Wow your so young to be getting married

posted 1 year ago in 20 Something
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Sugar bee

I always get told that I’m too young to be engaged. I got engaged at 21 and I’m 23 now. FI and I are both waiting until we’re done with school to get married. 

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Bumble bee

Isn’t it funny how love and the future isn’t sitting like a fine wine waiting for the right year to be uncorked?

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Worker bee

seriously, who cares? people may be saying this out of genuine concern or just nastiness. haters gonna hate. the best you can do is show everyone what’s what by having a wonderful marriage. then 25 years down the line you can laugh about it. then again you probably won’t care what people said by then. :)

also, maybe she feels she was too young when she had her child? don’t judge someone because they’re a single mom. 

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Helper bee

I constantly got “You’re not pregnant, are you?” when we first got engaged (I was 19). It never really bugged me. I found it pretty amusing actually. I’ll be 22 next year when we get married which is the age my Mum married my Dad and they are still very happily married. 20s are definitely not too young.

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Buzzing bee

maybe they are just sour that they are older and havnt found their soul mate / didnt find their partner until later in life

I get ‘daddy must be paying for it’ drives me wild

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Helper bee

I’m 22, got engaged just before I turned 21 and will be married (maybe) at 23. I get the ‘you’re too young to be engaged’ story ALL the time. Realistically it is a young age to be married at, but if your happy, then don’t worry about what some rude people say.

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Bumble Beekeeper

I get that sometimes but only because I look young. I’m 28, people think I’m 19 :(

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Busy bee

I get it all the time. I am 23, will be 24 when I marry but unfortunately I look 18… That definitely has something to do with it so I guess I can’t really blame people

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Bee Keeper

@jennifer89:  I’m 22, and we are married and TTC. I get comments like this alllll thheeee tiiiiime. It drives me crazy! “You’re too young to have a baby!”

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Bee Keeper

Sometimes people are perceived as younger or older than they feel based on their overall behavior, dress, etc. If you want to be seen as mature enough to get married, definitely make sure you give an impression of maturity in general. Some people may still judge based simply on your calendar age, but they should be far fewer.

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Blushing bee

@jennifer89:  I was 23 when I got married and I heard the same things! It really is rude and annoying, people need to keep their opinions to themselves! I still get weird comments sometimes when I refer to my husband. People will be like, “you’re married? you looks so young..how old are you?” You just have to shrug it off. 

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Helper bee

I was 23 when I got married as well. I still get that shocked face when I say I’m married. Specially because I’m in college still (grad student tho). I ocassionally go to happy hour or a party and people are like you’re married???? YES I am, and very happy. People will talk regardless. If you’re young, you’re too young. If you’re older, you waited too long. If you don’t have kids, why don’t you have kids? if you have them? When are you having another one? Only children are lonely. Agggh, you will never please them! 

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Buzzing bee

oh yeeeah I totally get this as well!

I’m 25… my guy is 25… we’ve been together since we were 18!

I thought waiting til we were 25 would allow us to skip this whole stigma but NOPE, WRONG-O… still “too young”… lol

My mom was 21 when she married by 22 year old father… psh! go figure!

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Busy bee

I haven’t gotten any of these comments and I am 23, but I am from the South and getting married young is alittle more usual around here.

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