Post # 1
So I made a Facebook group (private) to get my friends’ addresses, as our moms are working on getting the family addresses. I don’t know what happened, but apparently even private facebook groups show up in people’s newsfeed/in their groups section?
Now I have two people “inviting” themselves to the group, and apparently, trying to invite themselves to the wedding–the group info just states that I need their addresses, that’s it!
What do I say to them/do I say anything? They’re people I went to high school with and have not seen for four years, at least, let alone talked to them… Grr!
Post # 3
Oh yes, it happens. I had somebody on facebook message me to ask if i wanted him to come so he could introduce the “gang from high school” to his new gf. Granted, we never hung out in hs. Weird.
So they just gave you their addresses? When they weren’t included on the original private message? Just ignore it, haha.
Post # 4
first, ignore/block their requests and then tell them you are having a small-ish wedding. immediately make sure your privacy settings are set to block everything. i cannot be searched and my news feeds are only displayed for ‘friends’.
Post # 5
Well, they are facebook friends of mine and my FI, and he is also an admin of the group, so they’ll see it regardless. They weren’t close at all with me in HS and in fact, I don’t really like either of them–they’re both very immature and looking for a party, which is why I think they’re trying to invite themselves. It’s just so weird. I did try to make the group more private, I guess the next step is messaging them. The thing is, I’m pretty sure they can see that like 30 or so people they know are coming to the wedding… so saying we’re keeping it “small” doesn’t really fly, you know?
Post # 6
Facebook is notoriously dangerous when it comes to weddings and uninvited guests. I’d say that was your first mistake. I’d can the Facebook group altogether and just use email from now on.
Post # 7
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Maybe you can erase the group( IDK if that’s possible) and use Google forms to get their info (it’s sooo helpful)
Facebook and weddings are not friends 🙁
Post # 8
Maybe they just joined thinking they were giving you their addresses, so you could keep in touch!!
Not likely, but you never know.
Post # 9
This is one of the reasons I find FB so lame… it makes people really think that they’re “friends” when in reality they’re pretty much strangers & haven’t talked in the last 5 (10,15) years!
I wouldn’t worry about it, especially since you said you don’t even really like them! Just ignore their request and maybe delete the group so you don’t have to worry about anyone else inviting themselves to your wedding lol 🙂
Post # 10
I believe you can make a facebook group “invisible” so that nothing about it will show up on anyone’s pages. Not only will it be private, but no one except the members will know it exists.
Post # 11
Yeah, the only thing people can see about my wedding on Facebook is my “engaged” status. When people write on my wall “When is the wedding” I just tell them the month, they’re usually okay with that. I don’t want to offend anyone who’s not invited and I want to keep things private. I know people will post pictures of our wedding, that’s fine.