Post # 1
We got married on the 30th of November. It was a beautiful day- the ceremony was in the park and we had our reception at a convention centre right next to it. The reception venue asked if they could have their photographer present for both the ceremony and reception as they were wanting to update their “photo library” for prospective clients. We knew we were essentially being “gay poster children” as same-sex marriage isn’t legal in our state yet, but we were more than happy to have an additional (free!) photographer.
The venue put up an album a few days later on their facebook page with about 8 gorgeous photos of the day. I was just looking through it again, and I saw that a woman I don’t know wrote two comments on the album:
Then, a minute later:
“I dont want any suggested posts with gays thank you”
I was so shocked. We live in Sydney, in the year 2013 FFS.
I wrote back to her in a private message:
I’m one of the brides in the WatervieW album you commented on with “yukkk” on the 3rd of December.
Since you gave your uninvited input into my life (specifically, input into a day in my life that was filled with beauty and love from 150 of our friends and family) I thought I’d do the same for you-
I feel sad for you. I feel sad that your life is so lacking that you get something out of writing hateful comments about people who aren’t doing anything but expressing love. I hope you find whatever it is that is missing in your life so that you don’t feel the need to express your hate to other people. I really hope this for you. But if this isn’t possible, and you don’t find what you’re needing in life to be a less hateful person, I hope that you might find a way to keep your thoughts to yourself.
I’m still pretty sad and angry. Our day was beautiful and filled with love and I’m focusing on that, but I can’t believe people like her still exist. I’ve been fortunate to grow up with completely supportive friends and family, so to experience something like this is completely new to me. I’ll shake it off, but for now it just sucks a bit.
Post # 3
So sorry you are going through this!
I live in a very small area, and see this ALL the time. While I am not gay, I have friends who are, and seeing their daily struggle breaks my heart.. struggling to be who you are should not be a thing!
I think people need to wake up! Love is love, and there are much more pressing matters to attend to.
Post # 4
@crookedframe: some people are just ignorant. Try not to let it bother you. What’s important is you’re married to the love of your life now and you don’t need anyones approval (:
Post # 5
How disgusting of that person! If I were you I’d report her to Facebook as well, for posting hate-filled messages on a public album. I’d also ask the administrator of that almbum (your venue, I think?) to delete her comments as they don’t deserve to be noticed.
Your wedding day sounds wonderful and I’m so glad you were able to have the wedding you wanted even though your state (stupidly) hasn’t made it legal yet. You and your wife clearly know a lot more about love than this hater ever will, I agree with you that it’s sad.
Post # 6
@crookedframe: Ugh, people like that are so annoying. Why couldn’t she keep her ignorant mouth shut? I’m so sorry. Could you message the venue’s FB page and ask that those comments be taken down? They certainly aren’t doing the venue’s FB any favors either.
Post # 7
Thank you all for your very sweet comments. I really appreciate the support. I and a few others have reported her comments so hopefully they will be removed soon.
Post # 8
@crookedframe: How awful. I really don’t understand why anyone else gives a damn what other people do with their lives when it doesn’t even concern them.
I agree about contacting the venue and having them remove the nasty comments. I don’t see why they would have an issue with that.
Other than that, try and focus on the good stuff! Some people are just dicks who can’t mind their own business.
Post # 9
I’m really angry for you!
Any time I find out someone is homophobic or racist, I pretty much write them off as being idiots- studies show that people who are racist or homophobic generally have lower IQs than those of us who are not homophobic/racist. I’d say it has to do with the fact that they are allowing stereotypes and prejudices to dictate how they feel rather than thinking logically about it.
I read a really interesting quote the other day that sort of fits this situation- “Homosexuality is present in over 1500 species. Homophobia is only present in one.”
I’m sorry people are such assholes =/
Post # 10
Unfortunately, in this day and age, homophobics and people who generally dont believe in gay marriage will always feel they have the right to speak up and out about LGBT relationships. The only thing you can do is ingore the nasty comments and relish in the fact that you had an AMAZING day with amazing family and friends and married the woman of your dream. Screw the rest.
I’m pretty sure when my fiancee and I get married there will be negative comments which she is seriously worried about (ceremony is at a public site) but I am marrying the woman who has been the best partner I have ever had and THAT is my sole focus!
Post # 11
Perspective: You are in beautiful photos showing your beautiful wedding, surrounded by the love of beautiful people in your life.
she is home spewing poorly written rants on Facebook because her life sucks and she’s a waste of space.
Post # 12
@atacrossroads: +1. You definitely did win!
Post # 13
That really sucks 🙁 to be honest, gay, straight, or bi, some people just like being nasty. My brother runs a very popular weather website and he still gets hundreds of trolls (on something as mundane as the weather!). That said, I am really sorry you have to deal with that kind of bullying and prejudice, especially in this day and age. I thought your response was well written and to the point without being attacking, which is just perfect as it will really drive the point home! I honestly think some people just leave negative remarks like that for the attention and nothing else. Don’t let it bother you, your day was beautiful and your love with your partner is eternal, so what other people think doesn’t matter 🙂
Post # 14
@crookedframe: Sorry you’re dealing with someone like that, but I’m glad to see your venue is supporting and even promoting same sex marriage. Congrats on the beautiful day.
Post # 15
Good on you for calling this biggot out! That idiot is going to feel really dumb in 50 years for having been on the wrong side of history. Congrats on finding somebody who completes you, because that dumb bitch (excuse my language, people like this really russtle my jimmies) clearly hasn’t.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
People are bigoted idiots, and they’re the ones who are truly disgusting.