- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
When DH’s older sister/bil and brother/sil got married (both in the last 5 years), MIL got them a bunch of Denby dishes and since their wedding, keeps giving them bits and pieces for Christmas, birthdays, etc..
She was weird about it though, it was a “surprise” for both, so they couldn’t register for the dishes and didn’t get to pick out the pattern.
When we got married, we didn’t register for dishes. I really, really wanted to but DH talked me out of it. MIL had taken me to The Bay and asked me which Denby pattern I like and when DH mentionned registering for dishes, SIL discouraged him. He assumed we would be getting a set as well.
Wedding came and went and we didn’t get them. They gave us $$ for the rehearsal dinner (which they gave to his brother as well, in addition to the dishes) and that was it.
My feelings were pretty hurt, as were DH’s. He feels embarassed too. And, I was pissed because I would have registered for the bloody things had I known!
I thought I would get over it, but it still really bugs me. It’s not that I am gift grabby, but it’s pretty blatant when you give the others their Denby teapots for their birthday’s and I get a random jewellery folder thing. But does she not like me as well as other SIL? Did I do something to offend her that I don’t know about?
(FWIW, to our knowledge, IL’s have no money troubles and they are uncomfortably open about money, so we would know! In fact, they announced paying off their mortgage 2 months before our wedding.)
Is this just something we have to get over? Or should DH say something about how hurt he is and see if there is a valid explanation that might make us feel better?