- 5 years ago
So It’s been about 72 hours since We moved into my FMILs house.
The first day was fine. I took care of all the animals and cleaned the house and did all the dishes and started unpacking somethings. The second day I woke up with a migraine. So I stayed in bed until SO came home, and he kept insisting I come out into the living room and “hang out” with him and his mother. I did. No one talked to me, except to make comments about what show was on TV. Not a single thank you for cleaning the house or making dinner. Nothing.
I have PMDD, so my periods are just extra horribly painfull and emotionally taxing. I started my period today. I did a few things around the house and went back to bed when it started hurting too much.
Well. That was apparently the most horrible thing I could ever do in this family. SO came home for whatever he was doing (he didnt work today) woke me up and proceeded to tell me how much of a lazy useless person I was being since I moved in here. You know, because he was working so hard to unpack anything or clean or take a shower….yeah he sat on his ass watching tv all day.
“Well if you’re going to be a stay at home wife, you need to fucking get off your lazy ass and do something everyday. And btw, the college courses you wanted to take instead of working we found a place where you can take the same classes for free online but no it isnt accredited by the bar association or anything but why pay money for something like that? And My mom is going to teach you how to drive, instead of you paying for your drivers ed course and getting a garentee to have a license by the end of it or getting a discount on insurence. Why do that when we can do it for free. I really don’t think your anxiety issues are all that important, no one in my family takes pills to fix themselves. I’m really starting to rethink our relationship now after talking to my mom.”
Um what? For one thing, FMIL takes medication for her depression. All three of SO’s brothers are aderall addicts. No one in this family except SO went to college for anything. I really doubt your Mother understands why it’s important to go to a school THATS FUCKING ACCREDITED (paralegal classes for me).
No I don’t want your mother to teach me anything. By the way she’s acting now she’ll just hold it over my head for the rest of her life. I’d rather have a state certified instructor thank you.
And what the fuck are you rethinking in our relationship AFTER THREE FUCKING DAYS. He NEVER said anything like this to me before we moved in here. Nothing like this ever came up. He never blamed my anxiety issues on me or told me I had to “fix meself with out pills”.
This has all just come out of left feiled and I really don’t know what to do. I mean seriously. Like…what the fuck did she do to my SO? He was perfctly loving and understanding about my issues and everything was fine. He never brought up any of these “concerns” before today.
I am in total shock and have no Idea what the fuck I did to these people.
ETA, I meant to put this in “Family” not “Favors”. Idk, my bad Mods.