WOW… Disturbing message — How would you respond to this?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Barbiestylez:  Well, do you want to give up your shift this weekend and have a day off or not? I wouldn’t read into it any more than that. You are working the door at a strip club, it should be no surprise that some of your coworkers are trainwrecks.

Post # 4
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, you can give her a shift if you need to get rid of one, or you could say no if you need the money.  I don’t really understand the conundrum here. 

She’s clearly going through a rough patch, and doesn’t need your judgment.  She’s reaching out for help to someone she thinks is a friend, even if you don’t consider her a friend to you.  Either give her a shift, or don’t, but stop judging.

 

Post # 5
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Barbiestylez:  Gulp! I feel grimy and yucky after reading that…

Post # 7
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh my!! This girl has some serious issues. I would definitely distance yourself from her. 100% do not give her your shifts or she will expect it in the future….and if she asks why? Tell her you just can’t financially do that right now. Technically, she is asking you for money by asking this of you and that money will support some pretty bad habits. Good luck!!

Post # 8
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

eh you can pretend you didn’t log on to FB and never saw her message.

Aren’t you doubtful that she ever was pregnant to begin with.  Seems like she is just after your job.  I’d ignore it I think.

Post # 9
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1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That’s a really sucky situation. I know you feel bad for her, that’s a pretty normal reaction. But personally I would not give her a shift because that just opens you up to it again in the future, and drags you into her life more. I would send a brief polite message like “I’m sorry you’re going through that. Unfortunately I need to work and can’t give up a shift this week. Hope you feel better soon.” As much as you want to be a nice person I would be afraid of anything that would get me closer to the situation and dragged into the drama.

Post # 11
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Barbiestylez:  Oh geez, what a nightmare! I’m sorry you are going through this!

Honestly, I wouldn’t give her your shift. I feel like it would only enable her to continue feeding her addictions, and it will drag you into a situation where she consistently comes to you when she is having issues.

I would just politely decline to give her your shifts, citing saving for the wedding or something, but give her your sympathies on the baby situation. I would keep it short and sweet.

Post # 13
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Barbiestylez:  Why don’t you say, I do not need a day off at this time, but I will be happy to call you in the future if I do need one off. 

Post # 16
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Barbiestylez:  I think all you have to do is say no, maybe next time and not worry about it. Do not feel obligated to get drawn into her shit.

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