Post # 1
Personally, I don’t. And I told my SO this yesterday. Reason being, I don’t know how to handle anxiety over something like that lol He told me he wouldnt say a word or give one hint. I’m very very satisfied with that.
However…..I’ve seen posts with women who have snooped and asked and it has made them seem quite resentful to not have had the proposal even though he has the ring. Lol I don’t think I’d get that curious or upset, just different stuff for different people.
Would you want to know if your SO is about to buy the ring or if he already has? Why or why not?
Post # 3
I voted yes because I did know when my Fiance bought my ring and it made me relax so much. Knowing that he would propose was all I needed to stop stressing. I know it’s the opposite for lots of women, but for me I was much less anxious when I knew he had the ring. 🙂 he proposed about 3 months later and I only started to get kind of anxious the last couple weeks or so.
Post # 4
@sleepyhead22: I’m with you on this. Right now I’m just waiting, with not even a shred of evidence that he’s is serious when he says (anybody can say anything) that he wants to marry me and is working on bringing himself there (which kills me, needless to say… you don’t HAVE to bring you to do this, you doof, you should WANT it). He spends his time telling me how amazing I am, how smart I am, how he can’t live without me and wants to spend his life with me (again, just talk!!) Anyway, if he had a ring, YES that would reassure me a big deal! Can’t deal with words anymore, need something concrete!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want to know. As much as I’m looking out for all the signs for when he’s going to pop the question, I think knowing that he has a ring would make me analyse everything so much more. It would be a major distraction away from what I actually need to be focussed on until he actually does propose! 😀 He requested my ring size and for an idea of what I like. And now that he’s got that it’s up to him to decide on the ring and when he’s going to propose!
Post # 6
I wish I could know but I won’t be asking. I think my SO is proposing on a certain date and if he isn’t it’s going to be hard to pretend I’m not heartbroken. If I knew he had the ring it would make it easier to just enjoy the day instead of constantly trying to prep myself in case I’m wrong.
Post # 7
@HopefulSim: yup same here. id drive myself crazier if i knew he had it and the wait time until he propsed, lol. he wants the element of surprise so he asked for my wishlist of rings so its a matter of time until it happens
Post # 8
@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers: No, as I wouldn’t have wanted the surprise to be ruined
Post # 9
I don’t want to know when he actually has gotten one, but I am currently happy that I know SO is atleast looking into rings and is showing more interested in them.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t want to specifically be told, but I wouldn’t mind accidentally finding out! I think it would set my mind at ease to know that he finally pulled himself together and had a plan!
Post # 11
@sleepyhead22: That’s what I want! Pick a ring together and then HAPPILY wait, instead of miserable wait!
Post # 12
I want to know that my SO is in the process of buying a ring so that I can know it’s coming and get excited
but i don’t want to know when he HAS bought the ring because then I will go NUTS waiting, and just too much emotional madness.
knowing he is looking seriously helps calm the “what if he never proposes” even if u know he will without causing u to think everything is a proposal and feel guilty/weird about spoiling the surprise like i would if i knew he bought it.
Post # 13
No. I know the ring is ready to be picked up, but I told my Boyfriend or Best Friend the other day not to bring it into the house because I can’t trust myself not to go searching for it when he’s out. We first looked at rings 4 years ago and he had it custom made last August, so my patience has already been stretched to the limits. If it’s in the house, it better be going on my finger that day, dammit:P Lol.
Post # 14
I voted no. Just because, knowing my SO, he would want it to be a complete surprise. I love when he suprises me because he’s so cute about it and it makes him so happy like he’s so sneaky 😛
I wouldn’t mind knowing if it was because he wanted me to pick out the ring myself. That would be ok. Otherwise…knowing he has it, I would just feel like “Is it going to be now? now? How about now?….now?” I’d go nuts.
Post # 15
I agree with PPs, I think that knowing he’s in the process of looking would be okay, but i voted “no” because I think knowing that he had it would take some of the romance out of it… I honestly have no idea where he is at in the process, but I know he’s going to marry me, so that’s that.
Post # 16
I voted yes. If I knew I think I would relax a little bit more.