(Closed) Would your DH/FI mind if you didn’t wear your ring?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would your DH/FI be upset?
    Heck yes! : (87 votes)
    58 %
    No, he wouldn't even notice or at least doesn't care : (29 votes)
    19 %
    I would never go ringless so this doesn't apply to me : (28 votes)
    19 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I TOTALLY know what you mean. Some days I don’t feel like thinking about my rings–like making sure to take them off before I put on lotion, making sure to turn my e-ring around when I go on the train to not so good areas, etc. But my DH would also be really really upset and hurt if I didn’t wear them–pretty much for the same reasons that you listed.

    Post # 4
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    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @moderndaisy: He doesn’t care. I’ve forgotten it a couple times and he’s asked why I don’t have it on and when I tell him he just says okay. There’s also been days where I just don’t feel like wearing it (running errands, doing stuff with the dogs, going to be busy with my hands all day) and he never says anything. I think if I made it a habit and rarely wore it he’d be pretty offended though.

    Post # 5
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If I take my rings off and forget to put them on DH gets a little hurt. However he has only worn his ring a handful of time since we got married!

    Post # 6
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    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I haven’t worn my rings in over a year because I took them off when I was pregnant and still haven’t found them. 🙁 at first, my husband was kinda upset, but now I don’t think he even notices it. And he hasn’t replaced my ring yet, so I guess its not a big deal to him. I think he’s gotten used to me not wearing a wedding ring, so its a non-issue at this point (although I would really like a replacement ring at some point!)

    Post # 7
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @moderndaisy: My husband would NOT be happy at all.  We just happened to discuss this the other day.  I have a lovely diamond engagement ring, a 1.3 ct solitaire with a pave band and a matching wedding band.  I love my rings and and thrilled to wear them.

    BUT, my husband and I married in a JOP ceremony.  We haven’t yet married in the church because I’m an encore and I have an anullment that is being heard.  We plan to marry in the church once it is granted.

    So I’ve been considering maybe wearing only a plain gold band until we are married in the church.  Because we are Catholic, according to our religion, we really aren’t yet married.  So I feel a bit guilty about wearing my rings now.  And I figured it would only make our church wedding more special if I saved the rings to wear then. In the meantime, I figured I’d wear a plain white-gold band like his to symbolize that we are legally married….but it wouldn’t be the full wedding set.  It made sense to me.

    But to him?  Not so much.  He was totally, TOTALLY, against it.  And mind you, I didn’t even suggest going with NO ring at all, just with a plain gold band.  He still was worried that people would think he was financially unable or just too cheap to buy me nicer rings or that people would think we were fighting or going to divorce or that I didn’t like being married to him.  He was so against it that I just dropped the idea.  And he wasn’t mad…he just seemed so horrified…and hurt.  He really had just the saddest face.

    So I can’t even imagine how hurt and upset he’d be if I ever just didn’t wear my ring.  I’d not even try that.

    Post # 8
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I forget to put it on a lot lately 🙁 My fingers got fat all of the sudden lol.

    I know it bothers him so I’m trying to do better.

    Post # 9
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    2462 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    when we first got engaged, i tried to take my e-ring off at night to sleep and hubs looked like i had just taken away his puppy or something, so he would def be upset. that said, he actually doesn’t care now that we’re married if i don’t wear all my rings, so sometimes now i just wear my band.

    Post # 10
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    FI doesn’t care if I leave mine off for a day, but I don’t think he would be thrilled if I never wore it. 

    Post # 11
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    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I love my ring so much, but if it’s impractical to wear it, I don’t. I love it so much I don’t want it to get damaged or dirty!

    I always wear it otherwise though, and since I work behind a desk at a computer all day it isn’t often when I’m out that I need to take it off, it’s really only when I am at home doing dishes or gardening that I take it off. My FI understands and doesn’t mind at all.

    Post # 12
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The ring is a piece of metal. There are weekends when I’m stuck at home and never put it on. He doesn’t care. He does want me to wear it when we go out, but even if I don’t he doesn’t mind. 
    Even when we are childfree and have date night and go out drinking, he knows my bedtime routine when we get home (and I’m usually drunk) he’ll take my shoes off, put me in my pajama’s, and take my ring off to place it back in it’s box on my nightstand. He does that with every piece of jewlery that I have on. 

    Post # 13
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I have accidently forgotten to wear my rings & Hub def notices. He would not be comfortable w/ me being ringless & the feeling is mutual for him.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would personally never go ringless. I don’t think my husband would be comfortable with it either.

    Post # 15
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    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    He would definitely notice, and he would definitely be upset… most of the time.  The one exception to the rule is that, because I’m an actress and my character is unmarried (and my ring is waaaay too nice and modern for her anyway), he’s aware of and okay with the fact that once the show begins, I won’t be able to wear it on the weekends.  I will probably just leave my ring at home all weekend so it doesn’t get lost.

    Now, whether or not I will be okay with leaving my ring off is a completely different story…  I’m pretty sure I’m going to freak out and think it’s lost several times.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Miss Tattoo: that’s so sweet! hehe

    I usually only wear my wedding band these days. I love my e-ring to pieces but it’s a bit big and gets caught on everything, I don’t want to worry about it. But people ask me all the time why I’m not wearing it…. weird

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