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TWW= Two week wait...time between ovulation and either a period or positive pregnancy test.
I know how you feel. When my husband and I decided to go off birth control, he was definitely in the camp of 'no big hurry, it'll happen when it happens' while I was immediately in the 'how can I make this happen as quick as possible' camp. It wasn't that I was that impatient to get pregnant (like if a magic crystal ball told me I would definitely get pregnant 6 months down the road, I would have been fine waiting) it was more like the longer it took, the more I had to worry that something is wrong. For me, there was no way to just be NTNT...I went from the pill to full on TTC.
ETA: NTNT- not trying not to. Basically, you're just going to play the odds. if it happens, it happens. But you're not going out of your way to predict when you're ovulating, or restricting hubby from wearing tight briefs or sitting in a hot tub or anything.
@egb - I couldn't have said it better myself. Wanted to be laid back etc about it but now I'm wondering about every little "symptom" during the TWW. Only month 2 for me : )
yes it is crazy in the TWW.. i am in it right now.. we have been TTC for 6 months and everymonth im like i hope nothing is wrong with us...
Tatum: "like if a magic crystal ball told me I would definitely get pregnant 6 months down the road, I would have been fine waiting"
I couldn't have said it better myself - haha!! It's the not knowing if something is wrong that just kills me.
I'm 36 so I'm no spring chicken, and I had a mirena IUD for a good 2 years before TTC. I had it removed in November, and originally we were going with the "not trying to prevent" (don't know about anyone else but I always cringe at the double negative of "not trying not too" - heh) but I am charting so I'm aware when ovulation happens, and that our timing has been good and yet.....nothing. And I know in the grand scheme of things - 4 cycles is NOTHING to get all worked up about. But I can't help worrying about whether these 4 cycles of nothing will eventually be 12 cycles of nothing or 24 cycles of nothing...blah.
I'm in the TWW again - but I have a ways to go before I can test. This time around - I told myself I will not OBSESS over every possible symptom. So far so good, but I have a good week and a half to go - hah!
Sitting in a hot tub? Is that good or bad? This is a new one to me :P
@Oneeleven: yep excessive heat is bad for the little swimmers
@egb: I totally feel you on this. I am in cycle#2 of TTC and I am half way through my TWW.
Yeah it sucks...I might have taken 2 pregnancy tests yesterday even though I know it is still way to early to test
DH and I were NTNT too, or so we thought until we ventured into our first TWW. At that point it became pretty clear we were going to officially try. I only went through 2 TWWs and they drove me crazy.
Baby dust to you and all the other ladies TTC/in their TWW! Send updates :)
We were the same way. Decided to NTNT, but then after the TWW and a BFN for month 1, i've become more concerned and probably more in the TTC camp. We're not charting or using OPKs, but it's on my mind every day (which is probably one of the reasons for NOT getting preg.) My husband was confused because i was upset with the BFN even though I know only few people get a BFP within month 1. I didn't have super high expectations, and I realized I felt silly for protecting and taking care of something that wasn't even there, (ie giving up wine, sushi, etc.) I had no idea how LONG two weeks could be!
@echo - you said it perfectly. I'm not upset that month 1 as a bust, but i'm worried that month 1 is the start of 12 or 24 months of negatives...
We weren't exactly NTNTC at first, we were just sloppy with protection. I had gone off BC a few months before, and we used condoms pretty faithfully up until the wedding, but after that it was more pull-out with no regard to what time of the month it was.
We didn't have an exact set timetable to start actually TTC, but we knew we didn't want to wait very long. What tipped us into actively TTC was my period being a week late in late November (we got married mid-Oct). We had been at his aunt's house for Thanksgiving, and the night we got back home he insisted we go buy a test. DH was convinced I was pregnant, and was SO excited at the store. Not that I wasn't, but I didn't want to get my hopes up. Unfortunately, it was just a fluke, but it definitely solidified wanting to start TTC in earnest. Still no dice, but since starting to chart and using OPKs I think we're narrowing down the sexy-time window. Fingers crossed for this month...I should shave my legs today ;)
And yes, the TWW is absolute torture...but tolerable knowing I *could* be pregnant. Kinda like when DH and I would buy lottery tickets when the jackpot got really high. Knew the chances of winning were slim to none, but it was worth the $5 or so dollars we'd spend on the tickets talking and daydreaming about what we'd do with the money. Of course, we have a much better chance of getting pregnant. I was really excited last cycle daydreaming about costumed birthday parties if I got pregnant (because my due date would have been on Halloween).
Anyway, sorry for the ramble.
@Mrs Sarah McK: "I should shave my legs today ;)"
That made me laugh! Thanks!
@Mrs Sarah McK: I agree that the TWW is actually better than the first 2 weeks of the cycle because at least you "could" be pregnant!
I'm on Day 26 of a typically 32 day cycle. It's #6 for me. I'm really working hard on not thinking about it and trying not to pay attention to "signs" and so far it's made this month calmer than the others. But that might also be because I don't really have any signs... : (.
Thought you TWW'ers would enjoy this.
I am half way through my TWW and we DTD last night. FI looked at me after with a big goofy smile on his face and asked "what the chances we get pregnant from our romp?" I had to break the news to him (yet again) that the baby makin' window is very short and it was impossible to get pregnant 8 DPO. He still doesn't get it.
Bless his heart. He wants a baby so bad. He keeps asking me "what are the odds of us getting lucky our second month of trying". (Like I know the answers). I have to remind him often that I'm new at this too, and I don't have a crystal ball.
@panterapeach: Heh, sounds like my DH. He honestly did not believe me when I told him how small the window actually is. I signed him up for the Fertility Friend online lessons so he'd believe me.
@Mrs Sarah McK: ohh that's a great idea. I think I need to sign him up so he understands it a little better. Because right now he is clueless. I don't blame him. If all I had to do was show up and have sex I would be pretty happy not knowing the rest of the details. 
My husband is equally clueless. An unfortunately, he happened to be paying attention during the high school health class lecture/scare when they were like, there is NO safe time to have sex, you CAN get pregnant having sex on your period, etc. So, now, when I explain about ovulation, he's all like, whatever.
@panterapeach: LOL omg DH always has something to say.. no matter how many times i try to tell him... hes like well you never know! um yes i do LOL its nearly impossible.. ahh they need to make a dad's guide for TTC
Well, my first TWW is officially over, AF showed up this morning. This is one thing I will definitely miss about the pill, I was able to predict years in advance when I'd have my period; and now it just shows up in the middle of the day, at work, the one day I don't have any tampons with me.
Well, I'll enjoy coffee and wine for a little while and we'll be ready for round 2!
@egb: best of luck next month.
My Aunt is expected to be here later this week and I am fully expecting her arrival. I have had zero pregnancy symptoms and I have been POAS constantly only to see BFNs.
I am doing my best to stay positive because:
1) this was only our second month TTC
2) I got a positive OPK this month. My doctor said that was really good to get a positive.
3) I get to drink wine in a few days.
@egb: Sorry to hear about AF arriving today. Best of luck to you next month!
@panterapeach: My husband is the same way! I'm on day 33 of a 30-40 day normal cycle for me (it keeps getting longer unfortunately), and my husband asked if we wanted to try last night. I told him that though I'd love to have a little fun, it wouldn't be considered a session of trying. He didn't quite understand why not even after I explained to to him. After 5 cycles, you'd think he'd start to catch on!
@Mrs Green Grass: I'm with you too - I'm officially in my TWW as well, and I have zero symptoms :o( I was hoping this was both of our months!
@egb - sorry to hear that - good luck next month! And enjoy the wine in the meanwhile!
@panterapeach and @2peasinapod - good luck!
@egb: Boo :( Best of luck for next month though!
@panterapeach: and 2peasinapod, Don't loose all hope yet! On my 2nd cycle I had absolutely no symptoms, didn't even feel PMS-y. I had super sensitive tests and still had a BFN a day after AF was supposed to be due (although I'm not sure my cycles are exact). Then the day following that, bam! there it was, our BFP.
Good luck to everyone :)
So ladies this morning, I happened to inspect a test I took yesterday and I noticed what could possibly be either, 1) a faint positive line or 2) a dent in the test strip or 3) a full blown hallucination.
So I took two tests just to confirm I am bat sh*t crazy. It was an evaporation line.
two BFNs first thing in the morning....awesome :(
I would like to say that I won’t pee on anymore sticks between now and Thursday when AF is supposed to get here but that would be a lie. I am addicted, I just have to know!
@panterapeach: let's make a pact not to test!! I did a second one last night because of ppl on the bee telling me too but the BFN put me in a bad mood for the rest of the night. I had to explain to DH why I was suddenly moody.
Well ladies, I've reached 11 DPO, and managed to keep from testing (so far)!
Probably because, like previous posters, I have had zero symptoms, other than slightly tender boobs for the past few days (but that's a pretty common PMS symtom for me so I'm not putting too much stock in that), and I just don't feel like this is our month.
My official test day is saturday (if AF doesn't find me by then). My birthday is actually on Monday, so I figure, if I get a BFP, then it will be a great birthday present, but if AF rears her ugly head, then at least I'll get to celebrate my birthday with a nice big glass of wine :)
Good luck to all!!
panterapeach; big fat BOOOOOO to evaps :( How disappointing that must have been. But don't give up hope yet - you're not out until AF shows!!
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It's only my first month off the pill, and I know it's not likely to happen this soon... I kept reading here about ladies that dreaded the TWW and never understood why. I guess there are things you can only understand once you go through them yourself!
I always wanted to relax and have fun, fall under the NTNTC category; however, I think I'm quickly sliding in the TTC camp instead. I think about it all the time, especially now that my period is approaching and I'm wondering if I'll get it or not!