Post # 1
Ive been looking at wedding websites and decided to start one for my FI and I , there is a seciton on “how we met”…well we met on a on line dating site. but i wasnt there for love- my firend thought her bf was cheating and asked if i would search him our and see if it were true, i made a joke of that site saying “no one will ever find love..bla bla…and my FI thought it was histerical and thats why he emailed me, and everything was great…
do i actually write that on there, on our wedding website…its not a seceret ive told people that story before…I wasnt looking for love…but he found me… is there a way i could say it that is not….i dont even know…?? we are very off beat people and down to earth so its not like if i say it people would look at me like “wow” it would be like “lol they are so funny found love in strange places” so…what do you think???
Post # 4
Ehhhhh I personally wouldn’t write that, but that is just me. I would just put that you weren’t looking for love when it found you. You never know who you would offend or surprise, no matter how off beat you are, but it is your website so do what you would like. Congrats by the way.
Post # 5
If people already know and it’s a story you’re proud of I don’t really see a problem.
Post # 6
I would probably leave it out.
Post # 7
write whatever you want.
you can write the actual story,
or you can write that you found love in a place you weren’t expecting and talk about your first date.
or you can talk only about your first date
or you don’t have to use that section. the wedding website we used had predetermined pages and some extra pages but every page could be turned on and off.
it is entirely up to you.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t. I also just turned that page off on ours.
Post # 9
@AndysCraftsNmore: I actually thought it was amusing so I say post it especially if that’s really how you met. You two are the authors of your story so if this is how it began then roll with it I say! Then again I’m a little off (i.e. weird) myself so maybe that’s why I found it so funny.
Post # 10
@AndysCraftsNmore: i would write that, but our friends have a good sense of humor.
Post # 11
I know I won’t be writing the full story of how our relationship began. I mean, picture yourself as a staunch conservative reading this about your neice/granddaughter:
“Mr. Pham and I met through friends I lived with junior year. He was always coming over to our house and crashing on a couch when it got too late for him to go home. One night, he complained about how the couch was making his back hurt, so I told him he might as well come sleep in my bed with me! Boom. Relationship.”
I mean, honestly. Of course our friends know the whole story, but when relatives or family friends ask, I just tell them the first sentence and leave it at that 🙂
@ajillity81: talking about the first date is a good idea!
Post # 12
@AndysCraftsNmore: Depends on your personality. That would be considered funny if my friends read it. But if my BFF had that same story I don’t know it would have the same effect.
Post # 13
I think it would be interesting to hear that you weren’t actually looking for love but if I were your friend I don’t think I would want the whole story broadcast on your wedding website.
Post # 14
If it’s amuzing then why not, I’ve got on ours that while we actually first met when we were young (4), we reconnected after a 20 year gap after I FB’d him on an evening when I was drunk and misserable thinking “what have I got to lose?”
He later updated the text tomake it sound more romantic than I had!
Post # 15
Just to give some backstory, I met FI when I went over to his frat house to try and…get with another dude. Who had a girlfriend. Which I knew about (they are now married and divorced six months later, so I like to think I could have saved them some trouble, but whatever ;)). But yeah, went over to frat house to hang out with dude, ended up meeting FI, FI and I hung out with groups of his buddies/my friends a few more times, a few months later he asked me out on a date and I TOOK A FRIEND because I didn’t want him to think it’s a date…and eventually he asked enough times that I let him take me on a real date and here we are.
BUT. While that story is funny, and all my friends know it, and my parents know it…it’s not exactly a proud shining moment for me, or what I want distant relatives to be thinking about when we promise ourselves to each other forever. So, on our website, it says something about how we met in college when I went to his frat house to hang out. Truthful, but doesn’t make anyone look bad.
Similar instance: A friend of mine was casually hanging out with this other friend of mine. He really wanted to…ahem….get it in, but she said she won’t have relations with non-BFs. So he made her his girlfriend, fully intending on breaking up with her when the summer rolled around a month later, just so he could enjoy her…company. Well, two years later they got married. You think they put THAT on their wedding website? Hecccckkkk no!
So I would similarly edit your story – maybe you and a friend got online as a joke and wham bam, there was FI. I just personally wouldn’t want people thinking about how your friend had a sketchy boyfriend (and I’m assuming BF isn’t in the picture anymore…if he is, I DEFINITELY wouldn’t put that up there!).
tl;dr I wouldn’t. I think a wedding, and everything associated with it, should be about happy, positive memories, and I wouldn’t want to risk people seeing your story and thinking about your poor friend. At the minimum, leave out how she thought her BF was cheating, and you guys went on there as a joke to see if there was anyone you knew IRL.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I would write it! You can spruce it up a bit though, maybe just say you had joined the site not looking for love (instead of including the whole cheating boyfriend back story) and love found you.