Post # 1
As you may/may not already know, I’m currently a waiting bee 🙂 I’ve casually looked at venues online, and was shocked to find many expect a minimum # of guests! Some of my favorite venues expect 75-100 guests! This seemed like a lot to me. I have a small family (11 total…like, grand total!), and my SO only has about 20. I decided to quickly do up an excel sheet, and w/ our families, the (assumed) bridal party (and their +1s), and some of our friends (with +1s), I’m already up to 55! Of course I have not even asked my SO who else he would like to invite…these are really all the people who I KNOW would never miss our wedding. It looks like we could easily get up to the 75 guests, especially if we extend the invite to his extended family, and invite more friends/coworkers 🙂
I was shocked at how quickly the list grew when I actually counted them all up! Did any other bees experience this? 🙂
Post # 3
@kendra389: I think it happens to everyone, especially when you start adding in +1’s!
Post # 4
This post could be mine!
I also started adding up guests for venue searches, because I was imagining having MAX 40 guests. I came up with 70, without consulting SO. I never realised I am close to so many people! I always thought people who had weddings with more than 100 people were either celebrities or people who invited everyone they had ever met, hahaha.
Post # 5
@arathella: Right?! I was looking at well under 50 too…now with all of SO’s closest friends/coworkers (and respective +1’s), as well as all my friends and their +1’s…I just hit 84! I think I’ll stop adding because I’ve hit all the people I would like to invite 🙂 Of course, there will be many additions/subtractions when SO and I go through this list together (at some point in time…hopefully sooner rather than later =p ) but I would guess around 80 is our #! Double what I thought!
However, SO has recently mentioned having a small wedding…I could easily cut this list down to 40 -or even less!- if I had to, so we’ll see when the time comes 🙂 I was just worried I was lame and had no one to invite…and apparently I have plenty!!
Post # 6
Our original guest list was over 150 people! We had 80 FAMILY MEMBERS!
So we had to do a LOT of cutting to get down to the 45 people we invited!
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: oh wow, you had to cut down a lot!! Fortunately we only have about 30 family members!
Post # 8
Yes — they do add up fast, especially when everyone has an SO. We ended up with 30 invited after only anticipating inviting 20.
One thing to note, especially if it looks like you are going to have a smaller wedding: Don’t feel like you need to bulster your guest list to live up to many of the venues’ “required minimum guest count.” There are LOTS of places that will cater to smaller weddings, you just have to find them — they aren’t going to be the big, mainstream wedding factories.
Post # 9
Unfortunately yes. I wanted a small wedding-we are inviting 253. That is mostly family we are close to and maybe around 50 friends (plus ones and children included in that). So many people 🙁 I just counted them all utoday and I am so upset. Thankfully our venue is quite large.
Post # 10
Yeah, I know the feeling. I was adamant about a “small” wedding – but vendors all kind of gave us the same look when we mentioned our party of 60 people. Then we ended up falling in love with our venue with the minimum of 100. So we’re working on getting up there.
Post # 11
Yeah, we were dead set on a small wedding ourselves, but our list quickly grew from 50 to 100 to 150 to 200! Sighs. At least in the end we had about 150 show up. So I guess it’s not TOO TOO bad…
Post # 12
@kendra389: yes. my small wedding is at 342 guests, and I know there’s a few more last minute additons coming too.
Post # 14
@kendra389: I know right. that’s how I felt, but it will be worth it in the end. 🙂
Post # 15
I wanted around 100….guest list grew to 145. It adds up with all the +1s and all my parents friends, etc. We didn’t invite kids, which took the number down about 20. In the end we had 110 show up, which was perfect!