(Closed) would you/have you lived with future in-laws?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: did/do you like living with your in laws?
    it's hell : (57 votes)
    48 %
    it's ok for a limited time : (50 votes)
    42 %
    it's a great arrangement : (11 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @maymorganite: No, it sucks. My FIL’s are annoying…we both bounce between my house and his to save money for a home but seriously, I cant stand being over there. They are so loud/argumentative when they get into eachother I run upstairs to my FI’s room. 

    Post # 4
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    5548 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think we could live with MY parents because they are much less insane than his. FMIL is great, but FFIL has a temperment that would make Mother Teresa cuss. We would self distruct I think if FI had to live in the same house as his dad again. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would never. Visiting for a week is almost more than I can handle.

    Post # 7
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    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We lived with FH’s parents for about two months while the builder was finishing our house.  It wasn’t bad for a short time and his mom is a FABULOUS cook so that was a real bonus!

    Post # 8
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’ll have to. What am I gonna do? Dump them in an adult daycare? Umm no.

    Edit there are 2 types of “living with in-laws” what you’re discussing is “moving back home… with the in laws”

    What us older folk (albeit only 27) I’m talking about our parents are now looking at their kids (us) to take care of them. Physically, emotionally and financially. Essentially they’re moving into their kids’ place.

    Post # 9
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    2951 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I lived with my MIL for over a year while DH was deployed when we first got married. I love her though and since we worked opposite shifts we didnt see each other much so I think it was more tolerable to deal with lol 🙂
    I would do it again in a heartbeat if I had to!

    Post # 10
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted “it’s great for a limited time”. I love my future in-laws, and they’re always offering their nice finished basement or guest room upstairs to us if need be. I’ve stayed at their house a couple of times and gone on little weekend camping trips. So I haven’t stayed with them for a long time per se, but I think I could make it work for maybe a couple of months if we had to!

    Post # 11
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    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would rather stab myself in the eye repeatedly with a dull knife then ever in a gazillion years live with my future inlaws. I’m pretty sue FI feels the same way about his parents and mine.

    Post # 12
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    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Honesty, i would love to.  FI and I have imagined the possibility because of kids and med school coinciding.  maybe it wouldn’t be as great as it seems, but I think it would be pretty ok.

    Post # 13
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    395 posts
    Helper bee

    I might do this, kind of. But with my FBIL. SO lives on the West coast and I live on the East coast. Sometime between the proposal and the wedding I’ll be moving out there and there is a very good chance that I will stay with them while we figure out more permanent living arrangements (SO and I won’t live together until we’re married)

    Post # 14
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @WestieGirl: I’m with you, sister. No reason we can’t make it on our own without subjecting ourselves to that nonsense. Some people can do it with no problem, but it’s not for us.

    Post # 15
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    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I had to live with my FILs for 3 months WITHOUT FH. He was living with them while we were dating, and when he finished school I ended my lease and moved in (I was spending more time there than I was at my apartment anyway). He got a job almost 4 hours away (in Ottawa) shortly after I moved in and I still had 3 months left of my semester at school, so we got a place in Ottawa and he lived there on his own while I finished school.

    Living with just my parents in law would be fine. I get along with them great. Father in law made me dinner almost every night, and he made me feel completely at home and part of the family. It’s FSIL and FBIL that drove me nuts. Music blaring constantly when I was trying to study, teeniboppers screaming and running around upstairs. Ugh… It was awful. But we made it through and now live 4 hours away. Small doses I can handle lol.

    Post # 16
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I love my in-laws and was happy to stay there.  I’m not sure that I have quite the perspective that you are looking for since I have not stayed there for more then 3 months at a time, but I had no issues living there and had plenty of privacy, and yet was made to feel very much a part of the family.

    My husband is now going through this as well since we are living with my folks while we build our savings.  He gets along with my parents better then I do!  lol  I know part of it is that we are both truly blessed to have the parents (and in-laws!) that we do.

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