Post # 1
SO informed me a few months ago that I get NO say in what the guys and him wear. He knows the basics like our colors and he’s the only one to be in a full suit but he says I get no say in anything else. In fact I don’t even get to see what he picks until the first look. His logic: he doesn’t get to see the dress, I don’t get to see the suit.
Fortunately for me he loves to pick expensive good-looking stuff but I’m still nervous!
Would anyone else let their grooms do this?!
Post # 3
I would have loved if FI wanted to go by himself, but no…he only went after I dragged him to the store. He did end up picking everything himself though, and I couldn’t be happier with his choices.
Post # 4
@wisher558: I’m actually letting my SO choose as long as he picks the correct color. I trust him completely since I know he has great taste and wants to keep the attire as classy as I do.
Unfortunately, there are some brides that take over everything so I think it’s fair to let the guys do what they want!
My SO is a groomsman in his friends wedding and it’s the BRIDE who is corresponding with the groomsmen as to what they are wearing and not the groom?! I think that’s quite outrageous! It’s as though she doesn’t want to groom to make his own decisions! At least talk about it together and let the groom tell his groomsmen!
Post # 5
@wisher558: Just the other day FI told me he had an outfit he wanted to wear. I was a little nervous but then I showed him what I want him to wear and it liked it. Lol. He wants to go with the Wyatt Earp look. Lol. Him and his family is like the Wyatt Earp personality era, lol. But I told him I’ll have his back up outfit just in case. Lol
Post # 6
I would feel totally fine letting him pick out a suit on his own but he wants me to help him. he dresses himself well, but mostly because he keeps it simple, he doesn’t care enough about fashion to make a big effort but he wants to look great!
Post # 7
Yes. He’s a big boy. I don’t dress him in the morning, he can pick out his and his guys’ wedding attire.
Post # 8
I knew that I wanted to have my DH and all of his groomsmen in formal, black, full-dress tails with white ties and white pique vests. We actually never even discussed any other options.
Post # 9
@wisher558: My FI has amazing dress sense so I totally trust him – he’s picking it out but he’s not opposed to me helping and being there when he shops around. I love the style he’s going for so i’m not being overly pushy with my own opinions, I know he’ll look super handsome! I love that he has his own opinion on at least some aspect of the wedding haha
I can understand you being nervous, I probably would be if I didn’t get any say or at least a look at it! But i’m sure he’ll do a great job, it’s harder to stuff up a suit so long as he’s got a good idea of what looks good and knows what colours to go for! 🙂
Post # 10
I brought up shoes the other day just to let him know there was a sale and he told me he wasn’t going to even look until he got his suit. And that he’d be buying a new belt to match his shoes.
He has joked about showing up in a leisure suit tho so you never know lol
Post # 11
He definitely has the final say, but I do want input (and he had input on my dress and styling, so it’s not a one-way street). We’ve looked at pretty much every other wedding thing together and come to an agreement, so this will be the same.
Post # 12
@Miss_E_xx: they’re going this weekend and I’m not allowed anywhere near the store haha. Oh well.
Post # 13
Yes. I wouldn’t want to be bothered to dress him when I already have to dress myself, but…
He wears a suit to work normally, and made a point to learn about men’s fashion so that he could make a good impression. I knew he was going to pick out something great. He chose a custom 3 piece suit. It’s light gray with a light blue shirt. It’s pretty cool, and he’s very excited about the suit.
Post # 14
FI’s current fashion sense is “good enough for lab” so I’ll definitely be helping him with his suit. He also has a hard time distinguishing between colors (black vs. dark navy, dark blue vs. dark purple, etc) so he acknowledges that he needs my help a bit, too. When I asked the other day if he had any thoughts about what he wanted to wear he said, “My grandfather’s cufflinks,” and I was like, “Well, yes, but what else???” So, yeah, he needs some help 🙂
Post # 15
@wisher558: I got to go with my FI to pick out suits but I had no say either. It was just nice at the end he gave me that look asking what I thought. I said you look fantabulous and that was it. Even if I would have said I didnt like it… he would have still boughten it anyways.
If you know he is good at it and knows the colors, you should have nothing to worry about. That is exciting for you to be surprised!
Post # 16
FI had input on my dress (vetoed my mom’s favorite due to eyelash lach bugging his OCD) and I have input on his suit. My entire side of the bridal party is guys (what can I say my closest friends are male) so we’re dressing my bridesmen to coordinate with his bestman and him. FI is the only one who will be wearing a full suit, but I found these sweet vests for the BM and my guys to wear. We ordered FI’s first to try it out (the sizing and fit are a bit weird) and it’s currently enroute from Korea. Once we get the vest we will work on finding a suit to match it.