- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Those of you who have been following my threads know about the nonsense that we went through with my husband’s godfather/uncle while we were planning our wedding… well, here we are 8 months into our marriage, and I’m amazed/floored to report that apparently HE’S STILL NOT OVER IT.
This weekend, he had a BBQ/Bruins’ Party at his house, and DH and I showed up first, helped out with getting the appetizers squared away, the house set up, etc. Other people started to arrive, and DH and I secured our spots on the couch to watch the Bruins’ playoff game that was starting.
I was manning the remote (muting the commercials that for whatever reason were 10x louder than the game), when during one muted commercial break, this random friend of the uncle’s (who I’ve met before, but only once or twice) turns to DH and me and says OUT OF NOWHERE, “You know, you guys really just should have let him bring a date to your wedding… I mean, that’s pretty ridiculous, it’s one day, you should have just let him have his fun, really? A ‘six month rule’??” and shook his head disapprovingly at us…
I was FLOORED. I looked at this guy, flabbergasted, and just said “Ummmm REALLY?? It’s been EIGHT MONTHS, I think it’s time that we all get over it and move on…” to which he responded “Well, I’m sure WE (insert air quotes) can get over it, but HE certainly won’t. Now at least he knows he has to be with someone at least six months if he’s ever going to be allowed to bring a date to anything you guys plan…”
Girls, I was SO angry. Honestly? I have NO CLUE where this “six month” rule came from either – we made it clear to everyone that if they were dating someone AT THE TIME WE ADDRESSED OUR INVITES (which was only 3 months in advance of our wedding), then they would get a +1. I don’t recall DH or I EVER saying that people had to be together at least six months to get a date, unless we were just saying that we had read that was a common “rule of thumb”??
But beyond not knowing where this guy (who is virtually a STRANGER to me) is getting his information, 1) so out of line for him to say ANYTHING to us at ALL. 2) Really? We’re REALLY having this conversation eight months later?
DH and I didn’t stay long after that… we live about a mile away from the uncle, so we had walked over – on the walk home, we both agreed that for this random guy to say something to us, it likely meant that this was a recent topic of conversation with the Uncle (and better than likely, DH’s sister who just got engaged a few weeks ago and was awful to us about our wedding planning). At least he’ll get to bring a date to her wedding…