Post # 1
I guess my question is pretty clear in the title. I just woke up with an extremely sore throat – hurts A LOT when I swallow. We live in a tiny one bedroom apt. so I came out into the main room to make some tea and play on the computer for a while. I was tempted to wake my SO up – but I’m not sure what, if anything that would accomplish – so not doing that. I am just curious as to what others think as this hasn’t come up before…
Post # 2
missadventure85: I always wake him to tell him I am not feeling good
Post # 3
Ok, the answer in your situation is a resounding no, don’t wake him!
But if you need him (example, when I was having chest pains and thought I was having a heart attack) then wake him up. But he does not need to be woken just to be told of a sore throat/ laringitis/ tonsilitis.
Feel better quickly, by the way!
** edited to add I am a nurse (don’t work in this field anymore though) so I am pretty capable of caring for myself unless it is dire, please don’t think me harsh.
Post # 4
In your situation, no. Waking him is just going to make him feel guilty because he can’t help.
But in certain situations, hell yeah I wake him up! 🙂
Post # 5
Olivepepper: lol don’t worry not coming off as harsh. I had already decided that this situation wasn’t wake up SO worthy. I guess I was just questioning it because I hadn’t thought of this before.
Seems like a good rule of thumb though – only wake them up if you actually have something concrete you need them to do and/or you’re not in control of yourself at all (like have difficulty breathing or something?).
Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 6
What would be the point of waking him? Unless I needed help or thought it was serious, I’d let him sleep.
Post # 7
I can take care of myself if I have a sore throat, so no need to wake the man. If I was in serious pain or needed help or to go the hospital, of course I’d wake him.
Post # 8
missadventure85: Not in this case, but only because you don’t require E.R. care. Otherwise, if that were the case I would have said you should.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t wake him in this situation. I obviously would if I am in severe pain or it’s an emergency, but if I don’t need his help there’s no point. The only other situation that I would wake him in is if I were vomiting. I hate hate throwing up and prefer if someone is there with me.
Post # 10
I don’t wake up my FI. Last week I woke up at 3AM with vomiting and we too live in a small one bedroom apartment. I went and shut the door to the bathroom so I wouldn’t wake him but he said he heard me in there anyway and said he yelled to see if I needed anything but I didn’t hear him so he said he rolled back over and went back to sleep lol he was so concerned 😉
Post # 11
missadventure85: I only woke him up if it was really serious. Even when I drank too much, I will try to throw up as quietly as I can so I don’t wake him up lol
Post # 12
I usually try not to. Ive only had to wake him once when I did something to my neck – I turned over in bed and then suddenly my neck went into spasm. I woke FI because I literally couldn’t get up – any movement at all was excruciating and I needed him to go get some pain killers for me. (And fetch the phone so I could call in sick)
But usually if it’s something I can deal with myself like migraine or period cramps then I go to another room and try and let him sleep.
Post # 13
Nah, I never wake him unless absolutely necessary or if I’m vomiting like WannaBeeMrsB: said. Funnily enough, he usually wakes up on his own if he senses me being restless or feels me get out of bed, and then he’ll ask what’s wrong.
Post # 14
I hate having other people around me when I’m sick… so I’d go off on my own and do my best not to wake DH.
Post # 15
missadventure85: No way would I wake up him; I think that’s so unfair.
If I was very worried (eg thought I might need to go to hospital), then yes I would. But for a sore throat/bad stomach/similar? Nope, no way!