Post # 1
Sooo here’s a lil back story. FI and I have very good friends Brad and Riley and of course they were invited to our wedding. Brads brother Mark and his fiance Dannica are acquaintances of ours, they did not get invited to the wedding (apparently they were kind of upset about it), Mark and Dannica are getting married this August. FI and I are having a destination wedding and have limited spots available so we only sent out invited to family and good friends. Our date has passed for the deposit to be paid and all our spots are full so it doesnt matter either way. Wellllll today I go to the mail and theres an invitation to Mark and Dannica’s wedding! I feel sooooooo bad that we didnt invite them to ours now, I know you dont have to invite everyone that invites you but I cant help it because apparently they told Brad and Riley they thought they were going to be invited to ours! I should also say that FI and I were NOT expecting in any way shape or form to be invited to their wedding, the only time we see them is if we all hang out mutually, Ive never even texted Dannica to hang out or anything, like we see each other at BBQ’s and parties and stuff and thats it. Should I talk to Dannica about it and explain why they didnt get invited? Will that be too akward? or just let it be……
Post # 3
So first, are these their real names? If yes, you might want to make it more anonymous in case the other bride is on the Bee! Maybe give them pseudonyms or something (which you might have already done – just checking!) 🙂
Second, have you sent the invites? If no, you shouldn’t address this until after you do. If yes, you could let them know that because it’s a DW, you didn’t have space (but remember, you are not obligated to tell them anything – they are not close friends of yours and you don’t owe anyone an explanation regarding who you choose to invite). Alternatively, you can say nothing and place them on the “B List” and send them an invitation if space opens up when/if someone declines (if you want them at your wedding).
Post # 4
Are you having an at-home celebration after your wedding? You may want to send them a courtesy invite. Make sure to say “unfortunately we weren’t able to invite everyone we would have liked to have to our destination wedding….” etc.
Post # 5
I think this bride totally understands that destination weddings are different than home weddings. If I were here, I’d feel more embarrassed about getting the totally late invite…they invited you knowing they were not invited to yours. I’d just accept the invite and enjoy your wedding! Maybe you could take them to dinner to toast the upcoming nuptuals?