Would you wear a "sexy" Halloween costume if SO objected?

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Would you wear the costume anyway?
    yes : (23 votes)
    20 %
    no : (67 votes)
    58 %
    maybe or other (explain) : (25 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1018 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Orchidgirl80:  I replied no but to be honest I wouldn’t wear one to begin with. BUT I’ve been with my SO for 8 years and if he said it made him uncomfortable then I would change, no big deal.

    But if I really loved it, and he said I looked like a whore and was disrespecting him I’d just dump him and wear it anyway. I’m not his accessory and I’m not there to make him look good. Obviously if I were the type of person who wanted to wear the slutty costumes – he should have known that.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d wear one, I have. My FI would never object. He encourages me to wear them, even when it’s not halloween.

    ETA: my FI doesn’t find it disrespectful. He’s proud of me, and my age and what I have to show off, and so am I. I’m 39, look in my 20’s, 130 pounds, fit, after having 2 children!  Most people my age that I went to high school with, look like they are 10-15 years older and are over weight. So, I like to show off too.  

     

    Post # 5
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

    @Orchidgirl80:  Honestly I wouldn’t wear it unless he wanted me to in the first place. I’m not exactly about flaunting my stuff!

    However, if he spoke to me like that…we’d have other issues.

    Post # 6
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    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I would probably just choose a different costume if mine made my FI uncomfortable, but I wouldn’t tolerate him saying I looked like a slut or whore. Sure my costume would probably be inappropriate, but so is saying disrespectful things like that 😉 If he respectfully and calmly told me that it bothered him, then I would consider changing.

    Post # 7
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Well doesn’t he sound pleasant? If he told me I couldn’t like that I might do it just to spite him. I don’t know. I’ve never dated anyone who had a problem with my “Sexy” costumes…not that they are outrageous or anything. 

    Post # 8
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Orchidgirl80:  I wouldn’t wear one anyway because I don’t like that kind of thing. I’d only expect my husband wouldn’t either.

    Assuming I did want to wear one and he said he hated the idea, then I wouldn’t do it. Small things, pick your battles, that kind of thing.

    Post # 9
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @Orchidgirl80:  If my SO didn’t like it, I would cover up or change my costume.  He would never demand that I not wear it but he would tell me that it makes him uncomfortable or he would prefer if I covered up more and I would respect that.  As a PP said though, my SO probably wouldn’t object and would actually encourage me to dress in a sexier costume.  This year my costume is pretty revealing but I plan on wearing flesh-toned shorts and a bra underneath it so there really isn’t anything on display.

    Post # 10
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    In this situation? Yes, because I would immediately be single after being called a slut and a whore.

    Post # 12
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    896 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I would not wear one regardless of what he likes because it would make me uncomfortable and it simply isn’t my thing.  With that being said, I would certainly get into a fight about him using such language when referring to me. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wouldn’t wear one to begin with. The skanky nurse, skanky cop, skanky hobo costumes were never my thing.

    Post # 14
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    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Orchidgirl80:  I voted ‘other’ because I detest ‘sexy’ Halloween costumes, so wouldn’t wear one anyway.

    However, if hypothetically I did want to wear one (which really I don’t see as massively different to going out in a short/fitted dress, or a top that shows cleavage) and my OH spoke to me like that, I’d probably show him the door; even if he was more polite and less aggressive about it, I would still find it controlling. He has no right to dictate what I wear, thank you very much.

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @vorpalette:  You took the words out of my mouth.

    OP, if it covers as much or as more as a bathing suit I wouldn’t see a problem. The whole “I own your body” thing is pretty sickening. The only objection I would find acceptable would be if a costume showed an inappropriate amount of skin for public. 

    Post # 16
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wow I wouldn’t respond well to being told I look like a slut and a whore… I wouldn’t wear one if DH told me he wasn’t comfortable with it. I would expect him to return that favor as well.

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