Post # 1
I was just wondering where people stood on this. A friend of mine defines herself as a Navy Girlfriend, like he accomplishments fade into the background of his. She recently bought a navy camo tank that says Navy Girlfriend on it. Like i am just not comfortable advertising myself as a Navy wife.
I’m a Navy wife but I feel like that’s such a small part of who I am. If my husband were an accountant I wouldn’t wear a t-shirt that says Accountants Wife. I am proud of him and his accomplishments but I am not putting Navy Wife bumper stickers or t-shirts on. I don’t like when people have Navy Wife as an occupation on Facebook or use that status to solely define themselves.
Also would you ever wear your SOs BDU’s (camo uniform) for any reason? I don’t just because why would I? He doesn’t wear my work clothes lol. The only thing I have laid claim to is the PT sweatshirt that he doesn’t use anymore. It’s Soffee and sooooo comfortable
I’m just curious as to wear everyone else stands on this.
Post # 3
Im not a military wife, but if I was I don’t think I would advertise it. But I guess I can’t be sure because I’m not in the situation. I used to live near an army post and saw bumper stickers like that everywhere! Lol
Post # 4
My SIL wears some military wife stuff occasionally. I relate it to her also wearing football stuff. It’s not all she wears and she doesn’t use it to define herself (I seen that definition stuff before and I get what you mean). I have some union stuff that I wear to my DH’s union events, so kind of that kind of wearing that she does. I also do wear several sets of inherited BDUs from my brother and other family members. They are way better for working at the cabin in or hunting. Better quality and more comfortable than the camp stuff you buy at the store. I also only wear both pieces when hunting.
Post # 5
I will be a Army Wife Sept 21 of this year, I currently do not have any clothes that say Army girlfirend or wife. But I do have a sticker on my car the only one I actually have on my car and it says I love my Solider. My FI wants to get me a sticker for my car when we get married that says Army wife. And Im ok with that. 🙂 But thats it Im not a sticker on car type of girl lol
Post # 6
DH is in the army. I have a shirt with his infantry division on it. And a sweatshirt with the name, “Fort Carson” on it. I have a key chain that says, “Proud Army Wife”. I do have two pins that say “I love my soldier” with boots on it. The other is the fourth infantry division logo. But actual shirts or mechandise that say proud army wife? No.
Post # 7
I never thought about this. My boyfriend is in the air force and he just bought me air force stuff, a shirt and shorts, and I rep the crap out of them. I LOVE to wear them, because I know he likes it when I do, and I love the clothes, and I love it when people ask me about them. I proudly tell them all about him. I dk, I guess it’s different because it’s not like “proud air force girlfriend,” but still. I don’t think I would wear a shirt that said that but I dk.
Post # 8
Yeah, that stuff is definitely not for me! I have yellow ribbons every-damn-where, but no “proud army wife” stuff. I don’t consider myself some sort of raging feminist or anything, but you’re right — it feels like I’d be defining myself solely as that, instead of being my own person. Plus, my occupation is not “Army Wife” … my occupation is financial analyst and I make more $$$ than DH does 😛 he should get a shirt that says “financial analyst’s husband”! That being said, I am absolutely helpless to resist buying Army stuff for our upcoming baby. She’ll be an Army brat so she’ll definitely be wearing all that crap, haha! At least til she’s old enough to tell me to stop!
Post # 9
I am in the Navy and my husband has several shirts that say Navy Husband. I may be a little bias here but I think it is just a way for people to recognize the sacrifices that you have made as a military spouse! There are so many spouses out there that sacrifice so much for the military and this is a small way that you can be recognized! I totally understand if it is just not your thing to advertise it but that is another reason that military spouses so amazing is that they know what needs to be done and do it sometimes with their spouse over seas without even batting an eye or looking for recognition! Hoorah for military spouses!!
Post # 10
@shootznladrz89: My FI was in the marines and he wears his shirts that represent the marine corps. But I wouldn’t wear anything related to the military. I’m not or wasn’t in the military, so I wouldn’t feel right representing something I wasn’t apart of. FI put a marine sticker on my car without me knowing. It didnt bother me as much but I just feel its misleading on my image, with people thinking I was in the military. Idk, that’s just me. It’s like wearing a Yale university shirt and never attending. And about wearing a gf/wife military shirt? Definitely not. That’s my FI’s accomplishment, not mine. I’m so proud and honor my FI for being in the marines. But it’s his credit and success. Nor to offend anyone, Im speaking for myself, but to me if I was to wear marine wife shirt, I’ll feel like I want attention, like, “look at me, I’m with a marine.” That’s just how I will feel.
Post # 12
My FI is in the navy but I would never wear any of that stuff. He doesnt need me to wear something or have a bumper sticker or whatever for him to know I’m proud of him.
Post # 13
@shootznladrz89: I think the comparison is harder between servicemen and professional jobs. Yes, everyone is doing a job and providing a service, but servicemen benefit their entire country. I can see why a wife would be proud and maybe they use the clothes to spark discussion (I’d imagine deployments are lonely). I certainly don’t think it is a career, but I also don’t think being a stay at home is a career either. I think if it’s not hurting anyone and they are proud, then why not show it publicly 🙂
Post # 14
@shootznladrz89: Maybe your friend is just ridiculously proud of her guy. I have no problem telling people FH is retired Navy but I don’t need to wear it across my chest. I’m very proud of his accomplishments as he is of mine but I would be embarrassed if he wore something that advertised me or my position in an obvious way. Not my cup of tea.
Post # 15
I’m not a military wife/girlfriend…but that stuff kind of makes me cringe. Not a fan of clothing with big words on them unless you are at a sporting event or cleaning your house. Oh, and if you want to wear something that says “so and so’s wife” they also need to wear one that says “so and so’s husband/boyfriend”
Post # 16
Nope, never. My DH was a Marine and when he finished his time there he joined the Army National Guard. I would never wear any of that stuff neither does he. We don’t really talk to other people about his military life either though, it’s just a job to us. He also has a desk job working in medicare I can only imagine what that shirt would look like hahaha.