used in those days, and I wish I knew more about how people were treating my child. My Mom and I paid an unannounced visit to find out what was really going on, and we saw plenty. She never went back.

I sent a letter to the corporate office asking them to do a spot inspection, and the entire staff was replaced within two weeks.  

A camera would have been a blessing and saved me from the guilt I felt knowing I’d left her in a pretty dangerous situation, at a place that came highly recommended and cost a small fortune.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m nowhere close to being a mom. I do tend to have a distrustful nature, maybe it’s a little bit of paranoia, about leaving children. I would absolutely have a nanny cam, and the caregiver would know that I have one, but not where it is exactly. I’ve heard too many stories of neighbors being molested by their uncles while being babysat by them, of kids getting injured and no one knowing why….I’d rather know everything than guess at anything. That’s always been my nature though, across the board in every way. Unless it were specifically my sister, 2 best friends, or SO, I wouldn’t 100% trust anyone with my child. (My mother is a moron and SO’s mother is a smoker, I can’t imagine her going an extended amount of time cig free)

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

@Eva Peron:  No,no,no! lol My sister watched her for a year and there were no problems, but she had one exactly a year older and was pregnant again, so handling mine was becoming too much for her. I put her in a well-known daycare center, which is where everything went wrong.

Sorry if I didn’t explain it right.

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